Hi TF08060728,
First of all, a huge well done on your offer to study Geography at UCL!
I'm sorry to read that you're having such issues with your family and that your dad cannot be whole-heartedly happy for your success. How does your mom react to all this?
I'm not from an Asian background but I can resonate with the pain it can cause when the ones closest to you cannot be happy for your successes and want to exercise their own will on you.
As the other commenters said (many of whom can resonate more with your struggles as they are from Asian backgrounds as well), what you can do is give them time to accept your decision. You can appreciate your father's point of view without giving in to what he wants you to do.
You know that you have thought your decision through, and well done for already looking at the career/MSc prospects relating to your course. You can only do and explain so much to your dad, the rest is up to him and how he wants the relationship of you two to unfold.
I'm not sure how far you're based from the uni, but it could also be an option to move to student accommodation, if the pressures at home feel to much - it can also give time and space for your parents to re-evaluate their attitude towards you and your decision. They do sound like loving parents that are capable of this, and they might end up respecting you more with time if you stand your ground. I know it is very frustrating at the moment, but as others also said, it is you who has to live your life, and doing what makes you happy will make a loving parent happy as well, or at least that's how it should be.
Hopefully, as your parents see how you excel in your uni career (about which I've got no doubt 😉 ), they'll probably come to terms with how things have turned out and even see that this is for the better.
Please let us know how you get on if you feel like it of course, I hope I'd managed to say some words you find reassuring.
Viki
Student Ambassador
3rd year Psychology and Sociology Student