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Does porn make any other girls self conscious about their bodies?

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Original post by Colour Me Pretty
Why are you anon btw?


I'm somewhat embarrassed of my fascination with big bottoms. Honestly, even the prettiest girl without one would only be good for blowjobs and facials. I can't have sexual intercourse with a woman unless her posterior is up to my standards.
Original post by Anonymous
In porn, the girls mostly have huge boobs, flat toned stomachs, pert bums....makes me feel like less than beautiful when I think of myself compared to them. I feel ashamed of the cellulite I have, stretch marks...etc. I don't like my boyfriend to see me properly in full light naked, because I know that I am a disappointment compared to the women that men look at online.

Do other girls feel like this?


As a girl, I've never thought girls in porn were particularly sexy. I don't find that fully shaven, hollywood bronzed look attractive, and I think small-medium breasts are more attractive than huge ones. I'm happy with what I've got because it is more real, and I feel confident about my body as it is although it is far from perfect. Sexy isn't being 'perfect' - someone is sexy if you are really into them. Confidence is sexy, be comfortable with your body.
Your boyfriend probably likes/loves you for who you are as well as how you look whereas with porn it's all about how you look.. no personality involved haha. Therefore, even if your boyfriend watches porn all day long it's you he's coming back to and he's not wishing you were some porn star lookalike he likes you for you. & so there is no need to feel self conscious of yourself with him or in general for that matter.
Original post by Gemma :)!
Yes.. my boyfriend had porn on his phone and I found it while I was looking through photos of a gig he'd been to.. he was incredibly defensive saying things like all men watch/look at porn, which I don't doubt, but it wasn't the fact that he had it on his phone, it was what the girls looked like that bothered me.

I'm not a skinny girl by any stretch of the imagination (very large, actually) hence the sponsored slim, but seeing the kinds of girls he had photos of made me thing well do you actually like me at all? He'd never download a picture of a girl who looked like me.. and that's what upset me, rather than the porn itself.


I know exactly what you mean, and I don't think it is related to size. My ex used to look at porn and let me look at what he downloaded. He like amateur stuff, English looking girls, quirky, less than perfect, some hair etc. Girls like me or the girls I know, and I liked that and felt comfortable with the stuff he watched, because it was the kind of porn I found sexy. Recently I found a couple of dvds my current boyfriend has, they were skinny, HUGE breasts, fully shaven and bronzed, with titles involving virgins, teens and cherries... made me wonder if he finds me attractive at all.
Original post by Tebtan
And the same women will tell you that they're settling. That their partners penis simply isn't big enough. That the sex would be/feel a lot better if he was 7-8 inches long or more. Or if he had a 6 inch girth.


Believe me, sex would NOT feel better if he was 7-8 inches long. I take it you are male? I've had sex with average sized men and one man who was larger. Not huge, just the large end of the average range, maybe 7 inches max. Average feels good. Sex with the larger guy HURT. Most positions were out, didn't matter how aroused I was. There was nothing good about him being bigger for me, only discomfort.

Original post by Tebtan
I find it a bit shocking that you, as a woman, don't even know that the vagina expands when aroused and that the cervix/uterus "lifts itself" allowing more space for the penis.

In short: the whole "the vagina is only 4-5 inches long" argument is pretty useless.


Mmm. And yet, as I said above, the vagina does NOT stretch to fit all men. Sex with my ex hurt me because I didn't stretch to accommodate him. He could only have sex with me in certain positions that weren't too deep, we couldn't relax about it, he couldn't go all the way in without hurting me. The idea that bigger is always better is a fallacy.
Original post by Anonymous
I'm somewhat embarrassed of my fascination with big bottoms. Honestly, even the prettiest girl without one would only be good for blowjobs and facials. I can't have sexual intercourse with a woman unless her posterior is up to my standards.


Most guys like a big bum. :dontknow:
It's nothing to be ashamed of.
Reply 186
Original post by Anonymous
In porn, the girls mostly have huge boobs, flat toned stomachs, pert bums....makes me feel like less than beautiful when I think of myself compared to them. I feel ashamed of the cellulite I have, stretch marks...etc. I don't like my boyfriend to see me properly in full light naked, because I know that I am a disappointment compared to the women that men look at online.

Do other girls feel like this?


AAwwww don't be ridiculous ....... like another poster says, guys could feel inferior to the guys in porn too as most of us don't look like the porn actors.
Reply 187
Original post by Anonymous
Believe me, sex would NOT feel better if he was 7-8 inches long. I take it you are male? I've had sex with average sized men and one man who was larger. Not huge, just the large end of the average range, maybe 7 inches max. Average feels good. Sex with the larger guy HURT. Most positions were out, didn't matter how aroused I was. There was nothing good about him being bigger for me, only discomfort.


Mmm. And yet, as I said above, the vagina does NOT stretch to fit all men. Sex with my ex hurt me because I didn't stretch to accommodate him. He could only have sex with me in certain positions that weren't too deep, we couldn't relax about it, he couldn't go all the way in without hurting me. The idea that bigger is always better is a fallacy.


Are you really a woman? I suspect that a guy wrote this.

Anyway, most women are size-queens and they do believe that bigger is better; it equals better sex. Especially young women. They have been influenced by porn, tv-shows like Sex and The City, magazines and the society in general.
It's one of the many reasons why there is so much more pressure on men when it comes to sex and sexual performance. Women have absolutely no pressure on them to perform, because let's face it; it's not that hard to lie on your back, spread your legs and rotate your hips a little bit once in a while.
Most women have reduced sex to nothing but penis size and stamina/performance, so the pressure is on men, not women.
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Original post by Tebtan
Are you really a woman? I suspect that a guy wrote this.

Anyway, most women are size-queens and they do believe that bigger is better; it equals better sex. Especially young women. They have been influenced by porn, tv-shows like Sex and The City, magazines and the society in general.
It's one of the many reasons why there is so much more pressure on men when it comes to sex and sexual performance. Women have absolutely no pressure on them to perform, because let's face it; it's not hard hard to lie on your back, spread your legs and rotate your hips a little bit once in a while.
Most women have reduced sex to nothing but penis size and stamina/performance, so the pressure is on men, not women.



i agree with all of this, and have known it for years. I also came to all these conclusions about women through the course of my own life. It definately is harder being male.
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Original post by Tebtan
Are you really a woman? I suspect that a guy wrote this.

Anyway, most women are size-queens and they do believe that bigger is better; it equals better sex. Especially young women. They have been influenced by porn, tv-shows like Sex and The City, magazines and the society in general.
It's one of the many reasons why there is so much more pressure on men when it comes to sex and sexual performance. Women have absolutely no pressure on them to perform, because let's face it; it's not hard hard to lie on your back, spread your legs and rotate your hips a little bit once in a while.
Most women have reduced sex to nothing but penis size and stamina/performance, so the pressure is on men, not women.


Yes, I'm really a woman, though I'd rather post anonymously on this thread. I'm female, English graduate, late 20's, had a few partners over the years. Does that help?

Personally I wonder if a lot of girls - note, I said GIRLS, not women - think that bigger is better because that is what we are conditioned to think by society. Just like young people now grow up thinking body hair is disgusting because shaving has become the norm. I suspect most girls who say bigger is better haven't actually encounted a big one. Apparently prostitutes dread guys with big dicks though.
I don't watch non amateur porn these days. Too much bs and fakery. You click on their heavily airbrushed picture and then are incredibly disappointed to find out that she isn't beautiful at all, but just a skinny whore with massive fake tits on a tiny frame with a level of make up that would make POD self destruct.
I don't want my gf to look like this, nor do I want to have sex like they do, guys hammering away like they're they were built in a Skynet factory.
Girls in porn arent even that hot, massive boobs and fake tans dont appeal to everyone y'aknow!
Why DO guys watch it if then generally don't find the girls in porn attractive?
My boyfriend tried to explain that its about imagining you're doing the things in the video, which I get. What I don't get is when guys masturbate over pictures of girls. What do you get out of a picture? :/ I'm just curious really.

It does bother me my bf watches porn (although I'd never admit it to him because I know its normal) mainly because I'm scared he expects me to live up to the kinky stuff the girls do in porn. I know he watches anal dildo porn for example...and there's just no way I could do that. It makes me feel like I can't fulfill his fantasies. We tried anal a couple of times and as much as I wanted to please him, the pain was unbearable and I just couldn't. So it hurts a little that he still watches something that he knows to put me in excruciating pain.
it makes me feel better about myself, because my bf always says i should be a porn star :L
Original post by HumanNature1992
Girls in porn arent even that hot, massive boobs and fake tans dont appeal to everyone y'aknow!


Thank God the girl in your sig has clothes on, she'd look hideous without. :puke:
Original post by Anonymous
Thank God the girl in your sig has clothes on, she'd look hideous without. :puke:


Someone's jealous...
Reply 196
I don't like porn.

All I see is just piles of flesh and bones interacting with each other.

The type of person someone is, is what really matters.
Original post by queenorivers
Ok you're just as bad as people who say porn stars are hot and no one else is. Make yourself feel good by bringing other women down, way to go.


Agreed.

She/he is real classy and brave posting as anonymous...:rolleyes:
just so you know girls- fake boobs are Not attractive
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Original post by queenorivers
This is more curiosity than asking for myself, I'd never go down the surgical route o.O.

What about those teardrop implants which give a more natural 'sag' (well i say sag but it's more of a... hang?)


never come across them tbh, but they sound alot better then the football implants, still though, natural all the way:biggrin:

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