Who believes sex should be after marriage

You seem to be suggesting that sex before marriage is part of some societal problem. So are you saying that ALL people who only engage in sex after marriage are all perfect individuals, who don't lie to their partners or have extra marital affairs? All of them?

why are you making it a deal of all or nothing

My umbridge isn't with people who choose to have sex only in marriage. That is their choice. I do however have a problem with folks who point the finger at people who choose promiscuity and then blame that on the ills of society.

The experiences would make you greedy to have more sex with others and make you less happy once married.
Also casual sex is still a society issue of the western nation, the stigma of casual sex/many partners pre marriage exists in most other parts of the world who value the traditional relationship, marriage, family set up.

Studies have shown definitive correlation between number of sexual partners and divorce rates. It’s not the sex, specifically, that makes certain women bad relationship and marriage material. It’s the type of woman they are. Promiscuous sex is a symptom of the fact that these women are poor relationship prospects. Not the cause. (Teachman, 2003)

Anywho, marriage is on the decline these days since it's culturally more acceptable to have pre-marital shared living arrangements.

I only want to have it with one guy - the man I l lose my virginity to would hopefully be the same man I marry. Wouldn't want to rush into it either, like my friend who only waited a month of being with her boyfriend before they did it. I'd like to wait til marriage, or pretty close to it, but doesn't seem like there are many people willing to! I'd want to wait for me, rather than for religious reasons though.

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but what if you end up getting divorced or he dies?

Will you never have sex or a relationship again?

That's different though. I would hope never to divorce, but in the case of my husband dying then yeah remarry.
I just mean I don't want to have a string of sexual partners who meant nothing. I feel like it's sort of like the person I give myself to completely should be someone I'd stay with forever, otherwise it just becomes meaningless. Plus there's always the risk of pregnancy and I don't want children before marriage.

Genuine question this - what if you marry and have sex for the first time and it is rubbish. Or he is a selfish lover, in it for himself expecting you to lie back and think about doing the ironing? I really don't understand why sex is such a taboo subject or held in high regard. The reality is that it is jolly good fun and a neat (well pretty messy actually) way of making babies.

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Anyone who believes sex before marriage should not be an issue which is taken seriously, is clearly part of the problem nowadays as a result of the promotion of promiscuity through the increased acceptance of contraception etc. If you love someone enough to get married to them, then whats the harm in waiting until after marriage to do the deed? just saying.. But i guess if you haven't found God yet then your not going to care.

Genuine question this - what if you marry and have sex for the first time and it is rubbish. Or he is a selfish lover, in it for himself expecting you to lie back and think about doing the ironing? I really don't understand why sex is such a taboo subject or held in high regard. The reality is that it is jolly good fun and a neat (well pretty messy actually) way of making babies.