Should I date this guy after seeing his facebook
(I'm a girl btw, 20 years old, he is about 25 I don't know officially)
*So I work in retail and this guy saw me from just outside the door where I apparently caught his attention. He came in with his friend and started chatting to me and flirting with me (complimenting me and asking if I was single). I flirted with him too because he was quite attractive.
He sounded foreign and he told me he was from Albania. He asked for my number and i said no and told him to come in next time, buy something and then I might give my number.*
Anyway he came back the other day and wouldn't leave until I have my number. He wasn't overly pushy but he did ask me to just write it down, so I did.
This was yesterday and since then we have been texted pretty much constantly. He is so flirty and asked me to send a photo which I did. His English isn't brilliant but I can understand most of what he writes. He asked me this morning if I could meet up with him on Saturday evening (this coming Saturday) and I said yes because I was interested in actually meeting him outside of work.
Anyway just now I looked him up on Facebook using his first name only (it's quite unusual) and from looking at his profile (although as I am not friends on Facebook I didn't have full access but could see quite a number of photos etc) I am not sure I want to meet him.
There were several photos of guns some fully formed and some with all the parts taken out. They looked like real guns with bullets but I'm not sure.
There were a lot of sexual posts, not of him but of girls giving oral and guys eating a girl out.
There were lots of girls in their underwear posing around a motorbike.
He posted a photo of some text and it said something like "I'm crazy but I don't give a f***" and I'm not that kind of person I swear obviously but it's vulgar putting photos like that on your profile.*
There are just so many cover photos of women in their underwear and I feel like he probably sleeps with so many people (I'm a Virgin btw) and I don't really want to be with someone like that.*
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*Most of his cover photos were of scenery like beaches etc and his profile picture is so hot it's of him in the sea and my God is he ripped. (You can tell he works out, he told me and there are videos on his profile). So it's not all bad..
But there are a lot of inappropriate posts that none of my Facebook friends would dare have on their profiles. I don't know wheather it's because he is from a completely different country and that is considered normal or what.. There is one photo combining oral sex with use of guns.*
Furthermore on his details it says "professional skills: pornography" I know that's a joke but still.
*
*I don't want to come across as a prude or anything but I don't really feel comfortable going out with someone who is like this. *
Do you think I am over reacting?
*
*So I work in retail and this guy saw me from just outside the door where I apparently caught his attention. He came in with his friend and started chatting to me and flirting with me (complimenting me and asking if I was single). I flirted with him too because he was quite attractive.
He sounded foreign and he told me he was from Albania. He asked for my number and i said no and told him to come in next time, buy something and then I might give my number.*
Anyway he came back the other day and wouldn't leave until I have my number. He wasn't overly pushy but he did ask me to just write it down, so I did.
This was yesterday and since then we have been texted pretty much constantly. He is so flirty and asked me to send a photo which I did. His English isn't brilliant but I can understand most of what he writes. He asked me this morning if I could meet up with him on Saturday evening (this coming Saturday) and I said yes because I was interested in actually meeting him outside of work.
Anyway just now I looked him up on Facebook using his first name only (it's quite unusual) and from looking at his profile (although as I am not friends on Facebook I didn't have full access but could see quite a number of photos etc) I am not sure I want to meet him.
There were several photos of guns some fully formed and some with all the parts taken out. They looked like real guns with bullets but I'm not sure.
There were a lot of sexual posts, not of him but of girls giving oral and guys eating a girl out.
There were lots of girls in their underwear posing around a motorbike.
He posted a photo of some text and it said something like "I'm crazy but I don't give a f***" and I'm not that kind of person I swear obviously but it's vulgar putting photos like that on your profile.*
There are just so many cover photos of women in their underwear and I feel like he probably sleeps with so many people (I'm a Virgin btw) and I don't really want to be with someone like that.*
****
*Most of his cover photos were of scenery like beaches etc and his profile picture is so hot it's of him in the sea and my God is he ripped. (You can tell he works out, he told me and there are videos on his profile). So it's not all bad..
But there are a lot of inappropriate posts that none of my Facebook friends would dare have on their profiles. I don't know wheather it's because he is from a completely different country and that is considered normal or what.. There is one photo combining oral sex with use of guns.*
Furthermore on his details it says "professional skills: pornography" I know that's a joke but still.
*
*I don't want to come across as a prude or anything but I don't really feel comfortable going out with someone who is like this. *
Do you think I am over reacting?
*
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Go on the date to see what he's like and get a feel for things, otherwise believe me you'll always be thinking what if. Then on the date casually bring up Facebook and ask him if he has it. Make sure he sees you add him there in front of him and make a joke/ comment or something about his profile and see his reaction
Original post by Pinkberry_y
Go on the date to see what he's like and get a feel for things, otherwise believe me you'll always be thinking what if. Then on the date casually bring up Facebook and ask him if he has it. Make sure he sees you add him there in front of him and make a joke/ comment or something about his profile and see his reaction
yeah I would love to see his reaction but other than for that the date will be a waste of my time. He is the exact opposite of what I want. Hmm why is it so hard to find decent guys..!
Original post by Anonymous
yeah I would love to see his reaction but other than for that the date will be a waste of my time. He is the exact opposite of what I want. Hmm why is it so hard to find decent guys..!
Still an experience
i'd be incredibly put off by that I have to say. He sounds a little pushy and like someone who could take advantage; I may be wrong but it's just the way I see it.
The sexual stuff on his facebook would really put me off too. Again, it's up to you if you go or not, but he sounds a bit like trouble to me...
The sexual stuff on his facebook would really put me off too. Again, it's up to you if you go or not, but he sounds a bit like trouble to me...
Original post by daydream28
i'd be incredibly put off by that I have to say. He sounds a little pushy and like someone who could take advantage; I may be wrong but it's just the way I see it.
The sexual stuff on his facebook would really put me off too. Again, it's up to you if you go or not, but he sounds a bit like trouble to me...
The sexual stuff on his facebook would really put me off too. Again, it's up to you if you go or not, but he sounds a bit like trouble to me...
that's what worries me I am probably one of many girls and I know what I am like when I have too much to drink I don't want to be taken advantage of**
I'd go on the date, but mostly because I'd feel too bad backing out once I've said yes... You did get on well with him, so just treat it as a fun evening even if it doesn't lead to anything more. It's probably a good thing you found out about that side of him sooner than later. And there are plenty of decent guys out there, so don't worry. 
Oh and make sure you keep your wits about you and don't drink too much! Stay in a safe location where there are people around.
Original post by Anonymous
that's what worries me I am probably one of many girls and I know what I am like when I have too much to drink I don't want to be taken advantage of**
Oh and make sure you keep your wits about you and don't drink too much! Stay in a safe location where there are people around.
(edited 7 years ago)
I have a feeling you're going to do it. I don't know; it may be exciting/fun, but I don't think you should do it personally. Sexual humour on FB is probably common, but the oral sex thing is just too much. The guns would make it a definite no for me, real or not. I'd also be massively surprised if he doesn't already have a few girls on the go.
Original post by Anonymous
that's what worries me I am probably one of many girls and I know what I am like when I have too much to drink I don't want to be taken advantage of**
imo just politely decline. not worth your time. definitely not worth the risk. you'll meet someone better.
be safe.
I wouldn't even entertain the idea of going out with someone like him
He sounds disgusting, plus he could be dangerous
He sounds disgusting, plus he could be dangerous
Pfft nah next him. He wants himself a nice gullible English girl for whatever crooked purpose he has on his Albanian mind lol
Have sex with him if that's what you wanna do and if you know you can do that and not be attached right after ...
Have sex with him if that's what you wanna do and if you know you can do that and not be attached right after ...
Original post by YaliaV
I have a feeling you're going to do it. I don't know; it may be exciting/fun, but I don't think you should do it personally. Sexual humour on FB is probably common, but the oral sex thing is just too much. The guns would make it a definite no for me, real or not. I'd also be massively surprised if he doesn't already have a few girls on the go.
I really don't want to go so I probably won't. things like that really put me off.*
Original post by Anonymous
(I'm a girl btw, 20 years old, he is about 25 I don't know officially)
*So I work in retail and this guy saw me from just outside the door where I apparently caught his attention. He came in with his friend and started chatting to me and flirting with me (complimenting me and asking if I was single). I flirted with him too because he was quite attractive.
He sounded foreign and he told me he was from Albania. He asked for my number and i said no and told him to come in next time, buy something and then I might give my number.*
Anyway he came back the other day and wouldn't leave until I have my number. He wasn't overly pushy but he did ask me to just write it down, so I did.
This was yesterday and since then we have been texted pretty much constantly. He is so flirty and asked me to send a photo which I did. His English isn't brilliant but I can understand most of what he writes. He asked me this morning if I could meet up with him on Saturday evening (this coming Saturday) and I said yes because I was interested in actually meeting him outside of work.
Anyway just now I looked him up on Facebook using his first name only (it's quite unusual) and from looking at his profile (although as I am not friends on Facebook I didn't have full access but could see quite a number of photos etc) I am not sure I want to meet him.
There were several photos of guns some fully formed and some with all the parts taken out. They looked like real guns with bullets but I'm not sure.
There were a lot of sexual posts, not of him but of girls giving oral and guys eating a girl out.
There were lots of girls in their underwear posing around a motorbike.
He posted a photo of some text and it said something like "I'm crazy but I don't give a f***" and I'm not that kind of person I swear obviously but it's vulgar putting photos like that on your profile.*
There are just so many cover photos of women in their underwear and I feel like he probably sleeps with so many people (I'm a Virgin btw) and I don't really want to be with someone like that.*
****
*Most of his cover photos were of scenery like beaches etc and his profile picture is so hot it's of him in the sea and my God is he ripped. (You can tell he works out, he told me and there are videos on his profile). So it's not all bad..
But there are a lot of inappropriate posts that none of my Facebook friends would dare have on their profiles. I don't know wheather it's because he is from a completely different country and that is considered normal or what.. There is one photo combining oral sex with use of guns.*
Furthermore on his details it says "professional skills: pornography" I know that's a joke but still.
*
*I don't want to come across as a prude or anything but I don't really feel comfortable going out with someone who is like this. *
Do you think I am over reacting?
*
*So I work in retail and this guy saw me from just outside the door where I apparently caught his attention. He came in with his friend and started chatting to me and flirting with me (complimenting me and asking if I was single). I flirted with him too because he was quite attractive.
He sounded foreign and he told me he was from Albania. He asked for my number and i said no and told him to come in next time, buy something and then I might give my number.*
Anyway he came back the other day and wouldn't leave until I have my number. He wasn't overly pushy but he did ask me to just write it down, so I did.
This was yesterday and since then we have been texted pretty much constantly. He is so flirty and asked me to send a photo which I did. His English isn't brilliant but I can understand most of what he writes. He asked me this morning if I could meet up with him on Saturday evening (this coming Saturday) and I said yes because I was interested in actually meeting him outside of work.
Anyway just now I looked him up on Facebook using his first name only (it's quite unusual) and from looking at his profile (although as I am not friends on Facebook I didn't have full access but could see quite a number of photos etc) I am not sure I want to meet him.
There were several photos of guns some fully formed and some with all the parts taken out. They looked like real guns with bullets but I'm not sure.
There were a lot of sexual posts, not of him but of girls giving oral and guys eating a girl out.
There were lots of girls in their underwear posing around a motorbike.
He posted a photo of some text and it said something like "I'm crazy but I don't give a f***" and I'm not that kind of person I swear obviously but it's vulgar putting photos like that on your profile.*
There are just so many cover photos of women in their underwear and I feel like he probably sleeps with so many people (I'm a Virgin btw) and I don't really want to be with someone like that.*
****
*Most of his cover photos were of scenery like beaches etc and his profile picture is so hot it's of him in the sea and my God is he ripped. (You can tell he works out, he told me and there are videos on his profile). So it's not all bad..
But there are a lot of inappropriate posts that none of my Facebook friends would dare have on their profiles. I don't know wheather it's because he is from a completely different country and that is considered normal or what.. There is one photo combining oral sex with use of guns.*
Furthermore on his details it says "professional skills: pornography" I know that's a joke but still.
*
*I don't want to come across as a prude or anything but I don't really feel comfortable going out with someone who is like this. *
Do you think I am over reacting?
*
Reminds me of taken 2 film. Lmao
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People come over here and act nice look normal obviously and then drug you and traffic you to Hungary. It's not even a joke. You don't know him from Adam.
Original post by Sempiternitas
I'd go on the date, but mostly because I'd feel too bad backing out once I've said yes.
we only arranged it yesterday and turning him down now will be easier than doing so after the date*
Original post by EnemyofState
Reminds me of I Spit on Your Grave 2...these "normal" guys from Bulgaria were holding interviews and they drugged the girl, smuggled her to their country, chained her in the basement, tortured her, she had no money to get home, the cops were in on it, she had to live in a train tunnel and sewer for months to avoid them :\
Original post by Anonymous
we only arranged it yesterday and turning him down now will be easier than doing so after the date*
This could be dangerous too.
I wouldn't go if I were you. Also, you don't seem to like him so I don't see the reason in forcing yourself to go and possibly placing yourself in a dangerous position.
Original post by Anonymous
we only arranged it yesterday and turning him down now will be easier than doing so after the date*
It's up to you - if the idea of the date makes you truly uncomfortable don't go. But it shouldn't be hard to turn him down after the date. I have heard of, as well as experienced, plenty of first dates that never led to a second!
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