Original post by AnonymousMy mother has no life, she is an introvert she has NO friends, she doesnt work she claims her job is being a 'mother' and 'housewife' which is fair enough, yet all she does it sit around at home watching tv, doing the food shopping, then moans I do not doo any chores.
Anyway I am nearly 20 on a gap year (as she told me i had too ) but not travelling, ( again not allowed) so im at home most lunchtimes between work etc, she will moan at me about everything that I am a **** daughter, that I have failed her yet im going to the uni she chose, doing the degree she chose. I have been very sick I suffer from M.E and a heart problem so my energy levels arnt high but she gets me up every morning at 7, she refuses too let me go to bed before 11 as I have too 'sit with her' and keep her company yet when she has the slightest thing wrong like a tummyache she moans about it for weeks on end, screams and shouts about how I dont care.
She is fuming at me recently becuase I only brought her flowers (cost me £30) and a card, she also moaned I only gave her flowers in the afternoon didnt bring them too her bed and that I should have brought her a present and made dinner, although my brothers did nothing she blamed me. As a results she is demanding I give her £400 by tommorw too pay for not treating her right, I dont have £400 and her logic is simple, she takes my money, I cant fill up car with fuel, Cant pay for my Insurence, therefore I cant go anywhere I cant see my friends or go for a night out hence Ill be at home with her 24.7.
We fought this morning as I asked too go to my friends house to watch a film ( no boys no alchool) as she is going away soon and is only back from uni for a week her words were ' theres no way your going to 'that whores house'' she refers to my friend as a whore as she knows she had sex with her 1 boyfriend, so I cant even at the age of 20 go and watch a film at my friends house.
She knows nothing about the guy im seeing as she has banned me from boyfriends saying I reject my family if I get a boyfriend and that Im not allowed to have sex so im not allowed a boyfriend she physically bans me by taking all my stuff.
She dotes on my brothers, I spent over a month doing my 10 year old brothers school project as he was 'too tired' to do it, when I did it she said it was ****, my other brother who is 16 but much bigger than me regularly refers too me as a 'cheap whore, a ****ing retard, a slag, a dirty bitch' he also punches me in the face, twists my arm and kicks me in the ribs yet my mother says nothing, when my dad gets angry he flips out he sometimes raises his hand too me, but often he lifts me up by hair put me in the corner of the stairs and slaps me which most people say is nothing but im only 8stone it hurts alot.
I am in despair of my life, I am fed up of lying too my mum abot my friends and boyfriend, she told me she didnt want me seeing my friends as there bad, but they are the only escape I have fromher, she calls them all 'whores' because they have boyfriends, she wont let me see my boyfriend becuase he is older than me (only 23)l so I end up lying to her about where I am, who im with but im terrified of being caught, however too keep my mum happy I will have to end all these relationships which I dont want too do.
My life it in total control by this women, I hate it I dont even know who I am as a person as I am fed up of being put down and screamed at and told im a failure, I dislike my mother greatly most people say that their parents love them unconditionally but my mother certainly does not love me in the slightest, I am in total despair I feel caged I know I onlly go too uni in 6 months (although shes saying I cant go) so shall I keep lying too her, and just keep my head down?/ ive tried talking too her she just shouts over me and tells me too 'piss off before there are consquences'