Do I have a moral responsibility to not sleep with guys who are taken?

And as I said before, if it got out, what would your friends and family think of you? Any potential boyfriends would likely run a mile if they found out. It's damaging to you, not just this man and his wife.

As for this, I think that the people who have chosen to stick around with me have a good capability of understanding my point of view and why I behave the way I do. They're open people, willing to listen to my train of thoughts. As for a potential boyfriend, I look for similar qualities as above mentioned. I would hope that he would understand that all people are flawed but be able to experience that my qualities and choices outweighs the bad ones.

For me, it's very rare that I meet someone that I can connect with in such a way - enough for me to want to get very intimate with that person. I have been lonely for a long time, feeling isolated from reality (I could at times be too introverted and lost in my own thoughts) and suddenly I met someone who could make me feel seen and noticed, and who appeared to understand me and my view of the world.

And at the same time he was showering me with affection. At some point I decided that what I needed was more important than what a stranger who I haven't met nor will ever met (the wife) need. In all fairness, that's what all people do all the time. Maybe not necessarily with sex, but there's a reason why you don't donate your whole salary to charity, even though other people probably need those money a lot more than you do. I think it's a bit hypocritical of posters here to pretend otherwise.

As for the whole thing coming out, I don't see how it could happen. It's not like I tell everyone who I'm sleeping with (and I doubt he does either).

As for this, I think that the people who have chosen to stick around with me have a good capability of understanding my point of view and why I behave the way I do. They're open people, willing to listen to my train of thoughts. As for a potential boyfriend, I look for similar qualities as above mentioned. I would hope that he would understand that all people are flawed but be able to experience that my qualities and choices outweighs the bad ones.

As banging my head into a wall sounds like something that could potentially kill or me or injury me seriously. I don't understand how I can invoke such anger when they know nothing about me. People here have said that they don't need to know me in order to feel hatred, and that is heartbreaking to hear and makes me feel sorry for them honestly. I can't imagine what it would be like wishing physical injury to another person and even less what it would be like wishing the life out of someone (in rare cases I do wish that people were far, far away from me though). And how do you guys view the world if you think that I deserve injury/death regardless of all my other actions in my life? Do you sincerely believe that nothing you do or don't do ever causes other people pain? And in this case it's even about me having the potential of causing the woman pain.

that is heartbreaking to hear.

I think it's unnecessary and quite immature with the name-calling and insults. You don't know me and this forum is for discussions, not bashing.

I don't think that it's okay to cheat and I have never claimed that I think it is. I do however think that it's mostly a concern for the couple, not for by-standers and strangers such as myself.

The fact you're taking a throwaway comment about bashing your head in so seriously kinda tells me you're very vunerable mentally, which also explains why you're believing everything this cad tells you and actually think the fact he showers you with affection means you're important to him or that he genuinely cares for you.

I'm sorry to have to tell you all this but he is just using you. In a straight ultimatum between his wife and you, he'd choose his wife and dismiss you as a mistake. You really want to allow yourself to fall for someone like that?

I've seen this happen too many times, so I'm just telling you this before you do yourself anymore psychological damage. I doubt you'll listen to me and move on, but I hope you do. For your sake.

Also, the charity comment. I agree that sex is a bit of a human need. BUT don't be under the illusion that guys don't contribute to their community. Giving your salary to charity is stupid, but volunteering in a school or a soup kitchen 1 day a week is most certainly more humble than having a quickie with the local married male slut once a week. Why not jib him off and do some charity work? "oh but I have needs mr stevo112, I need to feel loved". Baloney. You need to love yourself before anyone else can love you. And with such outdated morals as you have demonstrated, and the fact that your on tsr, you keep shooting yourself in the foot


many ways it could come out;

1. someone witnessing
2. seeing you and him in public
3. rumour
4. text message

etc

Why sleep with a married man then? You know he's taken. You are just as responsible as him.

If you think you're going to get any sympathy for your "heartbreak" over other people's vindication toward you for actively and knowingly destroying another's marriage you are seriously deluded.

God just get over that comment already. It's the Internet. No one is going to track you down and injure you.

For the record, it isn't always the case that friends tell you the truth. In fact there is too much sugar in the world these days. What your friends tell you may not be what they think. They may be open and willing to listen, but may also be judging.

Don't be so naive as to assume that all is rosy because people can be dicks and royally screw you over. The fact that you imply that your mates get your train of thought worries me, because your train of thought seems a bit warped. You feel lonely and disconnected and latch onto the first guy who shows you some attention, and he happens to be married. You have no desire to find someone for yourself, and most importantly is that you have no self respect and integrity. I wouldn't be surprised if your mates were enablers, people who keep you in some sort of loop which makes them feel better about themselves.

But yea, THIS post is purely speculation. I feel that it might not be correct, but it has a good chance of being true.

That's handy, because nobody does. It's hard to feel anything but pity for a common harlot such as yourself.

Thank you for that valuable input into the thread. Now I suddenly understand your values and point of view!

But why do you and other people think that I am in responsible of what's going on in a relationship of people that I don't know?