So I started on Tuesday and it was obviously an extreme culture shock for everyone and it was all a bit awkward but now a few days have gone by and I feel like everyone else is settling in a lot better than I am. I'm not exactly homesick I'm just struggling to make new friends and it seems like everyone else has already found friends to hangout with.
There's a Bop tonight but I have no one to go with and I don't fancy getting drunk with a bunch of people I don't know yet because I just feel like that isn't very safe and I'm not that much of a drinker to be honest. Therein lies another problem-some freshers are judging me because I haven't been going out drinking. For several years I've struggled with anxiety and depression and whilst it has never significantly affected my academic performance, I'm really worried that its going to affect my social life here. I've signed up for many different societies but my anxiety might end up preventing me from going.
I don't really know where I'm going with this but I just guess I want to know from older undergrads how long it took them to settle in and make actual friends? Is it ok to stay in during freshers week and not drink? with it being Oxford I've already been given an essay to write for next week and it's hard to juggle these freshers events with trying to get a head start on my work. Some of the support staff have told me that loads of the freshers feel this way but from my room looking down on the quad it's looking a lot like everyone has gone out drinking and like I'm the only one staying in.