Didn't find my "crowd" at Uni
I'm about to start second year at my Uni of choice and i'm entering it with a small group of friends, all of who's company I enjoy and cherish. However they're not really all that similar to me in terms of what i'm into, music tastes, what I like doing etc.
I'd say I have quite an interesting character, I like going to Museums, musing on Film and Art, going to places like comedy venues, going exploring different parts of town, even just spending days in the library reading new books and studying. At the very same time though I do have quite an edge to my character. I like experimenting with certain ahem substances, going to House raves and festivals, going on socials with societies and such and so on.
The friends I made last year are utterly boring and nothing like me, I don't want to waste another year trying to make them come out of their shells when they evidently just want to sit around and do **** all, Any tips for meeting new people ?
I know Uni is a massive place with endless oppurtunities to meet people but actually making someone like you enough to invite you out with their clique is another matter, everyones terribly secluded and it's really cliquey at my uni at least.
I'd say I have quite an interesting character, I like going to Museums, musing on Film and Art, going to places like comedy venues, going exploring different parts of town, even just spending days in the library reading new books and studying. At the very same time though I do have quite an edge to my character. I like experimenting with certain ahem substances, going to House raves and festivals, going on socials with societies and such and so on.
The friends I made last year are utterly boring and nothing like me, I don't want to waste another year trying to make them come out of their shells when they evidently just want to sit around and do **** all, Any tips for meeting new people ?
I know Uni is a massive place with endless oppurtunities to meet people but actually making someone like you enough to invite you out with their clique is another matter, everyones terribly secluded and it's really cliquey at my uni at least.
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Original post by Foo.mp3
Try a few more societies/interest groups out a la freshers fair, get yourself out there amigo! 
I definitely will, I signed up to boxing rather late in the year and only had about 2 months to get to know the people there, who were all very close knit. They're great guys, most are just a bit more, how can I put it "ultra masculine" than me. I will be going the next year however.
Any suggestions at to what kind of stuff to join ?
Original post by Anonymous
I'm about to start second year at my Uni of choice and i'm entering it with a small group of friends, all of who's company I enjoy and cherish. However they're not really all that similar to me in terms of what i'm into, music tastes, what I like doing etc.
I'd say I have quite an interesting character, I like going to Museums, musing on Film and Art, going to places like comedy venues, going exploring different parts of town, even just spending days in the library reading new books and studying. At the very same time though I do have quite an edge to my character. I like experimenting with certain ahem substances, going to House raves and festivals, going on socials with societies and such and so on.
The friends I made last year are utterly boring and nothing like me, I don't want to waste another year trying to make them come out of their shells when they evidently just want to sit around and do **** all, Any tips for meeting new people ?
I know Uni is a massive place with endless oppurtunities to meet people but actually making someone like you enough to invite you out with their clique is another matter, everyones terribly secluded and it's really cliquey at my uni at least.
I'd say I have quite an interesting character, I like going to Museums, musing on Film and Art, going to places like comedy venues, going exploring different parts of town, even just spending days in the library reading new books and studying. At the very same time though I do have quite an edge to my character. I like experimenting with certain ahem substances, going to House raves and festivals, going on socials with societies and such and so on.
The friends I made last year are utterly boring and nothing like me, I don't want to waste another year trying to make them come out of their shells when they evidently just want to sit around and do **** all, Any tips for meeting new people ?
I know Uni is a massive place with endless oppurtunities to meet people but actually making someone like you enough to invite you out with their clique is another matter, everyones terribly secluded and it's really cliquey at my uni at least.
Threads like this make me laugh really.
All this conondrum about finding "friends".
My advice to you is forget about finding "friends" and focus only on your studies.
Study all day and night and also on weekends and holidays don't go out only study.
That is the key to success my friend , not "friends".
Original post by robertpiktos
Threads like this make me laugh really.
All this conondrum about finding "friends".
My advice to you is forget about finding "friends" and focus only on your studies.
Study all day and night and also on weekends and holidays don't go out only study.
That is the key to success my friend , not "friends".
All this conondrum about finding "friends".
My advice to you is forget about finding "friends" and focus only on your studies.
Study all day and night and also on weekends and holidays don't go out only study.
That is the key to success my friend , not "friends".
Posts like this make me laugh really.
Either you have aspergers, were severely bullied and thus have developed this loner mechanism as a self defence, or are so utterly dis-likeable you've simply learned to cope alone.
Hate to be the one to break it to you buddy, but we are social animals, we rely on human interaction to live healthy, fulfilling lives and socialising is a very important part of us.
When you reach that mountain you call success you'll realise how worthless it all is if you have no one around you to share it with.
Original post by Anonymous
Posts like this make me laugh really.
Either you have aspergers, were severely bullied and thus have developed this loner mechanism as a self defence, or are so utterly dis-likeable you've simply learned to cope alone.
Hate to be the one to break it to you buddy, but we are social animals, we rely on human interaction to live healthy, fulfilling lives and socialising is a very important part of us.
When you reach that mountain you call success you'll realise how worthless it all is if you have no one around you to share it with.
Either you have aspergers, were severely bullied and thus have developed this loner mechanism as a self defence, or are so utterly dis-likeable you've simply learned to cope alone.
Hate to be the one to break it to you buddy, but we are social animals, we rely on human interaction to live healthy, fulfilling lives and socialising is a very important part of us.
When you reach that mountain you call success you'll realise how worthless it all is if you have no one around you to share it with.
Original post by Anonymous
Posts like this make me laugh really.
Either you have aspergers, were severely bullied and thus have developed this loner mechanism as a self defence, or are so utterly dis-likeable you've simply learned to cope alone.
Hate to be the one to break it to you buddy, but we are social animals, we rely on human interaction to live healthy, fulfilling lives and socialising is a very important part of us.
When you reach that mountain you call success you'll realise how worthless it all is if you have no one around you to share it with.
Either you have aspergers, were severely bullied and thus have developed this loner mechanism as a self defence, or are so utterly dis-likeable you've simply learned to cope alone.
Hate to be the one to break it to you buddy, but we are social animals, we rely on human interaction to live healthy, fulfilling lives and socialising is a very important part of us.
When you reach that mountain you call success you'll realise how worthless it all is if you have no one around you to share it with.
I also agree with the studying, just not the Study 24/7. Uni is a place for studying but it's also there to make friends who can end up being your connection when growing up and getting a job.
I'm pretty similar to you, besides the raving since I've never done that. I'm planning to do what another user commented, going to the freshers fair. I'm pretty much going to everything the uni is doing even if it is slightly out of my comfort zone. Planning to join 3-5 societies to put myself out there.
Original post by Anonymous
Posts like this make me laugh really.
Either you have aspergers, were severely bullied and thus have developed this loner mechanism as a self defence, or are so utterly dis-likeable you've simply learned to cope alone.
Hate to be the one to break it to you buddy, but we are social animals, we rely on human interaction to live healthy, fulfilling lives and socialising is a very important part of us.
When you reach that mountain you call success you'll realise how worthless it all is if you have no one around you to share it with.
Either you have aspergers, were severely bullied and thus have developed this loner mechanism as a self defence, or are so utterly dis-likeable you've simply learned to cope alone.
Hate to be the one to break it to you buddy, but we are social animals, we rely on human interaction to live healthy, fulfilling lives and socialising is a very important part of us.
When you reach that mountain you call success you'll realise how worthless it all is if you have no one around you to share it with.
Basically what you are saying is "We nerd friends,blah blah blah".
Says the myth.
We don't REALLY need friends.
My advice to everyone is don't make any friends, only study, don't go out ever with anyone.
That is the key to success, not "friends".
Original post by Skittles_Lime
I also agree with the studying, just not the Study 24/7. Uni is a place for studying but it's also there to make friends who can end up being your connection when growing up and getting a job.
I'm pretty similar to you, besides the raving since I've never done that. I'm planning to do what another user commented, going to the freshers fair. I'm pretty much going to everything the uni is doing even if it is slightly out of my comfort zone. Planning to join 3-5 societies to put myself out there.
I'm pretty similar to you, besides the raving since I've never done that. I'm planning to do what another user commented, going to the freshers fair. I'm pretty much going to everything the uni is doing even if it is slightly out of my comfort zone. Planning to join 3-5 societies to put myself out there.
I believe school and uni are ONLY for study.
Not for finding "friends".
Original post by Zeumryn
Have you joined any different societies? It's only your second year - you have plenty of time to find the crowd that you so dearly seek. Are you based in an area with a large population of people?
I only joined one towards the latter part of last year but i'll definitely join one or two more next time. It's a huge uni, yes, I find that this can be both a disadvantage and an advantage though, as there are so many people it's hard to find people willing to connect on a personal level as everyone already has good friends and such. It's like that famous quoted Poem, the rhyme of the ancient mariner; water water water but not a drop to drink.
Original post by Skittles_Lime
I also agree with the studying, just not the Study 24/7. Uni is a place for studying but it's also there to make friends who can end up being your connection when growing up and getting a job.
I'm pretty similar to you, besides the raving since I've never done that. I'm planning to do what another user commented, going to the freshers fair. I'm pretty much going to everything the uni is doing even if it is slightly out of my comfort zone. Planning to join 3-5 societies to put myself out there.
I'm pretty similar to you, besides the raving since I've never done that. I'm planning to do what another user commented, going to the freshers fair. I'm pretty much going to everything the uni is doing even if it is slightly out of my comfort zone. Planning to join 3-5 societies to put myself out there.
Hope it goes well for you x
Original post by robertpiktos
I believe school and uni are ONLY for study.
Not for finding "friends".
Not for finding "friends".
I get where you're coming from since you are paying to learn and not make friends. In the long run education won't leave you while friends may do but isn't that limiting yourself too much?
You'll do amazingly with that basis but you will have to talk to people when you get older. Thinking of school/uni being there for practise especially if you usually keep to yourself like me.
College was literally only for studying, but because of that I missed a lot of things that could have benefited me in the future
Original post by Anonymous
I only joined one towards the latter part of last year but i'll definitely join one or two more next time. It's a huge uni, yes, I find that this can be both a disadvantage and an advantage though, as there are so many people it's hard to find people willing to connect on a personal level as everyone already has good friends and such. It's like that famous quoted Poem, the rhyme of the ancient mariner; water water water but not a drop to drink.
Hope it goes well for you x
Hope it goes well for you x
Thank you, you too x
Original post by robertpiktos
I believe school and uni are ONLY for study.
Not for finding "friends".
Not for finding "friends".
Did you make many good friends at uni or school?
Original post by Bezoar
you sound so hipster and cool wow I wish I was as indie as you wow
Chill, edgelord, I was simply trying to define my tastes. Just like you have a taste for trying to appear superior and intellectual on internet forums.
Original post by robertpiktos
Basically what you are saying is "We nerd friends,blah blah blah".
Says the myth.
We don't REALLY need friends.
My advice to everyone is don't make any friends, only study, don't go out ever with anyone.
That is the key to success, not "friends".
Says the myth.
We don't REALLY need friends.
My advice to everyone is don't make any friends, only study, don't go out ever with anyone.
That is the key to success, not "friends".
Either you're trolling or you're a real sad case. Stop with this nonsense before it's too late, i'm not sure what your parents have drilled into your head but human interaction is something very valuable in society, your social skills often dictate your success in the workplace, grades will mean **** all I can tell you now. There will be hundreds of individuals with the exact same grades as you, no one will voluntarily employee an embittered, socially awkward, loner in their workplace
Original post by Anonymous
I'm about to start second year at my Uni of choice and i'm entering it with a small group of friends, all of who's company I enjoy and cherish. However they're not really all that similar to me in terms of what i'm into, music tastes, what I like doing etc.
I'd say I have quite an interesting character, I like going to Museums, musing on Film and Art, going to places like comedy venues, going exploring different parts of town, even just spending days in the library reading new books and studying. At the very same time though I do have quite an edge to my character. I like experimenting with certain ahem substances, going to House raves and festivals, going on socials with societies and such and so on.
The friends I made last year are utterly boring and nothing like me, I don't want to waste another year trying to make them come out of their shells when they evidently just want to sit around and do **** all, Any tips for meeting new people ?
I know Uni is a massive place with endless oppurtunities to meet people but actually making someone like you enough to invite you out with their clique is another matter, everyones terribly secluded and it's really cliquey at my uni at least.
I'd say I have quite an interesting character, I like going to Museums, musing on Film and Art, going to places like comedy venues, going exploring different parts of town, even just spending days in the library reading new books and studying. At the very same time though I do have quite an edge to my character. I like experimenting with certain ahem substances, going to House raves and festivals, going on socials with societies and such and so on.
The friends I made last year are utterly boring and nothing like me, I don't want to waste another year trying to make them come out of their shells when they evidently just want to sit around and do **** all, Any tips for meeting new people ?
I know Uni is a massive place with endless oppurtunities to meet people but actually making someone like you enough to invite you out with their clique is another matter, everyones terribly secluded and it's really cliquey at my uni at least.
what uni do you go to? did you join any societies?
i'd say my uni is made up of people with that character and it would be hard to find people who AREN'T into all those things! maybe yours is different. try and join a society that interests you or talk to more people on your course.
Original post by robertpiktos
Threads like this make me laugh really.
All this conondrum about finding "friends".
My advice to you is forget about finding "friends" and focus only on your studies.
Study all day and night and also on weekends and holidays don't go out only study.
That is the key to success my friend , not "friends".
All this conondrum about finding "friends".
My advice to you is forget about finding "friends" and focus only on your studies.
Study all day and night and also on weekends and holidays don't go out only study.
That is the key to success my friend , not "friends".
PREACH!!!!!
When uni really hits your friends aren't going to check whether you are okay. They some aim to attend every party to drink themselves blind, some are crying about the stress and can't cope (me) and the others are in the library trying to get their act together for the 23:55 deadline on turnitin!
When you leave uni its not your friends name on the sheet...ITS YOURS.
Keep a fine balance of social and academic but DON'T FORGET WHY YOU WENT!!!
friends will come when you least expect it. not by force
Original post by Bezoar
wow amazing comeback wow i wish i was as witty as you woah
woah look at me im so apathetic and cool, woah sarcastic tone, woah snape avatar, woah im wear all black. Grow up.
Original post by Kattah96
PREACH!!!!!
When uni really hits your friends aren't going to check whether you are okay. They some aim to attend every party to drink themselves blind, some are crying about the stress and can't cope (me) and the others are in the library trying to get their act together for the 23:55 deadline on turnitin!
When you leave uni its not your friends name on the sheet...ITS YOURS.
Keep a fine balance of social and academic but DON'T FORGET WHY YOU WENT!!!
friends will come when you least expect it. not by force
When uni really hits your friends aren't going to check whether you are okay. They some aim to attend every party to drink themselves blind, some are crying about the stress and can't cope (me) and the others are in the library trying to get their act together for the 23:55 deadline on turnitin!
When you leave uni its not your friends name on the sheet...ITS YOURS.
Keep a fine balance of social and academic but DON'T FORGET WHY YOU WENT!!!
friends will come when you least expect it. not by force
lol you must not have any friends if you have that kind of attitude sorry. The only way you'll make friends [read: people you socialise with and share experiences with] is by, who would have thought, socialising and being a likeable person. No one is going to approach you in the library to be your friend, sorry to break it to you.
Studying is obviously the number one priority but with no social support system you're setting yourself up for failure.
Original post by Kattah96
PREACH!!!!!
When uni really hits your friends aren't going to check whether you are okay. They some aim to attend every party to drink themselves blind, some are crying about the stress and can't cope (me) and the others are in the library trying to get their act together for the 23:55 deadline on turnitin!
When you leave uni its not your friends name on the sheet...ITS YOURS.
Keep a fine balance of social and academic but DON'T FORGET WHY YOU WENT!!!
friends will come when you least expect it. not by force
When uni really hits your friends aren't going to check whether you are okay. They some aim to attend every party to drink themselves blind, some are crying about the stress and can't cope (me) and the others are in the library trying to get their act together for the 23:55 deadline on turnitin!
When you leave uni its not your friends name on the sheet...ITS YOURS.
Keep a fine balance of social and academic but DON'T FORGET WHY YOU WENT!!!
friends will come when you least expect it. not by force
friends are there for you when you're wanting to party and have fun and then when it gets hard they're there to support you like you are for them. i would say that although obviously you're paying 9 grand a year for your education, friends are hugely important for most people at uni to get them through that HAPPILY.
why do you think there are so many posts on TSR "How do I make friends" or "I'm so lonely with no friends" rather than "I have too many friends, help" or "My friends are too good to me how do I make them ignore me"
i am forever grateful for the friends I made at uni and even if we aren't friends 10 years down the line I wouldn't change having spent time with them instead of studying 24/7 (lol) for anything
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