My boyfriend (34) and I (28) have been together for nearly 7 years. He's my first boyfriend and was my first intimate partner. I had anxiety when it came to intimacy and I think things my grandma said played on my mind, so we hardly had sex. We'd have conversations about potentially breaking up but then we'd come up with plans to fix it. When we go away we have a lot of sex but when we come home there isn't much. It's my fault. He decided last year that he doesn't want to go away with me anymore because of knowing there will be a lack of sex when we get home. I suffer with anxiety and depression which affects my sex life. Anyway, we had a chat in April and he tried to break up with me but I wasn't having it, so we came up with a plan for May where we'd try different things to help build up my confidence. It worked, my confidence in the bedroom had improved. Fast forward to last night, we had a chat and he basically ended it because he can't see it working and he doesn't love me anymore........due to me rejecting him so much. I thought when we had the chat that he would say he's still not feeling it but wants to continue our relationship. But no, he doesn't want to keep dragging it out and having these chats. I really think he needs therapy and every time we have this chat, I suggest we go for couples therapy but he keeps say no because he's not ready and he doesn't want to. Which isn't fair because I've tried things he's way. He's gotten into his mind. Every time we had sex, his mind would tell him that it's not working and that it'll go back to how it was before. I said to him that it won't because of how confident I am now in the bedroom, I said to him to let me prove it and he still said no. So I last night, I stayed at my parents to give him space but I'm seeing him later today to pick up more of my things. I can't stop crying because I just want him to be my boyfriend again. I can't believe I've ruined my relationship. It also doesn't help that one of his friends is going through something similar but he is married and has 1 child. I feel like that has scared him. I have been under stress from my studies but now that uni is over for the summer, I feel like it's the perfect time to show him I've changed. I want to tell him that but I just feel like he won't change his mind because of the damage I've caused.
I'm hoping that by giving him some space he'll want to get back together. Is there any chance that we can get back together? Or have I ruined it forever?