Girl said that I am "too nice". What to do?

There's nothing wrong with what?
Maybe he does want her to be attracted to her..but thats not an excuse to change the way you behave or who you are for someone.

Its unfair to make a generalised comment that "women" wont be attracted to this.

Sure, there are women attracted to just about everything, but it would be a lie to tell OP that it doesn't severely reduce his dating pool and he should just keep on being a doormat.

I didnt say that there are women attracted to just about anything, and I'm not saying that he should be a doormat. Just because this one girl has said hes too nice, it doesn't mean he has to completely re consider how he behaves towards others and that other people will have exactly the same opinion. How do you know that being "too nice" (if its even possible to be so) would reduce someones "dating pool"?
So what if being "too nice" doesnt attract some people? He would be better off with someone who accepts and appreciates him for who he is.

Don't ever change who you are because of one irrelevant female.

You will inevitably find someone who respects you for who you are.

For the umpteenth time, stop wasting your time on her man. You know fully well nothing will ever come out of it, bar emotional damage to you.

You need to start saying no. How do you expect girls you like to like you back if they see you as their puppy who does whatever they want? I'm not telling you to start being an arse, it's great that you're a nice guy, but you need to put yourself first sometimes or you won't be respected by these girls. If this particular girl questions you on suddenly saying no to her then buy her a stuffed toy or something because you're a person and if she really cares about you she won't treat you differently; if she treats you differently she's not worth it and you will find someone who is. The last time I checked there are over 7 billion people in the world

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In bold is a key thing, there's being nice and then is being a pushover, you can be nice without being a pushover, what you're doing is being kinda a pushover, i've done it so i know what it's liike, learn to have an opinion on things, have some backbone; don't be an arse but if she suggests or ask for a good place to eat say something like "Why don't we try somewhere new i hear [insert place] is good, why don't we try there"

Also learn to flirt, you're interested in her yes, then show it, make cheeky remarks (not too cheeky, requires a bit of practise)

She'll just say. 'Cheeky lad' and walk into a car full of SnapBacks


Just kidding ladies and gentlemen, yes a backbone is required


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Not gonna lie took me years to have enough confidence within myself to starting playing the cheeky card

I was able to do it when I was a quiet kid (before i became louder) and it surprised the girls and they liked, so that's a plus if there's any quiet dudes out there ladies and gentlemen


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Yes. Very true. I will start to say no and keep in mind what you said. (I actually said no to her for something today. It's a start.)

That's a good thing! There's no need to question whether thats a weakness What is she trying to say by saying that her bf is the opposite of you..? She wants you to be like him/her ? I don't quite get her thought processes behind these comments, and I'd advise you to ignore them and don't even consider changing the way you behave.

I don't agree that it makes you a push over. She'd probably have something to say if you ended up saying no to everything too! You can't really win.. can you?

Hmm.. I guess you're right. So why can't I get over her? :/

Oohohoho I remember that feeling.

Girl back in 6th form, I ended up head over heels with her but unfortunately she already had someone right through it. We'd talk about anything and I'd happily help with whatever I could, then again I'd help any of my friends if they needed it. It got to the point where we both admitted our feelings for eachother but we knew it could go no further. As much as I was infatuated by her on every level, I was ok with just being a close friend, because I could still spend time with her, be invited to birthday parties, I even got along well with her parents! Some may call this being in the Marinas Trench of the friendzone but I didn't care, at least I got to be comfortably close to someone whose company I enjoyed. I respectfully made my exit when she was with her boyfriend though.

So as you mentioned, she's taken, so there's no way of barging your way into a relationship with her. There's nothing wrong with being 'too nice', it's just your nature and it's most likely quite endearing to a lot of girls. Just make sure you don't act like she's the source of all light in the world, because you'll just be setting yourself up for a hard time.

But by all means feel free to continue spending time with her if you're comfortable how it is right now, don't feel bad about being too nice.

Being a pushover is never good. It's important to stand up for what you want and who you are. That said, it sounds like you enjoy being nice to her, and there's nothing wrong with that! If she isn't into you for whatever reason, someone else will be. Being a nice guy is a great thing.

That's a good thing! There's no need to question whether thats a weakness What is she trying to say by saying that her bf is the opposite of you..? She wants you to be like him/her ? I don't quite get her thought processes behind these comments, and I'd advise you to ignore them and don't even consider changing the way you behave.

I don't agree that it makes you a push over. She'd probably have something to say if you ended up saying no to everything too! You can't really win.. can you?