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20 year old virgin

I am 20 years old and am a virgin. I have a boyfriend but we can't seem to have sex. I've never fingered myself as I can't really find my 'hole' or I'm just too small. It hurts when he tries and that makes him feel bad for hurting me so he goes flacid. He is also a virgin so it's making me feel bad that he can't experience sex because of me. I want to have sex...I am ready, definitely! I don't know what to do. It's making us grow further apart. I've considered leaving him but he likes me too much. I just wanted to experience it with someone who knows what they are doing so I can then have sex with him so we can have a healthy relationship. What do I do? Please help me out.

Reply 1

Share Sharqi

Is this a bizarre way of asking for a threesome with another guy?

Reply 2

Martina_

I'm a virgin too but I've done some reading on this stuff, so maybe I can help. Have you heard of lube? Invest in one and whack it in there. Get him to go slowly :smile:

Goodluck

Reply 3

1994124

We've tried lube...I dunno if I'm allergic to anything but it just stings and feels really uncomfortable.

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

Original post by Share Sharqi

Is this a bizarre way of asking for a threesome with another guy?

No...why would I want to do that when I can't be intimate with one person?

Reply 5

Anonymous #2

Original post by 1994124

We've tried lube...I dunno if I'm allergic to anything but it just stings and feels really uncomfortable.

are you the thread starter? try watching porn together, not the nasty **** though..

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

Original post by Anonymous

are you the thread starter? try watching porn together, not the nasty **** though..

Yeah I am, it's not the getting 'horny' part though...I've watched porn with him, he says he doesn't like it.

Reply 7

Anonymous #3

You need to find your hole by yourself before you make him try.. that's your first problem. Get to know your own body and then you'll be more comfortable with him getting to know it too. Try masturbating by yourself, use some lube, I'd suggest a dildo but you might not want an artificial penis to be the first one that you.. yano.... however many girls do this before actually having sex as it opens them up a bit and you've said you're too small so.. it's an idea. Btw, masturbating to orgasm for girls doesn't necessarily mean using your hole, you use your clit.. maybe google it? You need to be exploring your pleasure senses by yourself before exploring them with your boyfriend, because at this point you don't know what you like etc..
For sex, you should at least be getting a finger or two in there by yourself before you attempt it.. just get to know your vagina. Definitely use lube on your first time. Sex is a big part of a relationship in my eyes so I do think it's important to fix this, and since you've said you're ready, there should be no problems if you do what I said :smile: