Brother gone off the rails - what to do?

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My younger brother is essentially the typical teenage "chav". He's 14, comes home drunk (e.g. he did about 10 minutes ago), acts extremely contemptuously towards my mother and family, doesn't have any remorse or care for anyone he hurts in the process of his actions, and has just completely destroyed his life educationally and socially.

I really have no idea what to do or how to help my mother in this situation - it's clearly horrible for her because she doesn't have any idea why he chooses to act this way: he's never had problems at home, was doing okay in school, but for some reason has chosen to pursue a completely different lifestyle choice. I don't even think this can be blamed on "peer pressure" or anything of the sort, because it's clearly a choice he has made himself.

I'm just wondering whether anyone else has had problems like this with a younger brother, or even another family member, and what on earth one can do to fix this situation?

Serious replies would be appreciated, thank you very much.

TL;DR - brother has chosen to act like a complete and utter moron, rejecting family, getting drunk, committing crimes, and I really don't know what I'm supposed to do in reaction.

It's usually a phase that a lot of teens go through. Maybe you should sit him down and explain what effect it's having on you and your family. If that doesn't work and he doesn't grow out of it in a few years, maybe a psychiatrist is the best option ie seeing your doctor for advice really. There's unfortunately no way of helping someone else without simply just speaking to him! I hope this helps

maybe he'll grow out of it?

he's probably just fell in with a bad crowd, maybe you could encourage him to join a club or something that will enable him to be around cool people (actual cool people...not 'cool' people..if that makes sense).

Tough situation and I wish I could help more, but i don't know. sorry.

Just wondering, what about a father figure in his life? Is there anyone that he can talk to/relate to if there is something causing these actions?

Education wise, I'd suggest getting your mother to speak to his form tutor or if he's 14, he's not too old to be grounded/

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Sounds like my brother. He's a total prick, and nothing seems to be able to get him out of it. I can't stand him, he is constantly rude to everyone in my family. He's especially horrible to me, and there is no possible reason for it. I only hope he will grow out of it, but he's been this way for 5 years.
I just try to ignore him, I know thats not much help though.

Boredom. That stuff is exciting, I did it when I was his age, and I grew out of it by the time I was 17 (Im 20 now and still drink, but Ive become more compassionate)

Dont tell him off, its logical to do that, but hes not at a logical age. Be friendly to him and never tell him what to do.
I would almost advise you to buy him alcohol so that you could limit what/when he drinks. By becoming his friend, you should be able to steer him clear of serious crime or drugs. That will give him time for his brain to develop and for him to
become a young adult.

on a serious note, knock some sense into him ( dont hit him lol) and show him some dominance so he backs down, he is probably in an enviroment where there is no dominant figure (yes you may have a father, but im taking about a dominant figure) so he is trying to compensate by becoming stereotypically dominant and doing what men stereotypically do.

i guess you'll have to talk to him. If you wait for him to grow out of it, it may become habitual and he'll remain a chav forever....

Let him continue to ruin his life and then enjoy the schadenfreude for the next sixty years / until he dies.

maybe just a phase, my little bro was picked up by the coppers for coke possesion, i griped him when he came home, resulted in him attacking me with a kitchen knife, now he is a sapper of the most glorious corp of corps and an all round good egg.

Don't give up on him, apply pressure in its verios forms, set a good scratch thsat AWSOME example and hopefully he will turn out to be a worthwhile and productive member of society.

iu appoligise for my drunken rewspone

This type of thing seems like it would only have an adverse effect - it seems like one would just be playing into his hands, to be blunt. The whole point seems to gain a reaction.