Who was at fault for us breaking up?

And that was that. I really don't know what to think about the whole situation and how to make sure it never happens again?

I guess I was worried I would look on this in a bitter way and why I wanted some neutral opinions to know whether it was me being unreasonable or not.

Just looking forward to starting university again (Reading to do Accounting and Business), hopefully reclaim some of my social life and definitely get a better degree!

RE: Another. There were frequently times I thought about it but I always thought it would get better and things would fix. Having looked back on it now I realised the relationship had been on life support for a long time. The 10% of the time when we were happy it was the best feeling in the world but the other 90% was just miserable and stressful but I just clung on for that 10% and its that 10% I miss now.

Sounds like she's done you a favour by going on a date with that guy. I don't think this is a matter of class, more that she has taken advantage of your nature and I'm sorry but I get the feeling she didn't care much for you. Going back to University will be a chance for you to start over. And remember everyone needs to be a selfless now and again, don't be a door mat, stand up for yourself once in a while people will respect you more for it. Apologies if that seems a bit harsh, but good luck in University

We broke up for about 6 months in January after she slept with her ex twice which as someone from a family where her dad walked out on her mum I just couldn't fathom??! I had never been cheated on ever before and was totally not prepared for it especially how attached to her I had become in such a short space of time. I did not take it well and ultimately was the catalyst for a depressive spiral that led me to drop out of my second year at university. However I met a new girlfriend, probably a rebound however nice all the same, and as soon as it went on facebook the ex was on the phone "how can you be over me so soon" "i still love you" "please give it another chance" etc. I knew I was still in love with her and decided to give it another shot. This time I was more cautious about getting overly attached however always had this sense of paranoia in the back of my mind.

My ex has M.E. and it comes and goes through bad phases. Third year (or second year again for me) was a very bad patch for her and I ended up virtually becoming a full time carer for much of the year which I have no illusion detracted from my work (not to mention dropping out the previous year led me to forget a lot of my maths). However I loved her and felt it was my duty to look after her even if it meant being at her side all day on the really bad days and never felt angry at her for it. I helped her with her essays and revision, again at the expense of my own, and she graduated with a 2:1 in Anthropology and Archaeology.

Come fourth year (or third for me) and she is now back home and I am still in Durham. She didn't handle the long distance well and insisted on phoning every night and then complained if I was saying I was going "only 20mins" into the call. I always said I'd rather a long phonecall every few days when I have things to talk about rather than every day when I don't necessarily have anything to say. The relationship became depressive, I missed her when she was gone but when we did see each other it was difficult and stressful. I fell out with my college rowing club which till then had been my only sport/social activity and led to another depressive spiral and this time medication. I rapidly put on weight, due to medication and stopping rowing, which my ex was always pointing out and complaining about (only further compounding my issues). I was offered to resit the year again, in hindsight something I should have done, however I just wanted to be done, get out and be back with the girlfriend. Results didn't go well, as expected, and I graduated with a 3rd (June 2012).

Now wind forward to the start of this summer. Its been a year since I graduated, two in her case and neither of us have a job. I decided upon accountancy however with a 3rd I knew I was facing an uphill struggle and so studied the first 6 ACA exams independently in the hope this would mitigate my degree and prove to firms my true potential (bearing in mind 4As at A-Level too). However it didn't work - medium/big firms didn't even offer interviews just citing my degree qualification and then small firms didn't want me for a lack of experience so I was caught between a rock and a hard place. I applied to well over 100 firms all the while my girlfriend, and her mum (who wanted her out of the house), were saying "oh you still haven't got a job yet" and generally making life even more stressful.

Ultimately after talking to someone about what I could do to get into accountancy I decided upon re-applying to do a 2nd undergraduate degree (into accountancy). At this point my girlfriend, and her mum, were just saying "just get any **** job and some money forget accountancy". Easy for her to say, she'd applied to a grand total of 2 jobs in 2 years since graduating (and bear in mind she was much better now) and had effectively said she wanted to live off me. I had always compromised so much for her and I decided to make this decision for myself as I'd never been so motivated to do anything in my life. I tried to reason with the gf, explaining how much it meant to me and how 4 years is a drop in the ocean when you think we'll be working to 70+. I also said "just earning a salary isn't enough to compensate for lack of job satisfaction and potential etc". She still was so against me going to university for long distance reasons so I chose only local universities and even said we could mature accomodation together etc. I thought I had convinced her then a couple of days later she informed me she'd met a guy in a club and had organised a date with him. Almost seemed like a retaliation at me applying to university?