Ok guys
We all know of the attention seeking girls who string along a bunch of guys they dont like that much, and shriek 'omg that guy is stalking meee' every time one of them texts her. We all know the girl who gets chatted up and asked out by a guy she doesnt fancy and labels him as 'creepy' and 'a stalker'. or the guy who likes you and adds you randomly to FB.
that is not stalking.
Correct me if i'm wrong, but stalking is persistant unwanted attention after you have told the person not to continue to do whatever they were doing.
My situation is, a guy who i thought was my close friend has kept a detailed diary about me, with my emails, notes of our conversations, text messages, emails, and his thoughts and feelings about them. like 500 pages for many months.
We had a fight and he started showing parts of it to people saying i've been stalking him. now to me, it seems that someone with that kind of diary is the one stalking me. i never knew about the diary until we had the fight. He never told me he was unhappy and we were talking normally most of the time.
im trying to make sense of this. am i stalking him, or is he stalking me? it is kinda like a massive ego file. for example:
Diary entry 31/5/10: Text from shinytoy: "hey baby, you looked really cute today. any weekend plans?'' : This text made me feel uncomfortable, she clearly finds me very good looking and attractive. i do not like being called baby. it makes me feel like a sex object. i did not reply. i saw her later that day, and she looked at me and smiled. it was obvious she really wanted me. she said 'hi' we had a general conversation for a while, during which she called me 'sweetie' and 'cute buns'. this made me feel sexualised again, and i shifted uncomfortably. she should have known this. I did not tell her not to do it, but i did write it as accurately as i can in this file.
i mean, i get it that to back up a claim for stalking you need evidence. but wtf is the point of pretending to be friends with someone, keeping a diary like that if you are scared of them and think they are stalking you? i think he should have told me if something was wrong. now i feel like he has been stalking me.
wtf is going on here. am i the stalker or the stalkee? dont tell me to avoid and ignore this guy - as soon as i found out about the file, i already am. but even if i talk about this file to my friends, if he finds out, he writes it in his file.
what do i do? and what is going on here?