So i live with my two friends at uni, have done for the last three years, but this year has been so different.
we all used to do things together all the time, but for the majority of this year i’ve found that i don’t get asked to do these things with them anymore.
nothing has changed on my end, i still make sure i ask both of them if they’d like to join me in whatever i’m doing, and they both usually say yes. i haven’t changed my behaviour towards them.
but they’ve stopped asking me to do anything with them.
around january i noticed that one of them, the one of us who drives, would says she’s just going to pick our other friend up from the train station, they’d both be right back. yet they’d be gone for hours. i found out they were going from the station to starbucks or mcdonald’s, usually both.
i asked them about it, asking “is there a reason why i’m not ever asked to join you?” and they’d both just shrug their shoulders at me. the best answer i got was “well we always do this, when one of us comes back up on the train we’ll go for a catch up, you know that!” both of those statements are lies, they never used to do this before the beginning of this year, and i was never once told about it. so i asked if maybe the next time they did that i could come with them.
their response to this? they stopped doing it at all.
they still DO go out to go out, but they now disguise it with “we’re just going to the shop, we won’t be long!” and they proceed to go be out for hours. the first time this happened they asked me if i wanted anything brought back from the shop, and i said “well could i not just come with you?” and one of them begrudgingly sighed and said “well you can if you want to.” i said no because i could feel their attitudes change when i asked. they’ve done this ever since.
i haven’t said anything about it, but they do this multiple times a week now, and i’m quite sick of being left out of everything they do while i make sure they never feel left out. i want to confront them about it but the last time i did that they just changed their ways of hiding it. is there anything i could do?