My boyfriend told me he’s bisexual

My boyfriend of almost 4 years told me he’s bi curious. His fantasy is to have a mmf threesom*. He told me that he doesn’t find male attractive. But the sexual acts of the p**is. His fantasy is to give bl**j*b. I’m shocked that he told me this as there was never any signs. Should I leave him explore it? He’s stating that he wants me to be involved, but I don’t want to. Should I just walk away because I don’t want to hold him back?

My boyfriend of almost 4 years told me he’s bi curious. His fantasy is to have a mmf threesom*. He told me that he doesn’t find male attractive. But the sexual acts of the p**is. His fantasy is to give bl**j*b. I’m shocked that he told me this as there was never any signs. Should I leave him explore it? He’s stating that he wants me to be involved, but I don’t want to. Should I just walk away because I don’t want to hold him back?

My boyfriend is bisexual (well actually pansexual, but he has dated men in the past). Personally, it doesn't bother me at all. He's expressed an interest in threesomes with both men and women in the future, which I'd be open to. Really, it depends on you. If you are definitely not open to what he has suggested, it might just be a case that you're not right for each other if that is something he definitely wants to pursue. If you were to try any of it, make sure you agree boundaries beforehand. For example, in my relationship we would have an understanding that any other people involved in our sex life would just be for sex, not emotional attachment. We would both have to agree on who it would be and what specific things we would each be OK with doing. Someone being sexually attracted to different genders is not unusual, but you not wanting to explore that is also completely fine. If this difference is having a negative impact on your relationship, though, it might mean your differences will make your relationship difficult to maintain in the long-run, especially if you are worried your boyfriend is not satisfied or is seeking to satisfy his desires elsewhere behind your back.

My boyfriend of almost 4 years told me he’s bi curious. His fantasy is to have a mmf threesom*. He told me that he doesn’t find male attractive. But the sexual acts of the p**is. His fantasy is to give bl**j*b. I’m shocked that he told me this as there was never any signs. Should I leave him explore it? He’s stating that he wants me to be involved, but I don’t want to. Should I just walk away because I don’t want to hold him back?

Thank you for your feedback. I have given him consent to explore and made it clear that I don’t want to be involved in a three***e. As this was the main thing he wanted. He wanted to explore it with me. But I’ve only ever had s*x with him and want to keep it that way. I told him that we could go to Amsterdam etc as he doesn’t want to do it locally. He finds it weird how I’m ok with leaving him explore it without me and is mad at the fact that I’m ok with it, stating that I’m opening up the relationship. But I told him it’s not really open, just that I don’t want to be down the line with him, with kids etc and him regretting it and doing it behind my back. I’ve asked him what does he want to do. Giver/taker and he told me that it’s the bl**job that turns him on, him giving it to a guy. He definitely has issues admitting that he’s bi and loses it at times. I don’t know what more I can do to be honest. I’m just grateful he told me now, rather than down the line. I’ll definitely be there for him as a friend. I don’t know will I be continuing the relationship just yet.

My boyfriend of almost 4 years told me he’s bi curious. His fantasy is to have a mmf threesom*. He told me that he doesn’t find male attractive. But the sexual acts of the p**is. His fantasy is to give bl**j*b. I’m shocked that he told me this as there was never any signs. Should I leave him explore it? He’s stating that he wants me to be involved, but I don’t want to. Should I just walk away because I don’t want to hold him back?

I don't see why him being bi is a negative thing. To me it shows he is comfortable telling you things that most people never tell to anyone. Surely that is a good thing for your relationship with him?

With the MMF threesome, you cannot say you do not have a sexual fetish or fantasy yourself, maybe not like his, but everyone had a kink they'd like to explore. Only because he'd like to try it. Doesn't mean he will or is cheating on you either.

To me you seem to have an issue with him being bi, otherwise you wouldn't have posted about it.. if it is a big deal to you, end the relationship and explain why, but to me I don't see that he's done anything wrong by telling you this.

Please bare in mind I've personally Never been in a relationship (20M) so do with my advice how you'd like..

I don't see why him being bi is a negative thing. To me it shows he is comfortable telling you things that most people never tell to anyone. Surely that is a good thing for your relationship with him?

With the MMF threesome, you cannot say you do not have a sexual fetish or fantasy yourself, maybe not like his, but everyone had a kink they'd like to explore. Only because he'd like to try it. Doesn't mean he will or is cheating on you either.

To me you seem to have an issue with him being bi, otherwise you wouldn't have posted about it.. if it is a big deal to you, end the relationship and explain why, but to me I don't see that he's done anything wrong by telling you this.

Please bare in mind I've personally Never been in a relationship (20M) so do with my advice how you'd like..

My boyfriend of almost 4 years told me he’s bi curious. His fantasy is to have a mmf threesom*. He told me that he doesn’t find male attractive. But the sexual acts of the p**is. His fantasy is to give bl**j*b. I’m shocked that he told me this as there was never any signs. Should I leave him explore it? He’s stating that he wants me to be involved, but I don’t want to. Should I just walk away because I don’t want to hold him back?