If you don’t have kids or get married

Are you ok with that? Or is life over?

I’ve been married and tbh I don’t think it’s something I want to do again but I would love to find someone to have a family with

Reply 2

Admit-One

Universities Forum Helper

21

Well, I won't ever be married or have kids. So yup, definitely :smile:

Yep

Doesn’t seem that bad.

Reply 5

username5854274

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Original post by Anonymous

Or is life over?

Given all the wonderful things you could do with your life that doesn't involve marriage or kids? Of course it is not over.

How old you????

OP

36

Reply 8

londonmyst

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I'm not going to get married and am only going to have one child.
Plenty of people choose to be child-free because they don't want any children, view their career as their ultimate priority ruling out having a family on that basis, know that they would not be suited to being a parent, do not want the expense nor commitment that come with responsibility for a child or know that they cannot provide the basics for themselves let alone a child.

Reply 9

black tea

19

I'm OK with that and see it as the preferable option :yes:

Reply 10

Kschu

12

I don’t have kids nor am I married, but I babysit my niece quiet often and I must say the responsibility of raising a child and family dread me. If I grow up old childless, I think it would be so much better scenario, but I do want to find someone to experience and enjoy this life journey.

Reply 11

tanstaafiq

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Original post by CrystalDeet

I’ve been married and tbh I don’t think it’s something I want to do again but I would love to find someone to have a family with

Marriage not good?

Reply 12

5hyl33n

Volunteer Team, Clearing and Applications Advisor

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I wouldn't go as far as saying that my life would be over, but I do have a desire to get married and have children in the future.

Reply 13

tanstaafiq

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Original post by 5hyl33n

I wouldn't go as far as saying that my life would be over, but I do have a desire to get married and have children in the future.

How many?

Reply 14

5hyl33n

Volunteer Team, Clearing and Applications Advisor

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Original post by tanstaafiq

How many?

I prefer the idea of having two children, but I would be willing to consider having a third if my husband mentioned it. Of course, I would like to give my children the absolute best, and having fewer children allows me to do so. :smile:

Reply 15

Oxford Mum

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Original post by Anonymous

Are you ok with that? Or is life over?

Your life is definitely not over! My ex husband browbeat and bullied me. It wasn’t until he left me that I was able to be myself. I like my single self much more than my married self.

My late mother taught me that you were nothing unless you had a partner, and I have since found out this is complete and utter rubbish. Better without a partner than with someone controlling, who wants you to enable them in their life but is uninterested in yours.

I feel very free and content. I have a great job in customer services helping others and in my village. Appreciate the little things like nature ( I go on lots of walks) good books and films etc. If there’s no trouble in your life, then life’s good.

Reply 16

username5955039

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The option whereby I get married would be the woman that I consider to marry only and want to, and I do want children myself.

Reply 17

Anonymous #2

I personally don't think a marriage or children are necessary to have a happy and fulfilling life! There are so many other things to find joy in and if you do want children, but not marriage, I think adoption/fostering are great options, too.
Don't worry too much about these things- just focus on living happily in the moment <3

Reply 18

Oxford Mum

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Original post by Anonymous

I personally don't think a marriage or children are necessary to have a happy and fulfilling life! There are so many other things to find joy in and if you do want children, but not marriage, I think adoption/fostering are great options, too.
Don't worry too much about these things- just focus on living happily in the moment <3