Open Relationships - Would you have one?

Glad you got it sorted OP.

Just curious did you ask him why he wanted/was thinking of one?
Perhaps it was him saying (badly) he wants spicier sex? Kinky sex/3some etc? Perhaps explore the sexual reasoning behind him asking-it can only mean fun for the both of you!

Sexploration ftw!

Yeah he basically wanted a bit more excitement, going to start using more toys and props, do some roleplay. No 3somes though I don't share and he knows that now.

Glad you got it sorted OP.

Just curious did you ask him why he wanted/was thinking of one?

Perhaps it was him saying (badly) he wants spicier sex? Kinky sex/3some etc? Perhaps explore the sexual reasoning behind him asking-it can only mean fun for the both of you!

Sexploration ftw!

Eh?! I never mentioned sex...I'm talking about how do you deal with it emotionally that in a normal relationship one partner is content with the other for their entire life, whereas in yours, you only count for 50%.

Plus don't you feel that you clearly haven't met the right person if you are willing to share them? More than that, if you don't even have a compatible sex drive? Sounds more like rather than being single, you'd prefer to be someones side girl...

The thing is, I'm in love with both my boyfriend and girlfriend. If it's a vee, maybe I would've felt like being a side girl.

I have met the right two people. Some girls think the physical absence or presence of a penis doesn't make much difference to sex but it does. My gf eats pussy way better than my bf - and my bf gives me better anal.

Like it was said by another person in this thread, for me to be monogamous I need someone who has both sets of parts. But even I find that person, you may applaud me but there would be societal stigma from someone else. I just can't win, being bi, at least in the eyes of society.

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How about you get a guy who can go down on you well, and then aren't you sorted? Thing is, you don't need both genders. I like blondes, brunettes, asians and Mediterranean women. I'm not going to end up with 4 women am I? That's ridiculous.

Also you didn't actually answer the question, just stated you are in love with the both of them. Don't you think the relationship is weaker as you are only 50% of the relationship? If you and your bf have an argument, isn't it more likely that he could just pack up shop and go mono with the other girl?

And you're entitled to think that, but you're not entitled to condemn those who don't feel the same. Live and let live.


And Aesthetic and sexual preferences are very different things.

It's my right to think what I want of others and their actions.

Well personally I'm dubious as hell about bisexuality as it is. Those who are bi I have found are those who simply want a relationship and will settle for someone who likes them, and someone can be of either gender. It's a preference born out of insecurity I've found.

I said it was your right to have an opinion. Making someone feel bad or "damaged" because they choose to live al alternative lifestyle is not your right. It is bullying.


Do you think being gay is born out of insecurity too?

Some people like men and women. Get over it.

I'm not making them feel anything. From what they tell me, I tell them why it sounds like they are in the relationship they are. With things like poly relationships, so far a reason seems to be a fear of being alone so much so they aren't willing to break up with their partner, so just add in a third person into the mix. Not my fault if that's their reasoning. It's not bullying, don't be absurdly PC

Depends. I have seen both cases. I have seen someone who was so petrified of girls, yet he was attracted to them, that his overwhelming need for a relationship, born from emotional insecurity, made he claim he was gay.

You need to get over the fact that I'm probably right. So deal with that, that a lot of people live an alternative lifestyle because they are emotionally damaged. Or you can carry on pretending otherwise, I don't really give a **** because the majority of people with that attitude end up getting stung by it really badly. What a shame

Some people even like animals. As a matter of fact I even saw a documentary where these people were actually sexually attracted to cars and fell in love with them, who would have thought eh!? Let people live how they want to live I say, it's their life not yours and at the end of the day you only live once and everyone wants happiness and love, whether that comes from 1,2,3,20 or 100 people who cares, be who you want to be not what others expect you to be.

Completely wrong on every count. Whereas I think you are terrified of making a call about these people because it would mean you'd have to look at your own life,the choices you've made and the actual genuine reasons behind them. That is something you sure as hell are not going to do anytime soon. Am I close?

Nah I'm pretty content with my life thanks.

I watched that too! So weird but so interesting! :-) that woman married the Berlin Wall and changed her name to "so and so Berlin Wall"<---didn't even know that was possible! Lol

Wait, what? You think superficial happiness and genuine contentment are the same? So a crackhead and the Dali lama are just as happy ad each other?

No you cant pick apart every decision a person has made and attribute it to insecurities. We both know that's a baseless comment...

Making sure that the OP, a living human being, sees the advice she is given with perspective is hardly bullying, unless you think every single employee in mental health is a bully. Its an unpleasant truth, but mentioning it to ensure the OP can make a good decision is me being considerate.

No you're a bully. Not to the OP but to the poly people on this thread. They're entitled to live their lives with out prejudice or judgement from an il-informed bigot.