cheated on my bf, ama

it was a bit weird. he was much smaller. but to be honest i've not really thought a lot about the actual act, i've instead been thinking about how stupid i was to do it in the first place, and how much it will hurt my boyfriend

Have you no shame/regrets? Smh

If after 4 years my partner cheated on me, I would feel betrayed and totally worthless.

I really hope you do feel ashamed of yourself, we all need to stop living in the moment and realise how much harm our actions can do to others, especially the people we care about the most.

You will now be forever branded as a cheat, and although people change its going to make relationships hard in the future if people get word of what happened.

We all make mistakes, and sadly in this situation this guy that probably loves you deeply has to have his heart broken. He Cared about you, pity you didnt feel the same about him... or else we wouldnt be here.

What made you decide to do it?

I'm sorry but you don't understand a womans basic instinct and desire. All women cheat on their man, a womans love is only conditional and they are not designed to love one man forever.

i agree with you. i don't deserve him, definitely need to tell him, and he should end things with me. i know i'll never do it again, to anyone.

of course i feel bad is that a joke, i properly cared about him.

Don't get me wrong I feel a bit for you after scrolling through your replies, and I'm happy that you're willing to own up.

I really hope you feel guilty, and it is his decision to make, not yours.

Though I don't control my partner at all, I do express that they try not to get drunk or influenced by any kind of drug because it's just not healthy and lots of men will take advantage of that state. What my partner does is up to her, but I'd suggest you tone it down on the alcohol if that's what did half of the job for you.

This is coming from someone who doesn't drink or do drugs the vast majority of the time though.

i don't normally drink too much, but a couple of friends had been buying me drinks that night and i guess i overdid it. i'm definitely not blaming it on the alcohol though, it's still totally my own fault
i know i wouldn't have done it sober, but it's not like alcohol suddenly makes you sprout wings or anything does it, it just impairs judgement so you sort of forget how stupid the things you're doing really are

i won't be making this kind of mistake again trust me

I don't understand how you can care about someone and then do that to them???

But anyway who am I to judge, I just hope this all works out for you and him, just please dont do what some girls do after cheating, and try to force him into staying against his will.

This isn't a question but you did good. All men deserve to be cheated on.


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Well the fact it impairs judgement isn't good at all. Did your 'best friend' buy you drinks?

And good, it's a horrible thing to do.

What I also dont understand which is totally in OP's defence, is why this "best friend" slept with her knowing she was in a long term relationship, IMO he is equally to blame.

19 year old female at uni, cheated on my long term bf the other day. ask me anything

neither do i. i was always horrified to hear stories of people cheating, yet here i am having done exactly the same thing. i genuinely thought i'd be with him forever, not sure what i was playing at.
i would never force him into staying, it's completely his decision
i'll be devastated to lose him, but at the end of the day it is entirely my own fault and i just have to own it

yes, but we all buy each other drinks so don't read into that too much
i'm fully aware it's a horrible thing to do

well if you can figure it out please go ahead and explain it to me
because i have no idea why i decided to betray him like that

This isn't a question but you did good. All men deserve to be cheated on.


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I actually do feel some sort of sympathy for you, and I know its wrong to because you did what you did and its still morally wrong, but I feel like you had no idea what you were doing, and your best friend just played on the fact that you were drunk and lacking inhibitions due to that, and managed to get you into bed.

It could be anything, you did say you liked your best friend so maybe since you have known him he has taken your signals on board and totally misunderstood the situation.

I dont know, you have a long chat to worry about anyway, I would think about how best to word it without sounding cold heated, but also without making it sound like your a lost girl (if you get me).

Good luck.

Does it bother you that having demonstrated that you do not value loyalty, i and others consider you inferior.