Girl I'm Seeing is a Professional Dominatrix

Ok so I posted a story a while ago regarding a relationship I was having with a girl who only seems to be interested in casual sex and nothing more. I had stated my interest in becoming exclusive on a couple of occasions to her; but this was a notion she rejected.

I haven't made any progress with this per se, but there has been a few developments. She used my laptop the other night to show me several accounts on websites she held. There was some unusual activity on Twitter, Amazon, Paypal and a couple of seedy websites of which mentioning is not permissible.

She has posted countless provocative pictures of herself on Twitter. Many of them are pictures of her arse, tits, legs, naval and feet. There are also many pictures of her clad in stockings and suspenders, various other lingerie, expensive high heels, over-the-knee leather boots and I could go on and on. If it's sultry, she's probably thought of it. The Twitter feed is rammed with men thanking her for things such as "her attention" and "letting them buy her things" and "tributing her".

She has a PayPal balance that is almost £1000, an Amazon gift card balance of roughly £3000 and there is also a "Wishlist" on there that has pages and pages of items she wants these men to buy for her. The "purchased page" (items that have already been bought for her) is 9 pages long and is made up primarily of clothes, shoes, jewellery, things for the home and some other things that I would consider useless garbage.

All I could do was ask her how she'd managed to pull this off; but she would not give a straight answer. It had previously occurred to me; that this girl was not only majestically beautiful, but she is also very articulate and can describe emotions and sensations incredibly well. I looked at a couple of conversations on her Twitter feed and she is very adept at telling these men how worthless and pathetic they are.

There is also countless Tweets where she openly brags about how amazing and wonderful her life is. She has no shame at all in describing what she is doing with all this money that is handed to her, and she regularly torments men she assures me are "lonely, no-life, ugly losers" about how she is living the "party girl lifestyle". In fairness, she does hit the town most weekends and she does seem to spend an awful lot of time in spas and being pampered. This is all financed by strangers over the internet.

Yeah so I was thinking it's probably just an earner for her; but it seems like it actually does turn her on. Problem is, she wants me to be involved. Basically, she charges these men for the fact that she caters to their fetishes and fantasies, and some of them want to be "cuckolded". She wants me to make my own Wishlist and she also wants me to sit with her while she talks to some of these men on Skype. She said the men would remain addicted to her more easily if they were permitted to jealously, agonizingly and frustratingly witness us share deep, passionate and long french kisses on webcam. She assured me that that's it and I wouldn't have to do anything else. In addition, she wants to do these Skype conversations dressed in nothing but her lingerie, to give the impression that she will be being pleasured the second the conversation is over. And trust me if I agree, she will be.

I'm wondering if I should just cut this girl loose? I think I am being used. She takes precious little interest in me at all, and when she informed that she was going to share a part of her life that she hasn't shared with anyone yet, I assumed I was making some progress towards a normal relationship with her. Instead, I have an offer to become an amateur soft-core porn star.

Those women make me the same sort of sick I feel when I think of any other absolute and unjustified power, but as ever with these sorts of things it's also kind of hot, and society says emotional abuse of men doesn't really exist so you can be evil without censure and have the most sadistic fun of your life. Also one to tell the grandkids

Well that's highly unhelpful, unfair, judgemental and unjustified.
Kind of feel sick when I see people who think they have an absolute right to judge people for what they do and enjoy.


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Treat her to the real world, demand your share of her items/money and go no contact. She really deserves that.

I was trying to convey how the exercise of unjustified and unassailable power (which I think you'll agree is where the kick comes from) is both repulsive and hot at the same time - as with most sexual kinks. I would also find it hot being in his (or her) position. The use of words like "evil" and "sadistic" were not meant to be moralising but an in-universe perspective, clearly the transgressivity of their actions is where the thrill lies. Sex isn't all happy-clappy, especially not kinky sex, it usually consists in the expression in a sandbox of a socially repressed drive to do evil or commit transgression, which all of us have.

As with all domination games this stuff does have the potential to get out of hand and due to the fact that the submissive takes the initiative it is I think more liable to become a destructive addiction than stuff like physical dominance where the submissive is usually passive. That is dangerous because the submissive is not exactly going to call the thing to a halt if he is addicted to the very prospect of pushing himself further.

There is a great moralising debate constantly being simmered over the fire on traditional physical domination relationships, and sadistic porn, i.e. whether the woman has been coerced or forced to take part. However, emotional abuse (real or simulated) is less visible, and the fact that it's a man who is the submissive makes him doubly invisible. The fact that this is domination at a distance means the woman is not likely to be sensitive of when she has crossed the line with her submissive. There is therefore a tremendous duty of care towards the submissive which should be taking place.

Not to mention that if a man were to do this he would probably be arrested for targeting vulnerable women for financial exploitation, consent or no consent. But men can be just as vulnerable, if not more so, to emotional exploitation from women.

Good chance to make money though eh!
But yeah it's not going to work out long term is it? If that's all you want maybe cut it loose or just have fun.


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If you do it, do it for the money and free stuff and not because you want a relationship with this girl because you will never have one.

Well that's highly unhelpful, unfair, judgemental and unjustified.
Kind of feel sick when I see people who think they have an absolute right to judge people for what they do and enjoy.


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