My boyfriend has slept around a lot and it secretly puts me off.

If genders were reversed Id like to bet that most guys would say they would not date a girl who had slept around a lot, or a 'slut'. In fact in this tsr thread most guys voted they wouldnt
http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/showthread.php?t=4025095#primary_content

Well done! You've provided the answer to a question that wasn't actually posed on this thread. I'm sure there are other non-existent "straw men" to attack, while you're at it.


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I mean it really is amazing the double standard going on, particuarly up until my post pointing it out. It would be awash with criticism and sexist screams if the OP was male talking about a female

The truth is not many people want a partner male or female that has put out cheaply and indiscriminately and that is perfectly fine and reasonable

Its interesting because if there is a double standard I see it more the other way ie 'slut' and 'whore' are used for women who have slept around. This has also reminded me of a few threads Ive read in the past where several guys say they wouldnt date a girl who had slept around with a bargepole, it was hardly awash with sexist screams as far as i remember. Though if you are male you will likely see certain double standards that perhaps i dont see with being female.

Well he said that he would never sleep with just anyone but I guess most people would say that to their partner anyway lol. He did say that he hasnt tended to use condoms in the past as they limit enjoyment and he 'knew they were clean as they wernt promiscuous'. He also believes in the pull out method to prevent pregnancy and that he has 'excellent control' lol. I'l admit im fairly naive to sex so it made me wonder is this a kind of unwritten norm for many people or do most people religiously follow advice on protection given by the NHS? ie wear a condom everytime with their partner (if not on any other contraceptive method). He also said that most people dont get tested. Maybe they dont but if this is the case i dont get how people can be so relaxed.

Its interesting because if there is a double standard I see it more the other way ie 'slut' and 'whore' are used for women who have slept around. This has also reminded me of a few threads Ive read in the past where several guys say they wouldnt date a girl who had slept around with a bargepole, it was hardly awash with sexist screams as far as i remember. Though if you are male you will likely see certain double standards that perhaps i dont see with being female.

Not sure what advice we can give you. I'd advise him to give you a better rooting - never have I had the sense that any my gals were preoccupied with that sort of thing, mostly on account of the fact that they've never asked/generally been unable to think of anything at all, half the time