Are dating sites a waste of time?

Just a thought what did people (those who cant get out to meet people due to work/circumstances/being new to the area etc) do to meet people in the days before the internet?

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4: Don't let it go on too long before asking them for a drink. Move to texting or FB quickly.

The problem is most women on dating sites have something wrong with them. Like properly crazy. Mostly illiterate too. There seems to be lots of potential womens at first, but use a few filters, like say filtering out single mothers, and you are left with crap. Bottom of the barrel. Bottom of the ocean. When you meet even decent seeming ones they always turn out to be either insane or a bitch. They are on there for a reason, and the good ones are quickly snapped up.

Meet women IRL.

Maybe they didn't.

Or they just made more of an effort, I guess. There are lots of places people can go pretty much solely to "meet" people, activities that are pretty much designed to pair people up. For example, there seem to be a lot of dance classes around where people go to learn some salsa or whatever, then have a few hours of free dancing afterwards. They're just speed-dating events really.

BUT HOW?

Have you ever been to a dance class? I've been to a few in the past (not expecting to meet anyone just for fun/excercise) and it's mainly women apart from the odd middle aged man whose come along with his wife. Then again maybe more single men went to them back in the day as a way to meet women

Yea, they're mostly women. Which is of course great for men.

Yea, they're mostly women. Which is of course great for men.

Yeah I agree its good for men, not much use for women. I was actually given dance classes as a suggestion when I asked where are good places to meet men on here a while back which I found a bit daft.

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Pretty soul destroying, particularly for men. Converts dating in to something even more competitive and less rewarding than a job interview. Any contacts are likely to be riddled with frustration. I would stick to the work, pub, friends of friends or hobbies as potential sources of partners...

Waste of time for me, people post certain things they are looking for and most the time actually isn't, the 4 or 5 people who I did manage to get a conversation with and seemed to get on, weren't willing to actually meet/go out.

That's the problem. Most girls aren't willing to GO OUT and meet. You aren't dating if you aren't meeting in real life. You can't get to know anyone by just reading messages

The stranger danger bs is usually an excuse as well. The Use of the Internet fr dating is just usually an excuse for more games.


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Nah they're not, my cousin met his fiancée on a dating site about two and a half years ago and now they live together and have a 6 month old son.

If you're having no success then its not because of the dating site but because of the fact that for whatever reason women aren't as interested in you as they'd need to be for there to be a viable connection. It's like saying 'I've tried meeting women by doing everything you possibly can, is this proof that anything you do is a waste of time?'

My guess would be that you're setting yourself up for a fall by wanting to attract the fittest girls and you're assuming that the conventions in the offline world that govern who fit girls usually even speak to are forgotten in the online world just because of the fact that the internet is so innovative. Fact is, it isn't and attractive people generally won't go for someone too below their level of attractiveness if there's a person with similar interests, hobbies and all of the intangibles that will bring about compatibility but who is much better looking.

So don't bother trying to be witty, just put something random/generic - most girls' headlines are dire so who cares?