Hello, I'm in a bit of a moral quandary, as my girlfriend has just admitted that she is actually hates black people.
We've been dating for about 6 months and it's honestly the happiest I've ever felt. The issue hasn't really come up, because we're both from Devon and it's actually pretty rare to see a black person out and about even in towns. Also there are very few black people at my university so when she's come up to visit me here it's not really been evident.
I'm not blameless myself, at school we used to make pretty racist jokes because that's just what seemed amusing to everyone, as there wasn't anyone that took offence, and they were all unfounded, obviously insincere slurs anyway. So when she made the occasional remark I just attributed it to a common sense of humour. But then a few nights ago when she was visiting me, we were having dinner and she asked to sit in the seat that wasn't facing a black couple. Then she went on to make pretty derogatary comments about how arrogant/loud they were being, lack of table manners, etc, even though they were no different to the rest of the diners. I asked her about it and she said she always felt that she was superior to them and that they made her feel a little bit ill, and that some sort of apartheid should be introduced.
I'm no angel but this has been causing me a lot of distress. I don't really have any black friends but it does make me think less of her. But I really, really don't want to think about leaving her. She's kind, generous, funny, considerate. She's my best friend and closest confidant and I would do anything for her.
What do you think I should do? How should I bring it up?
Thanks guyz