Firstly, sorry if this post is in the wrong forum - but I didn't think it would quite suit the 'Faith and Spirituality' forum.
Basically, around February of this year, I realised that I was an atheist. It wasn't exactly a sudden decision - I knew I believed in evolution beforehand, amongst other things - but there was a point when I realised I was definitely no longer a Christian, with no doubt in my mind.
But my family are religious. Very religious. The evangelical church we go to is very, very small so we're all very involved, and me leaving would be a very notable thing; I couldn't slip away unnoticed. Additionally, I obviously rely on my parents a lot at the moment (I'm in year 13, aged 17), and I'll continue to rely on them at university (as my loan will be minute and not enough to live on). I have no idea what their reaction will be, so the potential consequences are terrifying, and my mum in particular can get very angry over very minor things; I'm genuinely scared of her at times, and particularly with this situation.
So back in February, I realised that I needed to keep this low-profile. I've told only two of my closest friends (and I only told the second friend in July), and everyone else I know presumes I'm religious, and I keep up the façade (even at school - as people from my church go to the same school).
I thought I could just about manage going until Autumn 2016, when I went to uni - I could then tell my family and my parents, perhaps while I was there, and hope for the best. Maybe the impact would be limited, as I wouldn't face people from church regularly.
But I feel like I can't wait for another year; church is driving me crazy. Today's sermon was about how society will crumble as gay people can get married (polygamy will apparently be the next big thing); how everything wrong in the world, from US gun massacres to the VW scandal is because the foundation of society, the Bible, has gone; how abortion is always wrong no matter what; how assisted suicide is wrong, and it is better to live in complete pain. For the entire duration of the service I wanted to stand up and tell people how I truly feel, but I couldn't. I had to play along. I had to be a good Christian.
Basically - what should I do? I don't feel like I can keep up the façade for an entire year, and telling them while at uni could still have bad consequences (I'm already being pressured to research churches near the unis I'm applying to). Yet telling them now could be a disaster; the church is a big part of our lives, and I
know I'd have to face countless people lecturing me for a full year, plus I'm particularly concerned about how my mum would react.
To avoid major consequences, I'd have to wait until I could survive cutting off contact with my parents - so I'd have to go to church until after university. I'd have to date only Christian girls until after uni.
Any advice is appreciated. Thank you