How To Stop This

Hey everyone!

For context:
I have a guy friend (and it is just friends) however I like him a tad more but I have no issue staying as friends and I respect that. But where I like him that tiny bit more, when he doesn’t respond or be active for a while, my mind spirals and I always think the worst has happened. For example- Tonight he hasn’t been online for 4hrs which isn’t unusual for him to some extent, however I still panic and wonder when it’s okay to start worrying and I know I’m over thinking , but everytime I can’t help but panic about him. Any tips on how to stop this?

Thanks 🙂

Reply 1

Anonymous #2

Original post by Anonymous #1

Hey everyone!

For context:
I have a guy friend (and it is just friends) however I like him a tad more but I have no issue staying as friends and I respect that. But where I like him that tiny bit more, when he doesn’t respond or be active for a while, my mind spirals and I always think the worst has happened. For example- Tonight he hasn’t been online for 4hrs which isn’t unusual for him to some extent, however I still panic and wonder when it’s okay to start worrying and I know I’m over thinking , but everytime I can’t help but panic about him. Any tips on how to stop this?

Thanks 🙂

Those who like you back will put in the effort to do so. Please, don't panic about someone who is offline for 4 hours. People have their own lives to attend to. Not everyone is on their phone 24/7. Sorry.

Reply 2

Old Skool Freak

20

Original post by Anonymous #1

Hey everyone!

For context:
I have a guy friend (and it is just friends) however I like him a tad more but I have no issue staying as friends and I respect that. But where I like him that tiny bit more, when he doesn’t respond or be active for a while, my mind spirals and I always think the worst has happened. For example- Tonight he hasn’t been online for 4hrs which isn’t unusual for him to some extent, however I still panic and wonder when it’s okay to start worrying and I know I’m over thinking , but everytime I can’t help but panic about him. Any tips on how to stop this?

Thanks 🙂

Have a reality check.

It's natural to worry about people, especially when it's someone you care about... but it's all in your head.

Yeah, I know how it works... cause he hasn't replied to that text you sent a few hours ago, your mind goes into overdrive, thinking all sorts of terrible things (e.g. he got hit by a bus, he's been struck down with a serious illness. he's been abducted by aliens etc.), when in reality, it's just something simple like his phone was out of credit, he had a important assignment to work on, or a minor friend / family crisis happened that he needed to deal with.

Next time your mind starts racing, stop... take a deep breath... and think about it rationally. If something terrible had happened to him, chances are you'd hear about it on a news report, or over social media or something; if your concerns were legitimate, at least one other person would share those concerns and would have contacted you, no?

It takes a bit of practice, but you can train yourself to control your mind when it starts racing around with all those irrational thoughts.

Reply 3

jay2013

17

Imagine he's dead. And he's always dead. All the time, when you're not with him.

Nothing can be worse than being dead, can it?

Problem solved.

You're welcome.

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