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I have recently experienced a break up as my ex boyfriend went to uni (he was in the year above). I'm pretty much over him like I'm not missing him or crying or anything. However, i do very much miss the physical side of the relationship but don't in anyway want another relationship. Basically i guess i want a friends with benefits, the issue with this is that if it was with somebody at my sixth form then everyone would probably end up finding out and thats not the best reputation to have is it really. Advice?

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Original post by ireallylike
I have recently experienced a break up as my ex boyfriend went to uni (he was in the year above). I'm pretty much over him like I'm not missing him or crying or anything. However, i do very much miss the physical side of the relationship but don't in anyway want another relationship. Basically i guess i want a friends with benefits, the issue with this is that if it was with somebody at my sixth form then everyone would probably end up finding out and thats not the best reputation to have is it really. Advice?


Friends with benefits can be a sticky situation, one way or another, one person will feel more than the other person and it suddenly becomes more than a friends with benefits type of relationship so I suggest you think about this carefully as it could become problematic if you do begin being friends with benefits with someone.
Original post by Rhythmical
Friends with benefits can be a sticky situation

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Seriously though, it's almost certainly a bad idea.
Original post by ireallylike
I have recently experienced a break up as my ex boyfriend went to uni (he was in the year above). I'm pretty much over him like I'm not missing him or crying or anything. However, i do very much miss the physical side of the relationship but don't in anyway want another relationship. Basically i guess i want a friends with benefits, the issue with this is that if it was with somebody at my sixth form then everyone would probably end up finding out and thats not the best reputation to have is it really. Advice?


Wouldnt the obvious solution be to find someone not at school and completely outside your social circle? It would also be in your interest to find someone discreet. I wouldnt bank on the last part, so dont make any sex tapes, send phots etc unless you are comfy with them showing up on the internet. Its tricky becayse you need someone trustworthy.

Brw a high % of friends with benefits end up not working becayse one the the parties gets emo and wants more.
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Original post by 999tigger
Wouldnt the obvious solution be to find someone not at school and completely outside your social circle? It would also be in your interest to find someone discreet. I wouldnt bank on the last part, so dont make any sex tapes, send phots etc unless you are comfy with them showing up on the internet. Its tricky becayse you need someone trustworthy.

Brw a high % of friends with benefits end up not working becayse one the the parties gets emo and wants more.


I only really know people at my school, i don't find anybody i work with or socialise other with attractive enough
Original post by ireallylike
I only really know people at my school, i don't find anybody i work with or socialise other with attractive enough


The trouble is if you choose someone then they have to be discreet, they may be but the chances are they will not be mature about it. That is why you have to select carefully. Boys talk and like to brag. Not all, but you need to be careful. One good thing is you will be off to uni in a year so you cna then leave it behind.

Rather than keep it a secret maybe just have a relationship that you dnt min being public about (which seems normal), but just make it clear you dont wnat anything serious, in fact you wnat the emphasis on the physical? That way you can fly under the radar. People like gossip so friends with benefit will get noticed, especially if someone wnats to make an issue of it and gets over excited.

Find someone you think might be suitable and just broach it with them.
I want to be in a friends with benefit relationship, how do I find someone?
Original post by KnowledgeIsBest
I want to be in a friends with benefit relationship, how do I find someone?


sex clubs
Original post by KnowledgeIsBest
I want to be in a friends with benefit relationship, how do I find someone?


Step 1: Learn to appreciate a nice ass in jeans /s

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Original post by MathMoFarah
sex clubs


thats a real thing?
Original post by KnowledgeIsBest
thats a real thing?

yeah
Original post by AlexFam
Step 1: Learn to appreciate a nice ass in jeans


I do appreciate a nice ass in jeans but ya'know back in the past(few months ago), when I saw a girl walking in the street in tight or revealing clothes, I would get a boner, and it felt nice. but nowI've seen so much, that even if its more revealing than normal then I wouldnt get one.
Original post by KnowledgeIsBest
I do appreciate a nice ass in jeans but ya'know back in the past(few months ago), when I saw a girl walking in the street in tight or revealing clothes, I would get a boner, and it felt nice. but nowI've seen so much, that even if its more revealing than normal then I wouldnt get one.


How... old are you? You sound like you're in your late 40s.
Original post by AlexFam
How... old are you? You sound like you're in your late 40s.


16
Original post by KnowledgeIsBest
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Dude, you should be popping boners at the mere sight of a woman's skin wtf is wrong.
Original post by AlexFam
Dude, you should be popping boners at the mere sight of a woman's skin wtf is wrong.


I've seen too much ass
Original post by KnowledgeIsBest
I've seen too much ass


Ever got any my bro?
Original post by AlexFam
Ever got any my bro?


im not going to dignify that with a comment answering your question
Original post by KnowledgeIsBest
im not going to dignify that with a comment answering your question


Ah well, you have plenty of time. Don't overextend yourself looking at girls, because it seems you become disinterested with just sight at the moment.
Original post by AlexFam
Ah well, you have plenty of time. Don't overextend yourself looking at girls, because it seems you become disinterested with just sight at the moment.


anyway, continue your steps to getting into a friends with benefits relationship.

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