Embarrassed in a bikini?
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It scares me that the majority of people here are suggesting ways to superficially 'improve' themselves. I know I sound like a douche bag who's trying to take the moral high ground, but I too felt self conscious when on a beach. All my mates play rugby/boxing and have smooth toned bodies - the closest thing to a 6 pack I have is a 6 pack of Carling. Plus I am quite hairy.
It's daunting when you compare yourself, but I gurantee that someone who BELIEVES they are attractive is a damn site better looking than someone who doesn't. Plus you must realise that guy's preferences in female aesthetics change all the time, and you'd be surprised to know that it's usually the facial features we look at first.
It's daunting when you compare yourself, but I gurantee that someone who BELIEVES they are attractive is a damn site better looking than someone who doesn't. Plus you must realise that guy's preferences in female aesthetics change all the time, and you'd be surprised to know that it's usually the facial features we look at first.
Original post by LittleLily
Cant have best of both 
I've got an arse flatter than an ironing board unfortunately.
I'm short, size 8 and have 32G breasts. It sounds good but it's honestly not worth the back pain, attention from sleazebags, not being able to go braless, can't wear strapless or bandeu, stretchmarks and the eventuality of saggy boobs when I get older. Im eventually going to get reduction.
If you're situation is really affecting you psychologically then I think you should consider surgery. Maybe just go to a C cup, nothin drastic. But for the time being just look around for bikini tops that have ruffles or are very busy design wise. And use your booty to your advantage. Ah I wish I had a booty -_-
I've got an arse flatter than an ironing board unfortunately.
I'm short, size 8 and have 32G breasts. It sounds good but it's honestly not worth the back pain, attention from sleazebags, not being able to go braless, can't wear strapless or bandeu, stretchmarks and the eventuality of saggy boobs when I get older. Im eventually going to get reduction.
If you're situation is really affecting you psychologically then I think you should consider surgery. Maybe just go to a C cup, nothin drastic. But for the time being just look around for bikini tops that have ruffles or are very busy design wise. And use your booty to your advantage. Ah I wish I had a booty -_-
OP, just go out and try not to think about it. Enjoy yourself
Original post by Discasto
But why do small breasts need to be "made up for"? That's such ****! It's like small boobs are bad, so you must compensate for them so the guy won't be disappointed. It sucks. Nobody tells women with big boobs to make up for anything.
I only worry about having small boobs because of **** like that... because they're supposed to be less hot, and made up for or whatever. By themselves, I think they look OK, just like big breasts only smaller. Last time I checked big breasts don't have anything different than small breasts other than size, but it's the same: a blob of fat, with skin, mammary glands, an aureola and nipple. They're not even so different drom men's.
But for some reason, just 'cause they're small, they're not as good, hence they need to be made up for. But why, dammit? if there was not such an emphasis on "the bigger the better", then I wouldn't even care about surgery. But I don't want to be with anyone who thinks I'm not as hot as some busty chick, or that i need to make up for my small breasts. Sadly, because practically every guy my age thinks that way, I'm considering surgery because I don't want to be with someone like my ex again: he liked bigger better, every time there was a busty chick he'd look, he'd try to tit **** me in bed, it hurt like hell squeezing my boobs together to do the damn thing, and being small like they are, it just didn't work so he got this disappointed look on his face. It didn't matter that I did other kinky **** in bed... no, he always tried in hopes that it'd work 'cause it was a stupid fantasy of his.
I know having big boobs would not prevent a boyfriend from checking out other women with big boobs, but at least it'd be like "Well, at least I have what he wants" instead of "Dammit, he's been checking out all these busty women, I don't have what he wants".
I hate hate hate that I'm supposed to "make up for" my small breasts. They're not my fault, I didn't choose them, and big boobs don't make another woman better or an accomplishment 'cause she also didn't choose hers. I actually think reductions are warranted only in cases in which there is physical pain in the back or something, not just cause you get all guys staring at you. gee, at least you get some attention!
Based on what other posters have said, apparently nobody will notice my body 'cause I'm not hot enough, dammit!
Plus I'm sorry but a six pack is not the same as boobs. I don't find anything special about six packs anyway, and if you want to, you can just go to the gym and improve your diet and get it, but there's no way to improve boobs naturally it's not like you can choose, and I think men AND WOMEN can choose whether they're fat or toned.
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I only worry about having small boobs because of **** like that... because they're supposed to be less hot, and made up for or whatever. By themselves, I think they look OK, just like big breasts only smaller. Last time I checked big breasts don't have anything different than small breasts other than size, but it's the same: a blob of fat, with skin, mammary glands, an aureola and nipple. They're not even so different drom men's.
But for some reason, just 'cause they're small, they're not as good, hence they need to be made up for. But why, dammit? if there was not such an emphasis on "the bigger the better", then I wouldn't even care about surgery. But I don't want to be with anyone who thinks I'm not as hot as some busty chick, or that i need to make up for my small breasts. Sadly, because practically every guy my age thinks that way, I'm considering surgery because I don't want to be with someone like my ex again: he liked bigger better, every time there was a busty chick he'd look, he'd try to tit **** me in bed, it hurt like hell squeezing my boobs together to do the damn thing, and being small like they are, it just didn't work so he got this disappointed look on his face. It didn't matter that I did other kinky **** in bed... no, he always tried in hopes that it'd work 'cause it was a stupid fantasy of his.
I know having big boobs would not prevent a boyfriend from checking out other women with big boobs, but at least it'd be like "Well, at least I have what he wants" instead of "Dammit, he's been checking out all these busty women, I don't have what he wants".
I hate hate hate that I'm supposed to "make up for" my small breasts. They're not my fault, I didn't choose them, and big boobs don't make another woman better or an accomplishment 'cause she also didn't choose hers. I actually think reductions are warranted only in cases in which there is physical pain in the back or something, not just cause you get all guys staring at you. gee, at least you get some attention!
Based on what other posters have said, apparently nobody will notice my body 'cause I'm not hot enough, dammit!
Plus I'm sorry but a six pack is not the same as boobs. I don't find anything special about six packs anyway, and if you want to, you can just go to the gym and improve your diet and get it, but there's no way to improve boobs naturally it's not like you can choose, and I think men AND WOMEN can choose whether they're fat or toned.
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I actually agree with you there.
There's absolutely nothing wrong with smaller breasts it's just society has this bloody fascination with bigger boobs.
There are so many women in the media who are considered beautiful but have small breasts, look at Cameron Diaz, Audrey Tautou, Emma Watson, Gwyneth Paltrow, Kristen Stewart etc. etc..
You really shouldn't worry about it. A lot of guys say they like big boobs but really, when it comes down to it they aren't that bothered.
And OP, you're ****ing normal! Just like everyone else, get over it.
(edited 13 years ago)
Original post by Chr0n
You have a point here! F-cups would look way bigger on an otherwise small and skinny girl, than they do on a tall and not so slim girl.
Well, the proportion would be the same: the F cup is the difference between the chest measurement and the breast measurement. But there would be a lot more fat on the breasts of someone who's a 40F, compared with just breast tissue on say, a 30F girl, so they'd look larger and more obvious.
What I find interesting is that, with a decent bra, a girl with large breasts is not necessarily obvious. If I wore a push-up bra, or a bra that was too small for me, my breasts would look huge. A lot of people get their bra sizes wrong, because they think "there's no way I could be at least a D!" when in actual fact it's probably the average.
Original post by Discasto
Ok, so I found a couple pics...
Body
That's a shot of my body. Sorry for the crappy quality, I'll try to look for another pic, but well, that's all I could find. As you can see my problem areas concentrate around my lower body and I have kind of small boobs.
Face
Here's a pic in which you can see my face. I chose a pic in which I'm smiling. Sorry about the red eyes.
So that's me. I'm no Jessica Alba, as you can see.
Body
That's a shot of my body. Sorry for the crappy quality, I'll try to look for another pic, but well, that's all I could find. As you can see my problem areas concentrate around my lower body and I have kind of small boobs.
Face
Here's a pic in which you can see my face. I chose a pic in which I'm smiling. Sorry about the red eyes.
So that's me. I'm no Jessica Alba, as you can see.
This is a bit ridiculous. To me your body looks fine. If you're really that unhappy, the only thing you can do that will satisfy you is have surgery. But fake boobs aren't very attractive to a lot of guys (or the sort of guys who would make good boyfriends, anyway), and it's a stupid amount of money for something so insignificant, when the world has so many other problems. Please don't post any more pictures: we get the message!
Original post by Discasto
I think busty girls think the grass is greener but it's not. Maybe I'm taking my small tits for granted, but so are they. I would prefer being ogled all the time than having to go through what I've gone through with my ex and other guys before. It plain sucks, I tell you... especially 'cause I never thought they had anything to change about their bodies, they looked perfect to me as they were. but no, my ex had to have his stupid fantasy fulfilled, he knew it hurt, I told him, and he stopped, but he said it was a fantasy that he just really liked. So he watched a lot of big tit porn.
I think it's stupid for you to assume what 'busty girls' think. Everyone deals with their body issues differently, it's not right for you to judge whether they're taking their tits for granted or not. People have problems with their bodies for various reasons, it's how you deal with it that matters.
As I said I have big tits and I think (I'm sorry for saying this) it's the stupidest thing to say that you'd prefer being ogled at. Getting perved on can lead to getting sexually harassed as people think it's their God-given right to perve on/touch or say sexually explicit stuff to those with big boobs. Having big boobs means clothes dont fit properly so you either end up looking like a tramp or a slut and for some reason having big tits and a small frame by default means that you must be a whore. Not everyone can tit wan* so it's a matter of whether you can do it or whether you even like to do it. I think your ex was a douche not because he had a fantasy, everyone has fantasies, theres no harm in that. But he was a douche for forcing it on you. If you constantly focus on "omygosh everyone likes big boobs but mine are small" it's not going to make them grow. Just be proud of your healthy body, you're not obese, you're not anoerexic. You're toned and a lovely height and have a booty to die for. So make the most of everything you have. You can wear lovely halternecks dresses and tops, you can wear strapless stuff bla bla bla
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Original post by natalie1313
Try wearing a bandeau bikini top that's got ruffles or ruching on it...check out the topshop website swimwear section - a lot of those sort of things would look good.
Topshop and miss selfridge seem to be tailored towards non-curvy figures which is good for the top of you! Probably best to go for separates though, I've got a boyish figure and the bottoms of topshop bikinis are too small for my bum lol
Also, be (or act) confident and you'll be sexy whatever shape you are!
Topshop and miss selfridge seem to be tailored towards non-curvy figures which is good for the top of you! Probably best to go for separates though, I've got a boyish figure and the bottoms of topshop bikinis are too small for my bum lol
Also, be (or act) confident and you'll be sexy whatever shape you are!
YES WHY ARE THEY SO SMALL!? Their pants are the same, I'm a 6-8 (8 in topshop usually) and the size 8 cuts in. None of thier other clothes come up too small, it's very weird.
Yeahh, but it's all about self confidence really. I have like, B cups. and they're teeny!! And i am like, suidgy (not fat, not thin, just like, flabby, ughh)..You can get these two piece sets that have like, enhanced bust, so no matter how 'tiny' you are, it will make you feel better. All about how you feel, if you feel good, then that's all that matters
I'm aware that you're probably not this skinny, who is?! she's very very thin. BUT I think she's fit, and she has a very womanly ass and not much in boob department.
I get the same problem.
I'm embarrassed in a bikini.
I'm a guy.
I'm embarrassed in a bikini.
I'm a guy.
Original post by Discasto
Ok, I live in the Southern Hemisphere, and summer is raging with heat in all it's glory. That means it's bikini time. I feel embarrassed though... I have small breasts - A cups. It would not be so bad if I were tiny and petite. But I'm 5'7", slim, sure, but I am very curvy in the bottom. Kind of like if Kim Kardashian had A cups. So it looks weird. And for some reason, I feel like wearing a one piece would make it worse!
I feel embarrassed. Especially because of guys... I know, I know... but I mean, when even breast cancer ads focus sooooo much on the glory of big, bouncing boobs in a bikini (you have to sign in to watch, 'cause it's flagged), well... it just feels like if you have small breasts and wear a bikini, you look ridiculous and unappealing compared to busty girls... and remember... I'm not petite and short and cute... I'm curvy everywhere except up top!
I feel so ridiculous, like my body couldn't decide whether it was going to be curvy or whether it was going to be slim and petite and got something somewhere in between. And I know guys like girls like the one in the video. I don't like padding also, it's so obvious, like a bald man wearing a hairpiece, I prefer to show my real self than something fake. At least that way people won't make fun of me for being pathetic.
I feel embarrassed. Especially because of guys... I know, I know... but I mean, when even breast cancer ads focus sooooo much on the glory of big, bouncing boobs in a bikini (you have to sign in to watch, 'cause it's flagged), well... it just feels like if you have small breasts and wear a bikini, you look ridiculous and unappealing compared to busty girls... and remember... I'm not petite and short and cute... I'm curvy everywhere except up top!
I feel so ridiculous, like my body couldn't decide whether it was going to be curvy or whether it was going to be slim and petite and got something somewhere in between. And I know guys like girls like the one in the video. I don't like padding also, it's so obvious, like a bald man wearing a hairpiece, I prefer to show my real self than something fake. At least that way people won't make fun of me for being pathetic.
Nothing to worry about - big boobs aren't all that for a lot of guys. As long as you;ve got a nice curvy arse then guys will still be all over you.
i only wear tankinis, not because i'm fat but because they're more classy. but if i were fat the coverage would be a bonus.
Original post by LittleLily
I think it's stupid for you to assume what 'busty girls' think. Everyone deals with their body issues differently, it's not right for you to judge whether they're taking their tits for granted or not. People have problems with their bodies for various reasons, it's how you deal with it that matters.
As I said I have big tits and I think (I'm sorry for saying this) it's the stupidest thing to say that you'd prefer being ogled at. Getting perved on can lead to getting sexually harassed as people think it's their God-given right to perve on/touch or say sexually explicit stuff to those with big boobs. Having big boobs means clothes dont fit properly so you either end up looking like a tramp or a slut and for some reason having big tits and a small frame by default means that you must be a whore. Not everyone can tit wan* so it's a matter of whether you can do it or whether you even like to do it. I think your ex was a douche not because he had a fantasy, everyone has fantasies, theres no harm in that. But he was a douche for forcing it on you. My bf likes BIG BUTTS and as I said I'm flat as an ironing board, I just focus on the fact that he likes the rest of my body instead of focusing on what I'm lacking. If you constantly focus on "omygosh everyone likes big boobs but mine are small" it's not going to make them grow. Just be proud of your healthy body, you're not obese, you're not anoerexic. You're toned and a lovely height and have a booty to die for. So make the most of everything you have. You can wear lovely halternecks dresses and tops, you can wear strapless stuff bla bla bla
As I said I have big tits and I think (I'm sorry for saying this) it's the stupidest thing to say that you'd prefer being ogled at. Getting perved on can lead to getting sexually harassed as people think it's their God-given right to perve on/touch or say sexually explicit stuff to those with big boobs. Having big boobs means clothes dont fit properly so you either end up looking like a tramp or a slut and for some reason having big tits and a small frame by default means that you must be a whore. Not everyone can tit wan* so it's a matter of whether you can do it or whether you even like to do it. I think your ex was a douche not because he had a fantasy, everyone has fantasies, theres no harm in that. But he was a douche for forcing it on you. My bf likes BIG BUTTS and as I said I'm flat as an ironing board, I just focus on the fact that he likes the rest of my body instead of focusing on what I'm lacking. If you constantly focus on "omygosh everyone likes big boobs but mine are small" it's not going to make them grow. Just be proud of your healthy body, you're not obese, you're not anoerexic. You're toned and a lovely height and have a booty to die for. So make the most of everything you have. You can wear lovely halternecks dresses and tops, you can wear strapless stuff bla bla bla
I couldn't agree with this more!!!!! I wish I could wear vest tops without worrying about being perved on.
Original post by Discasto
Ok, so I found a couple pics...
Body
That's a shot of my body. Sorry for the crappy quality, I'll try to look for another pic, but well, that's all I could find. As you can see my problem areas concentrate around my lower body and I have kind of small boobs.
Face
Here's a pic in which you can see my face. I chose a pic in which I'm smiling. Sorry about the red eyes.
So that's me. I'm no Jessica Alba, as you can see.
Body
That's a shot of my body. Sorry for the crappy quality, I'll try to look for another pic, but well, that's all I could find. As you can see my problem areas concentrate around my lower body and I have kind of small boobs.
Face
Here's a pic in which you can see my face. I chose a pic in which I'm smiling. Sorry about the red eyes.
So that's me. I'm no Jessica Alba, as you can see.
I'd rather have your figure than be fat tbh.
Try getting padded bikini tops or focus on pretty ruffly designs. You look fine though, really.
Original post by Chr0n
Sorry, but now I really think you're pathetic...
If you really want to do something, focus on shaping your lower body. http://www.brighthub.com/health/fitness/articles/63041.aspx <-- best to ask a trainer in your local fitness-center, as they usually know best, what heps and what doesn't (though not always).
If you really want to do something, focus on shaping your lower body. http://www.brighthub.com/health/fitness/articles/63041.aspx <-- best to ask a trainer in your local fitness-center, as they usually know best, what heps and what doesn't (though not always).
Why am I pathetic?!
Original post by Discasto
Why am I pathetic?!
la-dauphine
This is a bit ridiculous. To me your body looks fine.
Stop worrying about your body - or, as I said, if you really can't focus on shaping your lower body.
Sorry to revive an old thread but I want other people who Google this to see my perspective on it. There are all kinds of men. I've dated a couple of women with bountiful breasts but I realized quickly that the breasts do almost nothing for me. I'm a butt and thigh kind of guy. I'm not alone in this. I'm perfectly happy with an A cup woman if I have a curvy back side to admire.
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