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Recently, I have been working on a career in IB, and have received many opportunities to help me realise that dream.
I have recently told my parents that I no longer want to be a doctor and they are extremely upset, since for the past 15 year when they have been suggesting it and I have been saying yes, even up until a week ago. I tried to explain to them that I have been having doubts for the past 3 years, and have expressed it to them, but they had shut me down every time I told them. I'm genuinely afraid of their reactions when they'll realise that I won't back down and submit to being a doctor like I always have. I know they feel betrayed since I've just said yes every time they brought it up, but they aren't the kind of parents you can disagree with, since they always make me feel stupid and worthless when I do. They were upset when I didn't apply to medicine (I lied and told them that I had bad predicated grades), but were relieved when I did biology, since they thought I'd apply to medicine or go on the med programme. I lied and told them that I will but I only chose biology since I enjoy it and it was my strongest A level.
They say that I'm only looking at money and not job security, which they say I'll have both in medicine. They also said that even if I can't work in the UK, I'd be able to work elsewhere so I'll have a guaranteed job. They also said that If I couldn't work as an IB anymore I won't have a second chance, and that there are many risks (such as being blamed for detrimental mistakes other people make). She also said that it would be a waste that I spent my whole life preparing for medicine just to "stuck in a bank."
They aren't horrible and want the best for me, but they don't understand what they want isn't what I want anymore, and that what will make them happy isn't the focus of my happiness anymore. I don't want to be forced to dedicate my life to a career I don't want, and I deserve since I feel so conflicted about it. I love science not medicine. So if you are/have been in a similar situation, could you please write down and explain how you convinced (if you managed to) your parents. If you could, could you please give your opinions on my parent's arguments?
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Parents are angry and hurt with my sudden (to them) career change and I trying to convince me to change. Could you please give advice to make them come around, or share similar experiences please? Thank you.