Does he hate me or actually like me?

I should also ask, guys could shyness or nervousness of being put in a situation with a girl you like make you self sabotage your chances by just staying away?

Yep. There are guys who actually think they have forever, and on some level enjoy the prospects of having a thing than actually having it.
For some, the fear of having no excuse for pursuing what they want (now that the party provides the best opportunity to approach you) overwhelms them

There's a guy at college who has acted as if he liked me for quite a while now but he's never asked me out or anything. He will always look at me in class multiple times (on one occasion my friend counted and he looked at me at least 16 times from when she started watching). He's also spoken to his friends about me as he's been heard pointing me out saying 'it's her'. I'm aware this isn't a lot to assume that someone likes you, but I definitely got that distinct impression from his body language. Anyway, to the important part, a guy friend of his was having a party for his 19th birthday and he had said he was going until he found out that I was going too. His response was that he just wouldn't come if I was going. This made me think he actually hates me? Does anyone have any idea why he would act like that? I know there's not a lot of information to go on

Maybe he likes you but also doesn't because he thinks he has no chance with you. Maybe you have been ignoring him without you yourself meaning to. If you like him I would go for it, the lad looked at you 16times

Any others have any ideas he's acting like this?

Any others have any ideas he's acting like this?

Definitely shy, backed out because he's afraid to mess up or appear nervous around you.

He not going to make a move, I suggest you make it first, some really shy guys need a push, don't be alarmed if he warms up to you a turns into a completely different person though

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Unless u did bad something to him, I don't think he would hate u (going by what u typed), he is just shy I guess. I would honestly be the same in the real world but not to that extent.

I'm just not sure how to make a move when he refuses to come near me. I had thought the party would be a good opportunity to talk in a relaxed environment rather than in college

I'm not aware of having done anything wrong but I just felt it was a really extreme reaction especially when we're both 18 and meant to be adults

Definitely has a crush on you, trust me girls did this to me all the time during secondary school... They're just nervous/shy. My advice is to not throw him into an encounter (i.e. party) but rather speak to him alone, not too directly like 'hey, do you have something you want to tell me?' - maybe ask him out somewhere nice and comforting? For example, 'hey, do you like action films?' - 'Great, wanna goto the cinema with me on xx/xx/xxxx?' should work (if you want to pursue)

Thanks. Yeah I think it's maybe overwhelmed him a bit the idea that he was going to be put in a situation where he needed to talk to me. I'll need to try and approach him in a more laid back way