How can I find an attractive boyfriend?

OP

Why do you have this right? Why does it matter to you if he serves in Starbucks or owns a hedge fund?

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Because I find it attractive if a guy has a good job/is educated.

Reply 21

sparklenshine

OP

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Original post by toonervoustotalk

Ok same as me
You can try and work on your social skills or try online dating?

Online dating seems a bit weird. Is it actually common though? Is that what most people do?

Reply 22

sparklenshine

OP

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Original post by Gwenuin

OP I'm gonna put this simply.

There are two main things (broadly) that people look for in a partner; looks, and personality. If you are as good looking as you say, your personality is putting people off.

I don't know you personally, I'm not going to jump to conclusions, but something must be putting people off. Maybe you are antisocial or annoy people, I'm not going to speculate, you find your own solution to what is deterring people, we can't troubleshoot your life for you based on a couple of posts. Good luck and hopefully things take a turn for you :h:

Yeah I am anti-social. I don't know what is deterring people, that's my point. I don't really think there's anything big that would set me apart in a bad way..so depressing. but thanks x

Reply 23

toonervoustotalk

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Original post by sparklenshine

Online dating seems a bit weird. Is it actually common though? Is that what most people do?

It does seem strange to me as well
I like to meet the person face to face where they would be less likely to lie
Idk if it is common tbh

Reply 24

Anonymous #1

Hey OP, could you post a pic of yourself? you say you're good looking but maybe not as good as you think you are if noone is asking you out? As others said, if you are good looking it's possibly because your personality puts others off.

For starters you said that you don't have high standards then proceeded to say he must be tall, attractive, intelligent and in a good job. perhaps you're shooting yourself in the foot by limiting the category of people who you can date like that.

Reply 25

troubadour.

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Original post by sparklenshine

Why?

Because in putting up a very similar thread so soon after the last one, you've basically forfeited the benefit of anonymity, namely being able to talk the way you did on the last thread without consequence. :tongue:

Anyway, good luck.

Reply 26

username1799509

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Original post by sparklenshine

I'm 24 and I've never been asked out or been on a date. I've always been single.

I used to model as a child and teenager and consider myself fairly attractive. I've noticed men staring at me and quickly looking away when I notice.

I don't have high standards but I want a boyfriend or at least a date and I wanted to know how I can find someone attractive to be with.

I see many women with good looking men and wanted to know how/where you meet them. If any girls can give me some information that would be really helpful!

I'd like to know how you met your boyfriend if he is attractive and if you consider yourself attractive too.

I like tall and well dressed men who have good jobs etc. because that is how I am.

Thanks! x

Right here :wink:

Reply 27

Norah.DM

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Original post by sparklenshine

No I'm not social and do not have any guy friends or any friends in general

Well maybe that's where you should start. If you don't want to use any dating sites/apps even though I really would recommend tinder, I don't personally use it but my brother has met some really nice girls, unfortunately he has commitment issues, sorry I'm rambling. If you don't want to meet anyone online how on earth are you going to meet anyone in real life if you aren't social/don't have many friends?

Anyway you say your at uni so don't you go to any parties? I've always found that if you have loads of guy friends one of them is defo more than likely to wanna coppafeel :colondollar:

Are you in halls? Join a club or the SU? Is there no one on your course that floats your boat? Maybe have a bit of a revision club with them? Though tbh I don't think Physics is really a very, well you know, course full of fine male specimens... :s-smilie:

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Reply 28

Eveiebaby

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I'm not classically beautiful (read:need to lose weight) but I still got a boyfriend by putting myself in situations where there would be more men. It's really important to develop your social life in order to present the opportunities. Meet up have lots of interest groups and social groups. I suggest you meet those, develop friendships with women and men and it is usually through events with friends of friends that a pool of opportunity presents itself.

Also I have to say you have a very naive idea of how courtship happens. If you leave it up to men to approach you, you'll notice the same kind of guy will approach you. The guys who are used to approaching may not be the kind of guy you want to be a relationship as they're more likely to be employing a numbers approach (I. E Anything that bites will do)

To have control over the situation and ensure that you get who you want, you need to either approach the men YOU want or at least give overt signals. You need to display that you're a fun, flirty person and being beautiful yet stern isn't going to be stand out as much as someone who is warm amd gregarious. I'd hazard a guess that the fun and girl next door types are more lucky in love than those who are beautiful yet uptight. You have to ask yourself - are not only nice but are you engaging and interesting to be around?

Being anti social is definitely an issue you need to get over. If you got in a relationship you would be burdening him with 100% of your social needs if you have no one else in the world but him. Dependency is an unattractive trait.

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Reply 29

cole-slaw

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Original post by sparklenshine

I'm 24 and I've never been asked out or been on a date. I've always been single.

I used to model as a child and teenager and consider myself fairly attractive. I've noticed men staring at me and quickly looking away when I notice.

I don't have high standards but I want a boyfriend or at least a date and I wanted to know how I can find someone attractive to be with.

I see many women with good looking men and wanted to know how/where you meet them. If any girls can give me some information that would be really helpful!

I'd like to know how you met your boyfriend if he is attractive and if you consider yourself attractive too.

I like tall and well dressed men who have good jobs etc. because that is how I am.

Thanks! x

You need to get yourself into a social situation whereby you meet 2 new men every week. Are you achieving that?

Reply 30

shawn_o1

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Basically OP only you can change yourself. Be confident. Talk to people.

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Reply 31

toonervoustotalk

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Original post by cole-slaw

You need to get yourself into a social situation whereby you meet 2 new men every week. Are you achieving that?

She is doing physics at imperial so it should be easy there
It is a sausage fest there :lol:

Reply 32

gijops

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Original post by sparklenshine

I'm 24 and I've never been asked out or been on a date. I've always been single.

I used to model as a child and teenager and consider myself fairly attractive. I've noticed men staring at me and quickly looking away when I notice.

I don't have high standards but I want a boyfriend or at least a date and I wanted to know how I can find someone attractive to be with.

I see many women with good looking men and wanted to know how/where you meet them. If any girls can give me some information that would be really helpful!

I'd like to know how you met your boyfriend if he is attractive and if you consider yourself attractive too.

I like tall and well dressed men who have good jobs etc. because that is how I am.

Thanks! x

Well I'm no expert, but I can tell you where your not gonna find this man...... on TSR. Seriously the only way you can have find a bloke that is all of the following: Single, good looking, well-employed, looking for a girlfriend is by pure coincidence... I know where you can find good looking guys, I used to work at Abercrombie and Fitch and no homo but the fellas there were handsome as fukk. I can also tell you where you can find rich guys.... I did work experience at an investment bank (J.P. Morgan) and those guys are well-paid but their not good looking and most of them are barely over 5ft tall. At 6 foot 3 I was by a mile the tallest person there and seeing as you used to model I'm guessing your at least 5'8"?

anyway long story short, it's just gonna be a coincidence as to when and where you find your man that ticks all the boxes, so just keep going out to social places and he's sure to come around some time

Reply 33

phoenixsilver

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Original post by gijops

Well I'm no expert, but I can tell you where your not gonna find this man...... on TSR. Seriously the only way you can have find a bloke that is all of the following: Single, good looking, well-employed, looking for a girlfriend is by pure coincidence... I know where you can find good looking guys, I used to work at Abercrombie and Fitch and no homo but the fellas there were handsome as fukk. I can also tell you where you can find rich guys.... I did work experience at an investment bank (J.P. Morgan) and those guys are well-paid but their not good looking and most of them are barely over 5ft tall. At 6 foot 3 I was by a mile the tallest person there and seeing as you used to model I'm guessing your at least 5'8"?

anyway long story short, it's just gonna be a coincidence as to when and where you find your man that ticks all the boxes, so just keep going out to social places and he's sure to come around some time

Do you have no clue as to how superficial this sounds?
I'm not referring to appearance - as it's an important part of attraction - but seriously, why does money matter?
If I was to go out with a girl I wouldn't care how much money she earns/has and I would expect the same treatment...

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Reply 34

CaptainJosh

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You again? I thought we'd already settled this, I'm taking you out.

Reply 35

zyzzyspirit

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Original post by CaptainJosh

You again? I thought we'd already settled this, I'm taking you out.

Don't kill anyone please.

Reply 36

Eveiebaby

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Original post by phoenixsilver

Do you have no clue as to how superficial this sounds?
I'm not referring to appearance - as it's an important part of attraction - but seriously, why does money matter?
If I was to go out with a girl I wouldn't care how much money she earns/has and I would expect the same treatment...

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It seems that you don't have a handle on living costs. One of two at least needs to earn enough to pay the rent if you're living with each other and I don't personally feel that it's fair to burden one person with all the bills etc. It can cause arguments and resentment, not to mention not being able to enjoy going out or going on holiday or having to live in a leaking hole because you are sharing one wage.

I'm not saying that serious dollar is needed, but working at costa at the age of 25+ on minimum wage? That just won't do especially if you live in a city. I'd want my partner to earn at least £23,000 and even that would make me the main breadwinner.

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Reply 37

karl pilkington

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You are basically a physics geek who wants a tall attractive boyfriend so what?

Reply 38

Swindle

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Original post by sparklenshine

I'm studying PhD Theoretical Physics at Imperial. I think I have a right to expect my boyfriend to have good job. Money doesn't matter. Good job does not = being rich.