21, m, final year of uni and 'still' a virgin

I'm now 21 (and a half) and half way through my final year of uni. I don't go out that much coz I live at home (to save money for a decent future and hopefully a nice family home for a lovely wife) and my small group of uni friends also all live at home (and don't live close to me).

I've always had friends and had no real problem socialising with people coz I can be quite a funny guy sometimes. But i just cannot figure out why barely any girls like me more than just a friend (I had a dozen female friends at school).

Growing up I learned to be kind and considerate and especially when it came to girls I'd be honest with them and treat them like true ladies. After going through most of my uni life now I realise ladies don't really exist anymore and gentlemen don't exist either.

I lacked confidence with attractive girls at school because I have worn glasses since I was 5, and my blonde hair has always made me feel weak as a male, because blonde hair is seen as feminine. I do wear contact lenses now, have done so for the last 4 years, but it hasn't changed my luck with girls at all.

I always hate going through christmas seeing couples because it makes me angry that I have never experienced a true relationship. And now valentine's day is fast approaching... :frown:

Finally, I have snogged a girl and actually turned down sex with the school slut (because I knew she'd already slept with half my mates and it just felt wrong to sleep with her).

I REALLY need some advice, from anyone! PLEASE! :confused:

Reply 1

n0c0ntr0l

12

If you are :snow:

with girls one of two options:

1. get a hooker - much less stress
2. get better with women.

Reply 2

Venom123

16

n0c0ntr0l

If you are :snow:

with girls one of two options:

1. get a hooker - much less stress
2. get better with women.

LOL no to number one... and I'm guessing he'd like to know how he should go about number two?

I'm going to take the moral ground and just say... your time will come.

Reply 3

GentleGuy

OP

quick response!

i would prefer option 2 in all honesty. oh and i don't drive so wouldn't really be able to have a hooker either :frown:

Reply 4

Venom123

16

GentleGuy

quick response!

i would prefer option 2 in all honesty. oh and i don't drive so wouldn't really be able to have a hooker either :frown:

LOL don't even consider it.

Venom123

LOL no to number one... and I'm guessing he'd like to know how he should go about number two?

I'm going to take the moral ground and just say... your time will come.

Next thing you know we have a case of 40 year old virgin.

Reply 7

Double Agent

18

GentleGuy

I'm now 21 (and a half) and half way through my final year of uni. I don't go out that much coz I live at home (to save money for a decent future and hopefully a nice family home for a lovely wife) and my small group of uni friends also all live at home (and don't live close to me).

I've always had friends and had no real problem socialising with people coz I can be quite a funny guy sometimes. But i just cannot figure out why barely any girls like me more than just a friend (I had a dozen female friends at school).

Growing up I learned to be kind and considerate and especially when it came to girls I'd be honest with them and treat them like true ladies. After going through most of my uni life now I realise ladies don't really exist anymore and gentlemen don't exist either.

I lacked confidence with attractive girls at school because I have worn glasses since I was 5, and my blonde hair has always made me feel weak as a male, because blonde hair is seen as feminine. I do wear contact lenses now, have done so for the last 4 years, but it hasn't changed my luck with girls at all.

I always hate going through christmas seeing couples because it makes me angry that I have never experienced a true relationship. And now valentine's day is fast approaching... :frown:

Finally, I have snogged a girl and actually turned down sex with the school slut (because I knew she'd already slept with half my mates and it just felt wrong to sleep with her).

I REALLY need some advice, from anyone! PLEASE!

The things in bold are where youre going wrong.

Reply 8

Anonymous #1

It might not happen soon, but my advice would be work on yourself.

Hit the gym, get contact lenses or nicer glasses, switch up your style, take up a few new hobbies that are accessible to your everyday person who you could chat to about, maybe go out and see some countries, learn how to dance (which depends on which types of women you want to date).

Ultimately, you'll lose it when you've achieved self improvement.

As for your attitude, well... you're a nice guy, but you need a bit more a killer instinct. If you watch lots of porn - stop for a bit, and instead aim on trying to vent that sexuality in finding a woman.

Disregard all that 'it'll happen one day', as that revolves around some notion of fate. You need to put yourself out there.

Reply 9

+ polarity -

21

Double Agent

The things in bold are where youre going wrong.

What's wrong with him turning down the sket? :puppyeyes:

Reply 10

Svenjamin

17

It may sound cliched, but learn to be more comfortable with who you are. The worst feeling is knowing you haven't had any luck with girls in the past, but no girl can tell that when they meet you. Losing that emotional baggage and gaining some confidence can do wonders.

Reply 11

Double Agent

18

+ polarity -

What's wrong with him turning down the sket?

He's complaining about being a virgin.

Reply 12

kellymichelle

10

thanks for reminding me about valentines day

Reply 13

+ polarity -

21

Double Agent

He's complaining about being a virgin.

Yeah but I'd rather wait than poke that. :awesome:

Reply 14

Jelephant

12

+ polarity -

What's wrong with him turning down the sket? :puppyeyes:

He would like to not be a virgin. I'm guessing it wont help out that goal too much :p:

Reply 15

GentleGuy

OP

whoah, loads of responses. thanks a lot people it really is appreciated!

i guess im not very comfortable with myself and i probs do need to take up a few hobbies i guess. at the moment i simply play guitar, listen to music, play video games, watch porn (what guy doesnt?!)

Double Agent ur probs right about the bold parts but i'm not 'complaining' about not having sex as such, i'm just extremely confused and sometimes get depressed about why it hasn't happened for me yet, especially when i talk to guys younger than me who are talking about it :frown:

Reply 16

Canadianized

Lol you're not alone, I'm almost 19 and am still a virgin too

Reply 17

imhiya

15

kellymichelle

thanks for reminding me about valentines day

Crap. what do single people do on valentines?

Reply 18

Double Agent

18

GentleGuy

whoah, loads of responses. thanks a lot people it really is appreciated!

i guess im not very comfortable with myself and i probs do need to take up a few hobbies i guess. at the moment i simply play guitar, listen to music, play video games, watch porn (what guy doesnt?!)

Double Agent ur probs right about the bold parts but i'm not 'complaining' about not having sex as such, i'm just extremely confused and sometimes get depressed about why it hasn't happened for me yet, especially when i talk to guys younger than me who are talking about it :frown:

You count watching porn as a hobby? God man, you need more help than I thought.