Retaking A levels, how to not be lonely now all my friends have left?

So, here is the deal, I essentially messed up half my A levels and ended up picking up two extra AS's while doing two A2's in my "real" year group. Needless to say, I completed the A2's and all my friends left and went to uni... Great. I am currently studying the other two subjects at A2 and have picked up an AS (waste of time but to do with funding). I have a number of friends in the year below (my new year) but really miss my old friends, I just have nothing to do and my new friends are not really that meety uppy and I just have not a lot to do. Alongside this I am desperate to leave home and just feel so down sometimes. I exercise lots and seem like the happy guy to everyone apart from a few close friends who I skype and have visited. I just don't want to feel like this especially as exams near. I just am struggling a lot each night when I go to bed I just sit there and want to curl up. Has anyone had a similar experience or just have any ideas to keep momentum going that little bit longer and stop feeling so alone? I don't have too long but am hoping to go study history in Lincoln and need to be able to concentrate on getting good enough grades.

(edited 9 years ago)

Reply 1

theantiparticle

I also took an extra year to finish my A Levels, it was tough at the time but the way i got through it was constantly reminding myself why i was doing this, why it is worth all the work and emotional stress. It is certainly a character building experience. It will be so worth it though when you get to uni! I also had a part time job and made sure i kept myself busy as much as i could with worthwhile things like fitness as well as loads of studying. The rest of the year will fly by if you keep as busy as possible

Reply 2

MaroonWalnut

Original post by theantiparticle

I have a part time job which helps giving something to think about, did you do any socialising in that year? What did you end up doing after ojt of interest? Thanks!

Reply 3

theantiparticle

Yeah i mostly socialized with friends who didn't go to sixth form who i knew from secondary school and also with the people at my part time work, it was fine. I ended up doing Aerospace Engineering. Also you could spend more time reading things such as relevant books for your area of study and also a good newspaper, you can never read too much!

Reply 4

MaroonWalnut

Yeh I try, it's sort of a rather shallow friendship but every little helps! Damn that sounds impressive! Aha I am reading a history book as we speak! Did you find it hard when you had nothing going on and you were talking to your friends who had gone to uni and were out most nights having a great time with lots of new friends?

Reply 5

theantiparticle

Thanks, i sometimes wish i had done Physics though :/ .Yeah i guess it was a little hard sometimes but i just reminded myself that i will be at uni soon and that my time is coming. When i did get to first year i felt that the year out really benefited me, i was a year ahead in terms of maturity and i had already done plenty of clubbing and that sort of thing so i didn't go as crazy as i probably would have in my first year if i was 18 which probably helped my grades.

Reply 6

MaroonWalnut

Ah, you feel like you want a broader subject? Yes, I certainly feel like I will not waste any time when I get there and I will really appreciate it and be a lot more settled!

Reply 7

AR_95

Original post by MaroonWalnut

I'm in a similar situation really. On an unintentional gap year to resit and all my friends have left for uni. It's a good thing you've got a part time job as that gives you something to do. Really you just want to stay as busy as possible, whether that be studying, going out working or whatever. Look ahead to the long term goal which is getting a place at Uni and your life will pretty much change compared to what it is now. Just keep your head up high man :smile: