Basically, I have known this guy for a couple of years now from out of school (we are in sixth form). Let's call him Toby for the sake of this post. We do are both members of our local theatre group and we were cast in the lead roles of Danny and sandy in grease. We had really only just met then but after our performance everyone was going on about how cute we were together and how much chemistry we had. I put it down to the fact that we are good actors but everyone kept saying we should date!
Since then he flirts with me often and I do the same to him, just thinking we would remain friends and nothing more.
Then he asked me out on a date which was good and I got to know him a bit more. He isn't super hot and I don't really feel any attraction towards him to be honest, but when he flirts with me I enjoy it. However I am the kind of girl who flirts with a lot of boys just in a friendly way... Anyway we went out on a second date but still there was no holding hands or anything romantic which I was glad about because I knew I wasn't feeling enough towards him to be able to initiate romance. The thing with me is I get on well with guys more easily than I do with girls so the thought of a guy asking me out to town is something I would do with people I knew I wanted to just be friends with. I don't see what's wrong with going out with people as friends but apparently Toby had other plans.
All the times he asked me out I wasn't sure if the were actual dates although when he offered to pay the first time it became obvious that was what he wanted.
So in total I have been on two dates with him and I had a party last week where I invited him as a friend. Of course after having some drink we both became more relaxed and I was being quite friendly and stuff with him, sitting on his lap etc but no kissing. I think he took this as a sign as he then asked me to go out again as he needed to tell me something. But yet again I would act this way with guys I just see as friends because I am like that, however he seemed to interpret it differently.
I agreed to meet up and I know what he wants to say. He is probably going to ask if I want to be boyfriend and girlfriend but I really don't know if I am ready for that. I have only been on two dates with him and although you may think I have been leading him on, I haven't acted in a romantic way towards him at all. I used those two dates to see if he was the kind of guy I wanted to be with but to be honest I just don't think he is. He has a nice personality, he can sometimes be a bit pretentious but all in all he is decent. But I don't feel any sexual or romantic attraction towards him and I think that's partly down to his looks. He isn't that good looking and I do think looks should play some part in a relationship.
So I don't know what to say to him when he asks me. I just don't think I am ready for a relationship with anyone I be honest. I have my a levels coming up with I need to do well in and in all honesty, I think the people at my theatre group built this up to be something more than it is just because of our performance in grease! I was only acting!
How do if let him know I'm not reay for a relationship with him? Also should I mention that I only see him as a friend or not? He is going to uni next year and we won't see each other so I can't see it working.
Thank you