When my Mum was 18 she met a guy and fell in love. They planned a wedding, planned a life together. This man is not my father he's biologically my half brother. When my mum was 21 her Fiancée was killed in a car crash. While stricken by grief and mourning she was raped by her dead fiancées father. I know because I am the result of that rape.
My Mum was scared and didn't know what to do, she didn't want to raise a child alone and was too ashamed to tell anyone what happened so she stayed with him. We've (me and her) have endured 21 years of domestic abuse, violence and evil at his hands. A few of our family know, and the police have been involved a few times, each time just giving him a caution or warning. We still live with him to this day, I'm trying to get independence and stand on my own two feet but my Mum just seems to frightened to do so, she has gotten used to this life, as have I (it's all I;ve ever known) and doesn't seem to want to do anything about her predicament. I know I will always be anchored to him because my mum is that anchor, I can't leave her, but she;s too scared to leave him.
It's not just the physical side, it's the emotional side as well, he is cruel in his words towards us, constantly making jibes and fun at whatever he can about us such as my nans ill health, my aunts mental state, our weight, my lack of success with girls, the fact I had to repeat a year of school, the fact my mum struggles to find a job, the fact I cant drive, the list is endless.
I'm bisexual and I dare not come out, as I know the violence that would follow, did I mention he's extremely homophobic and racist?
For 18 years he pretended to be paying the mortgage and demanded some of my mums Child Support money and other benefits to contribute towards the mortgage, it transpired he was only paying off the interest and was instead just spending the money on gambling.
He spends his money on a family (friends of his) in Wales, who equally are not nice people, (they boast about denying the grandparents access to their grandkids, and the mother forced the nan out of her house).
Why is this relevant? Because finally, as one small mercy towards my mother, my so called "father" promised that when he died (he's 72) she would be able to keep his half the house (wouldn't be able to keep it as the mortgage is not paid, but at least she'd get some money from selling it) but as yet another act of cruelty we have found out instead he is going to write a will to ensure that nothing he owns goes to me or my Mum, but it all goes to the nasty family in Wales.
I personally never wanted any money from him, I don't want anything to do with him, but yet again my poor Mum has been trampled on by him for no reason other than he gets his kicks from being cruel.
After 21 years of cruelty and evil, I really really want him to die, (obviously I'm not going to kill him, I;m not going to throw my life away, I just want him to go) and can't wait for the day he dies, because I feel the Earth truly will be a better place without him and his brand of evil cruelty.
I told all this to someone very close to me, and they just told me how bad I was for wanting him dead, and that I shouldn't wish someone dead. I was shocked, after all this cruelty, abuse and pain, I am the bad one for simply wishing him to be dead. Is that true?