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What are some good conversation starters?

I've come to realise that if I don't talk to people I'll be alone forever...

I don't really talk to other people because I get scared. I worry what they will think of me but once I talk to someone I get relaxed can be myself.

Females are worse because they're females. I have a lot of things that go up my head when I try to converse with one. I worry they may think I am only conversing with them because I am looking for sex or that I'm trying to "chat them up" which I don't do and I don't want sex. but they don't know that...

No one ever approaches me which I don't understand.

I've decided that I need to talk to other people as they won't talk to me.

I went up to 4 people yesterday and went "Hello, what do you like to cook and/or bake?" as I like to cook and bake and it's a way to start a conversation.


What are some other conversation starters I could use?

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Original post by Impressive


I'm sure that's creepy...
People and conversation are seriously over-rated. I would recommend you keep doing what you're doing.
Original post by AutisticMew
I've come to realise that if I don't talk to people I'll be alone forever...

I don't really talk to other people because I get scared. I worry what they will think of me but once I talk to someone I get relaxed can be myself.

Females are worse because they're females. I have a lot of things that go up my head when I try to converse with one. I worry they may think I am only conversing with them because I am looking for sex or that I'm trying to "chat them up" which I don't do and I don't want sex. but they don't know that...

No one ever approaches me which I don't understand.

I've decided that I need to talk to other people as they won't talk to me.

I went up to 4 people yesterday and went "Hello, what do you like to cook and/or bake?" as I like to cook and bake and it's a way to start a conversation.


What are some other conversation starters I could use?


I really want to know what happened after you said that, if they like ran away or something bc you were creeping them out with baking or something xD

Just say Come to my room pls
Hi, what's your favourite colour? [Insert colour]. Mine too, we have so much in common. Let's ****.
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Original post by thefatone
I really want to know what happened after you said that, if they like ran away or something bc you were creeping them out with baking or something xD

Just say Come to my room pls


One said that they can't cook so I left them.

The other three were females of African/Caribbean descent which is a lot easier due to my lack of attraction to them.

One could cook, one couldn't cook or bake, and one could do both.
I think I got the third one to have a tea party.
I also conversed with them about endocrinology a bit.
Ask them about their interests. Listen to what they say. See if you can say something interesting about them or talk about any you have in common.

Always works wonders.
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Original post by AutisticMew
I'm sure that's creepy...


Well...

People feel under pressure when you say something to them and you suddenly shut your mouth.

They'll probably ask something like what do you want, walk away or report you for harassment.

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How about what's up!? *insert compliment* xD
chats should not be forcefully initiated, they click by itself. Don't try too hard.....................
You need to look at the situation you're in and decide what you're going to start your conversation with. For example you might be in a cafe or the canteen and see someone who you want to start a conversation with. Don't just go up to them and ask what their favourite colour is, that's random and the conversation will probably stop there. Ask them a question or start a conversation about something that's relevant, for example you're in a cafe ask them if what they're eating is nice bc you're thinking of ordering it too. Or if you see someone w a book ask them if it's a read that's worthwhile. Or if you're in a situation where nobody knows each other like a university applicant day for example ask where they're from, what they're studying etc. Hope this helped :smile:
Original post by Tsrsarahhhh
You need to look at the situation you're in and decide what you're going to start your conversation with. For example you might be in a cafe or the canteen and see someone who you want to start a conversation with. Don't just go up to them and ask what their favourite colour is, that's random and the conversation will probably stop there. Ask them a question or start a conversation about something that's relevant, for example you're in a cafe ask them if what they're eating is nice bc you're thinking of ordering it too. Or if you see someone w a book ask them if it's a read that's worthwhile. Or if you're in a situation where nobody knows each other like a university applicant day for example ask where they're from, what they're studying etc. Hope this helped :smile:


I only place that I attempt to converse with other people is in a library. I might try buses again or at bus stops.
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Original post by vaish_28
How about what's up!? *insert compliment* xD


I've never asked anyone what is up because it's either the ceiling or sky.
I don't really compliment people.

I did tell a male he had a nice belt in a lift at college. He didn't say thank you so I had to to tell him to say it.
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Original post by AutisticMew
I've never asked anyone what is up because it's either the ceiling or sky.
I don't really compliment people.

I did tell a male he had a nice belt in a lift at college. He didn't say think you so I had to to tell him to say it.


Your name doesn't lie then...
Original post by Noodle0
Your name doesn't lie then...


It's rude not to say thank you when someone says something nice about you.
Original post by TheArtofProtest
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Mentioning the length of one's rep bar always gets the girls. My rep is currently Asian length :colonhash: but pornhub told me i could add a few inches so i live in hope :redface:
Original post by AutisticMew
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What are some other conversation starters I could use?


The possibilities to start conversations are huge. Here are some of them:

"Good morning, it is a nice/bad weather isn't it?"
"Hi, could it be that you are in the same xx-lesson like me?"
"Hi, I have seen your shirt, it seems that you are a great fan of xx too."
"It seems that you need some help, may I help you?"
"You are in the xx party, right? may I join?"
"Are at the xx university?"
"It seems that we are studying the same. Is it so interesting for you too?"
"I am new in this city, can you tell me where the xx is?"
"Are you new in this city/university? I have never seen you before."
"I like your (any garment). You are cutting a fine figure in it."
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Original post by AutisticMew
I've never asked anyone what is up because it's either the ceiling or sky.
I don't really compliment people.

I did tell a male he had a nice belt in a lift at college. He didn't say thank you so I had to to tell him to say it.


Just to let you know, complementing guys on their physique or looks, will sound like you're attracted to them, so that's probably why he didn't say thank-you. Next time someone ignores you or tries to end the conversation abruptly,explain to them that your autistic, so they don't just think your weird.

You shouldn't start a conversation about a random topic with someone you don't know, try and make it relevant to the present environment and situation.

If you want to get to know people, try joining a club that you're interested in, and then talk to other members about the club.

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