Go to university OP, and make sure you can live away from home. My best friend from secondary school was in exactly the same situation as you - but I had the pleasure when she went to university of watching her become the person she wanted to be and stop feeling like her family were in control of her life. I had talks with her since about whether she wanted to have sex, and I honestly don't know if she has lost her virginity yet even after two years there. The important thing was that she was free from coercion and those talks were always about what she wanted to do and her family never factored into it - just knowing that it's your decision to make is such a huge freedom.
She's lost most of her Islamic faith but is still able to be the 'good Muslim girl' when she sees her parents. Once you move out your parents loose the control and you can have a healthy relationship with both them and any men you might meet in the future. Best of luck OP, I really do feel for you in any case.
Finally though, do you really want to date a Muslim man who wants his wife to be a virgin? Think of the other sexist assumptions that come along with that view, and think of how a man like that will treat any daughter of yours and the pressure he'll put on her just like your mother does on you. Marry a non-virgin man, Muslim or not, who wants a healthier kind of relationship; you won't struggle to find a good man just because you've lost your virginity.