My ex broke up with me a year ago. It was civil, no shouting but it was unexpected for me. She did the day after I came back from travelling, she had returned from her trip about 3 weeks before me.
We'd been going out 2.5 years and met at Uni, she had done a placement year after around 3 months after she got back, I got a job offer in another city, so all but about 3 months of our relationship was long distance.
We don't speak to each other,we don't see each other, we (to my knowledge) have removed most if not all 'us' stuff from the public domain.
As mentioned about it been a year now and it has made me think why it happened. Neither of us cheated, our friends thought we were the couple that would stay together. Our friends didn't believe it when they heard the news. I didn't do anything wrong, a point that she made over and over again while saying she was sorry over and over again.
I obviously understand that if it wasn't meant to be it wasn't meant to be. I thought we were in love, and it makes me wonder if I can be that wrong about something, what signs did I miss, could I have changed the outcome, was there actually something that I could have done, done better or not done at all.
Then that makes me wonder if this is how others feel when a relationship is over, how do you start again? Do you ever have these thoughts or doubts in your mind? How do you move on completely, when can you say it doesn't affect you any more?
Thoughts, advice and comforting words are more than welcome.