Mine sound very similar. I have sort of dark golden blonde hair (with hints of chestnut/red mixed in) and dark, thick, course brows. I plucked them to death for about two years before letting them grow out when I hit about fifteen as they just grew back ridiculously quickly. It's near impossible to find product in my exact colour due to the fact my hair is almost half way between blonde and brunette so I generally just go for lighter brunette tones when looking for eyebrow products. I use a spoolie brush (like a mascara wand) to shape them and this really tidies them a lot. I also use a wax/gel thing to keep them in place after filling them in and this seems to prevent flyaways. My foundation/concealer generally hides any other stray hairs.
Also because mine are quite wiry/course I use a little bit of Vaseline to soften them before I go to bed. This works a treat and I swear by it. It's like eyebrow conditioner! Just run it in in a circular motion and it should soften them a little. I only pluck stray hairs (to prevent a monobrow lol) nowadays seeing as thick, bushy brows are ~sooooo in~ nowadays