Our parents don't let us sleep in the same room together

SLIGHT difference: he was 18, you're 16.

I'm nearly 22 and my boyfriend of nearly 2 years doesnt sleep in my room either. It'd be pretty ******* weird to be fair.

Their house, their rules.

she said hes 18 NOW, but he was allowed to sleep in the same bed as his gf when he was her age (16)

have a word with them about your brother im sure they will have their reasons, its sad to say girls tend to get treated different than boys, there were twins in my year for instance one boy one girl, obv the same age, the boy could stay out all night do what he wanted and the girl had to be home at 10/11, its sad but girls are seen as more vulnerable. I dont know if you can change their views, but its probably worth more talking to them and saying you feel its unfair after your brother got treated differently. My mum was strict like your parents but let me stay in my room with my bf when i was 16 (nearly 17) but simply because she liked him and trusted him, perhaps this is an issue your parents may have?

yeah, its pretty much prejudice, but seen as being prejudice thats Okay.

but nahh my parents definitely like my boyfriends, they talk about him so much sometimes I think THEY should be the ones going out with him

In my opinion, your parents are being foolish, and unless you're extremely immature, they're completely unjustified.

There's plenty of time for boyfriend bed-sharing when you're older. But right now, you've only just reached the age of consent ffs.

Then I think you should be asking THEM why they dont allow you, and not us! I agree its not fair that your brother had different rules, but as others have pointed out, he is a boy! And he can't screw his life up by getting himself pregnant now can he? Even though if he got a girl pregnant he would have some pretty serious consequences himself...but I don't know what your parents' logic is! Ask them!!!

Err, what?

So now not only do you have to reach the age of consent, you also have to surpass it by a considerable amount before people like you will accept that it's not wrong? Why do we even have the age of consent if, once you reach it, there's still a stigma attached?

This is a complete load of nonsense. And can I just point out that there is no age of consent for sleeping in the same bed together, there is only an age of consent for having sex, so I don't even know why the age of consent is relevant to the discussion.

No. Just, no.

no wonder UK has really high teenage pregnancy rate!

Why not? I made two statements in that post, and both of them are correct:

I said her parents were foolish. Why is this true? Because sex isn't some mad practice that can only occur in bedrooms. If you think that not allowing your child to share a bed with their partner is going to stop them from having sex, then you are very foolish indeed. Sex is a natural thing, it's an urge people get for people they are attracted to, and it certainly isn't confined to the bedrooms of the people involved. As soon as the parents backs are turned, as soon as the parents go on holiday, as soon as the parents go out shopping, as soon as they find a love shack, they're going to do it. So are the parents foolish for imposing these demands? Yes. Because their demand, A, does not stop action B from occurring, so it makes no sense to impose it.

I also said her parents are unjustified unless she is extremely immature. Why is this true? Because, if she's mature, then there's no difference between her and a 25 year old, mentally nor physically. So why should they deem it inappropriate?

Now, yes, it is natural for parents to be protective of their children. But is it rational and justified? That's a different question altogether, and in this case, the answer is no.

I'm not saying that them sleeping in the same bed, having sex, whatever would be wrong. I'm saying that her parents are perfectly within their rights to enforce rules. I've heard of some parents being ALOT stricter! No boyfriends in the house, no boyfriends in bedrooms during the day with the door shut, no boyfriends at all! The OP is lucky compared to some people! As I said, when I was 16, my boyfriend wasn't allowed to stay past 7pm, let alone stay over! And I agree its not fair, but she IS only 16. People older than that aren't allowed to have their boyfriends stay in the same room either. I wasn't when I was 18/19, my friend still isn't and she's approaching 21! I think the OP (and you) need to get over it and respect parents' rules in parents' house, cos its not really the end of the world, and unfortunately there ain't nuthin you can do about it until you move about

well if they think they are sheltering you personally, especially if you want to go to uni i think they should let you start being independant, my cousin was very sheltered and not allowed boys in her room etc and when she went to uni she made loads of mistakes and got in so much trouble and many compromising situations because she just had not built up sense and independance