Original post by Natalierm2707I can view this from the other side of the story (his side), so maybe my little insight may help a little, but granted I am not your bf and he may not feel the same as me.
I have been in a long term relationship (going on 5 years) and have a male best friend, me and my mate have been friends for years and we get on so so well, we spend time together (alone and not with my bf as well as together with my boyfriend), chill together, he calls me all the time and vice versa. But there is nothing going on between us at all, we are just really good friends with similar interests, he is more like a brother to me, we have gone through a lot together as friends and I love him loads, but not in an intimate relationship type way, that would never happen.
Initially my boyfriend had a problem with this friendship, but over the years has learnt to deal with it and has come to terms with the fact that we are just good friends who have a laugh together. He knows I love him and would chose him but that doesnt mean I am going to put my friendship of many years on the line when I can happily have both.
I think you are letting your past experiences get in the way here. You need to talk to your boyfriend (again) and let him know about these experiences, why your worried and suggest possibly meeting you and seeing you a bit more often. you have to make him aware that in a relationship he needs to make sure you are comfortable, but you also need to be aware that he cant kill off friendships for you (whether male or female) and hence some compromise needs to be made.