I'm nearly 20 and still not allowed to move out for uni! :(

out of interest why are they so against you haveing indepedence if you 20 now how old do they exspect you to be befor you can move out.

Just show them the law, tell them that they can't do anything and you're moving out. Having bad parents can really damage a person from developing into a decent person..

I dont really understand how they can physically stop you though. They're not gonna chain you to a pole in the backgarden. If you want to leave, you leave. You have every right to be a young and sociable woman, and if your parents are rootting around your room and telling you off at the age of 20, you should probably leave.

Apply for accommodation without telling them. When you've signed the forms they can't really do anything about it, can they? Might be the unethical way but sometimes you need to rebel to people holding you back, parents or not.

You've got to move away one day, university is probably the best chance for you to do that as there are many others going through the same as you. Try and explain that to them if you haven't already tried If that doesn't work then I agree with ann13, I'm not sure what else there is you could do

The concept of being "allowed" at 20 amuses me.

I have very strict unbearable parents. They go through my draws, wardrobes and my things in order to find something against me. I have to hide things like photo's of me and my guy friends because otherwise I'd get in trouble..

Because of them, I think i'm not the bubbly person that I should be. Instead, i've become quiet, and 'boring' because I feel like I'm so depressed. I'm in uni (haven't been allowed to move out for 2 years now) and I lie about having late practicals just so they are forced to let me stay the night at a friend as they don't want me taking the journey home on a train at that time of night.

They are beginning to suspect all these 'late practicals' now but my uni does not give out any details of students so they have no way of knowing that they are not true. I mean in my course, we do have late practicals but only one a semester, I've exaggerated it to one every two weeks so I can spend time with friends etc...

Seeing as I'm not allowed out any other time, I've lost many friends and don't have very many now. But the ones that I do have, I love.

I need to move out but they are against it saying that I don't need my own indepedence etc. Does any one have any advice? What shall i do?

Are they Muslim?

Well, yeah it amuses me too? Most people don't understand how it feels. I don't wanna disobey/disrespect/hurt my parents but at the same time I wanna be happy and have supportive parents that want me to have friends ! The majority of my friends are white therefore they find it odd as well but it's quite depressing for me :/

Yes. I still think its wrong however. I have muslim friends that live out. I just honestly don't understand it. I've been born in this country so I am quite westernised and still like to do things other people my age like doing like clubbing, late night cinema, spontaneous walks to Asda etc etc ... things uni students do!

I can sympathise, there was a day that my parents were just as crude and controlling. I did manage to reason with them eventually after a long struggle.

While people who are saying move out aren't wrong in the sense that it is the eventual best option, you have to take into consideration what will happen after uni?
Will you be able to afford to live alone? Because I doubt you will suddenly be able to go live back with your parents after storming out never to return.
It's hard to change a parents mind especially these type, they always think they are right simply because they're older and more 'experienced'. That being said if you just move out like some people suggest it's not going to be a 'only during uni' situation. Even if it is your parents won't change after uni and you will be back in the same situation once you finish, only this time you don't have any excuses about late lectures.

Sometimes getting advice from people who have never been in your situation is not as helpful as you think, they don't understand the situation as well.
I agree you need to move out, I just think it's wise to pre-plan, maybe wait until you get a job to financial secure a room to live in for after too.

I wish I could rep you, but I'm out unfortunately

You can't disobey your parents you are an adult, not a child. I would say lying and sneaking about is pretty disrespectful. If you want to convince your parents you are a mature trustworthy adult, you should probably act like a mature trustworthy adult.

Perhaps you should just tell your parents you want to move out. Sit down and have a conversation about like adults. You aren't asking for permission you are simply informing them. If they don't trust you to make grown up decisions at 20 then they have failed as parents. Tell them you want to move out now as a halfway house before you have to completely move out when you finish uni. There are valuable life skills to be learned when you live on your own.

Sit down and have a conversation about like adults

There are valuable life skills to be learned when you live on your own

Apply for accommodation without telling them. When you've signed the forms they can't really do anything about it, can they? Might be the unethical way but sometimes you need to rebel to people holding you back, parents or not.