Been with gf two years. She was single at the time but had been seeing someone in an 'open relationship' for three years, they met up once a week but only had sex every few months. He was also cheating on someone at the time and sounds like a complete prat.
When we got together she said she didn't want a relationship and just wanted an open one, I said nothing more would happen until she ended it with him, which she did "indefinitely".
Anyway to cut a long story short, they continued to meet up as friends occasionally and she didn't tell me whenever they did because it caused an argument. I saw an email once on her computer that she sent him which was along the lines of "hey gorgeous, sorry i couldn't meet up, i'm being pulled in two directions, i really depend on you bla bla". Understandably I flipped when I saw this and I made no effort to contact her for a while at all. She defended it all saying she uses those kind of words for all her friends and she was "stroking his ego" because she felt bad for ending it.
I hate this guy and don't like the way he speaks to her - his messages back were things like "chat to you later sexy" etc etc and it really annoyed me.
We worked things out and she agreed not to speak to him like that anymore. A few weeks ago we were out and drinking and she said it would be really cool if I met him (she later denies saying this but she did). This started another argument and she said why do I hate him so much etc etc. She always says she loves me but wants to stay friends with him. She said she hasn't seen him since June which is great if that's true. The next day we chatted about it again and she said she wishes that had all never happened but if it wasn't for him she wouldn't be as confident as she is now and he really helped her bla bla.
When she asked me to send a text off her phone yesterday I noticed that this man is now saved as 'Belief' in her phonebook which freaked me out. Obviously I can't ask her about it or it will start another argument as I looked at her phone. I just want her to cut ties with this cheat.
Thoughts? Am I reading too much into this? Thanks