I mean I dislike the virgin and slut shaming. It's horrible for a virgin guy to feel judged by women, that they find him weak, a loser, undesirable, a joke etc. Guys can have quite a hard time feeling virgin shamed tbh. Also I think virgin shaming, and simply discrediting importance of sex or virginity, touting a very pro-casual view of sex online, whilst I am in favour of everyone having their own feelings, interpretations, opinions, I feel this is a bit misguided as many younger people use the internet also. You have 12 year old uber feminists these days with really strong opinions.. and they arent as good at distinguishing what someone may write online, with exaggerations, from real life. I feel this is part of a problem which pressures people into doing sexual things too young, and aids sexual predators who may ask young people online to do sexual things with them.
On the other hand I dislike slut shaming as well, no one should be made to feel worthless because they have had multiple sex partners. No one should be made to feel they have to save themselves if it's not what they personally agree with or want to do.
There is no problem if 50% of guys dont want to be with you because you're not a virgin and 50% want to be with someone who has had sex with other people. Sure it's not nice if 10 guys in a row turn you down for that.. but you look for people where you can both offer each other what you want. Same as how for a 25 year old virgin guy on dating sites it'd be horrible feeling judged and turned down by 10 women in a row because they find it sad and pathetic he's a virgin. It's not nice. But there are also women out there who'd love him for it and find it desirable.
I think we shouldnt shame or judge each other, we can all have our personal interpretation of sex, our own wants, needs desires. We can all try to find what we want the most. For me yes I would have loved to have lost my virginity to my soul mate who was also a virgin, grow up together with her and marry her, we'd have done and shared everything together. I dont feel like I should be criticised for that, and likewise I wouldnt criticise a woman who really really wants to be a porn star and really enjoys it either. If people are happy then that's good.