Attractive girl but with no friends

Do you smell by any chance? Knew some guy in primary school who used to stink of piss, needless to say that everyone moved away from him. But the teacher used to force us to sit next to him.

I didn't understand the problem till I'd left, but I knew I was doing something wrong. I spent most of my teenage years worrying about my lack of social life and trying to change my personality and replace the shyness with a veneer of confidence.

It kind of worked, as well, but it was a slog and a lot of self-hatred/depression/relationship issues remain.

Sorry, not very helpful I suppose worry and self-hatred are a part of teenage life for everyone, so maybe I'm being melodramatic.

Post a picture. I bet you're ugly.

You remind me of this girl I sort of know. She's tall, blonde, Swedish and gorgeous. She also used to be incredibly intimidating because she never seemed to want to talk to anyone, yet was friends with all the guys. Turned out she was just shy and not very good at making conversation but responded well to the guys obviously because they all flirted with her or were super nice to her all the time. I ended up being in a group with her for something at school and realized she was the complete opposite of what I had previously thought (that being bitchy, cold cow).

Obviously it's wrong and unfair to just make assumptions of people, but it's all based on what we're presented with. You just need to show people that you're nicer than they think, I guess. Say hi to them when you see them, or smile, or make simple observations every once in a while like "I like your top/hair/bracelet/whatever". As long as they sound sincere, compliments can go a long way in changing someone's opinion of you. Talk to some of the quieter people, you know just be nice. Not too nice though, that's just annoying.

Lol, i can actually tell why you have no friends. you annoy me a lot, say you're good looking and then dont post a picture up? maybe you just have a crap personality.

She's already been told that she's pretty. Can't you just take what she said at face value and giver her constructive advice anyway? What reason do you have to think that she's lying/some deluded idiot that think she's attractive?

OK. Not helpful but yeah. You make it sound as if I think I'm the fittest girl ever, I really don't. Doesn't mean I can't realise whether I'm decent looking or not.

LOL all the advice on this thread is USELESS!

Why self hatred? Nothing wrong with being quiet it's just annoying when people don't see past it.

That is the impression you have given me with your posts.

"Nobody likes me because I am so attractive, they're all jealous and spiteful."

Intentional or not, that is the message I got.

I just wondered if anyone else is in a similar position as me.

I've never been one of the popular girls and I didn't become 'attractive' (in my opinion) until I was about 16/17. I've always had friends but these days they are few and far between apart from a couple of really good friends that I have had since I was about 13.

I find it hard to make friends. I'm quite quiet, not really shy just don't talk that much. I find I get along a lot easier with guys than girls, though I would quite like some female friends. Problem is, most of the girls I know are either very bitchy and extremely concerned about self-image etc or they just don't want to know me. I've been told by one girl who I got to know while we were both wasted that she used to see me as quite intimidating before she got to know me because I didn't say much and was so 'pretty'. This made me quite sad as I get the feeling I must project this image of being stuck up or something when I am not.

I feel as though if I were average looking I would have more friends because girls either have that weird bitchy thing where they hate other girls who are pretty (even though they are gorgeous themselves) or they see me as cold/un interested and as though I think I'm better than them or something.

How can I stop projecting this image? I'm not arrogant or stuck up, I'm just quiet, but I do want to get to know people!

I'm sure I will get some abuse for calling myself attractive because having decent self esteem clearly means I am a cocky bitch who thinks she is god's gift.. oh well

Anyway thanks in advance to helpful answers.

I really don't get the whole 'I'm too pretty to make friends' thing and I HATE GIRLS WHO SAY 'girls are too bitchy for me to make friends with' ¬_¬

Surely it's your personality, in my college the prettiest girls had the most friends thats generally how it is around me, pretty people are more popular.

NOONE is so drop dead gorgeous that it prevents them making friends :/ go on the prettiests girls from
my colleges facebooks they're the one's with the most active social lives and going out every weekend with their friends. If so supermodels and attractive people would not have freinds!!!

I don't get how some girls find it so hard to make female friends also, can someone explain that to me ? It's not hard.

I make female friends everywhere I go, school, work, parties events.

I have found when I look prettier I attract MORE GIRLS!

Not to toot my own horn but during sixth form I was very popular and have found I have mastered making friends with girls, I'm not joking either, you have to understand your fellow females and know what they like, observe the type of person they are and try and find stuff in common.

Typical girl scenario :

'I love your dress' 'Your make up is so nice' 'Your hair is stunning' then you say 'Thanks so is yours where is ....from?' then she replies, then you say 'you have to show me there' then she says 'have you got twitter / facebook/bbm'. Add her and so it all starts.

Clothes,makeup, hair, music, boys, family all these things have been AMAZING conversation staters for talking to girls.

Seriously. I have made SOO many female friends over the years like this, I have friends in every country that I have visited all over the world by simply doing this. They are lifelong friends too, my friends that I met in the toilet in a New York party, host me every summer in their home and have done so for the past 2 years. They are like my family.


I'm not saying I don't believe you OP but in my life experience the better I look the more girls I attract. The more friendly I am the more people speak to me, the more smiley I am the more people smile with me

You sound too 'me , me , me' 'I'm too pretty to make friends' I'm so shy' blah blah.

Maybe step out of the box and notice OTHERS rather than you you you .


Girls like people who make them feel special, friends included. I and my friends go out of our way to make the other feel special and loved , this is the key to female friendships, boosting their confidence, supporting them, caring for them, having fun together, being 'real' with them even when it hurts because you care.

Are you showing this to other girls ?

People like happy friendly caring people who will be 'fun' to be around.

I seriously don't think being 'pretty' has anything to do with your failure to make friends, much more to it than that

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Hmm you didn't understand me quite right. I wasn't saying 'Oh gosh I am just so pretty all the other girls are jealous of me and don't want to be my friend'

What I am saying is that because I am attractive but also quiet I seem to come across as a snob/stuck up/arrogant.

Personally I find it difficult to make friends with girls because things like "Clothes,makeup, hair, boys etc" are boring to me and I feel fake trying to make a conversation about these things because I don't care all that much. I have complimented girls on their clothes etc but again I feel fake saying it unless I really mean it and generally it will only occur to me to compliment them if something about them is really cool, otherwise I am not interested in their clothes/make up.

I'm not 'me me me' at all, I'm a good listener and tbh don't like talking about myself.

Thanks for replying though, some of it was helpful.

I used to have similar problems. Sometimes people would act all shy around me, especially girls. Or guys would get super passive aggressive. I know how you feel. Best advice I can give is to do things you love so that you give off positive vibes and you'll meet people that way.

You're not arrogant. You're a cocky bitch who thinks she's god's gift. I like that.

Well those are the things girls like, lol, the majority of us.

Can you tell me what you do enjoy talking about ?

Maybe you are one of those girls who are more suited to male friends?

I just wondered if anyone else is in a similar position as me.

I've never been one of the popular girls and I didn't become 'attractive' (in my opinion) until I was about 16/17. I've always had friends but these days they are few and far between apart from a couple of really good friends that I have had since I was about 13.

I find it hard to make friends. I'm quite quiet, not really shy just don't talk that much. I find I get along a lot easier with guys than girls, though I would quite like some female friends. Problem is, most of the girls I know are either very bitchy and extremely concerned about self-image etc or they just don't want to know me. I've been told by one girl who I got to know while we were both wasted that she used to see me as quite intimidating before she got to know me because I didn't say much and was so 'pretty'. This made me quite sad as I get the feeling I must project this image of being stuck up or something when I am not.

I feel as though if I were average looking I would have more friends because girls either have that weird bitchy thing where they hate other girls who are pretty (even though they are gorgeous themselves) or they see me as cold/un interested and as though I think I'm better than them or something.

How can I stop projecting this image? I'm not arrogant or stuck up, I'm just quiet, but I do want to get to know people!

I'm sure I will get some abuse for calling myself attractive because having decent self esteem clearly means I am a cocky bitch who thinks she is god's gift.. oh well

Anyway thanks in advance to helpful answers.

I find I get along a lot easier with guys than girls.