What time is right to tell him i'm abstinent?

Honey, I want to stay abstinant until marraige, but my word.....One day I wan't to 'rock the caz-bar', as it were!

You need to socialise with like minded people, else I can just imagine you getting very hurt within the common dating scene. Also, you should have been straight with him from the beginning... I'm not saying wear a sandwich board around your neck, but at least give hints/signs to suggest your position and views.

Have you joined a focus group or something for your religion? Societies??

Good luck

What about.. creative ways of pleasuring each other rather than traditional sexual activities? (a)

i'd like to socialise with like-minded people but it isn't exactly what u casually bring up in conversation :P

You should tell him now, it's not fair to keep existing significant illnesses or mental instability secret from a prospective partner.
This would include extreme and weird religious views like this which could have a major impact on a relationship.

Well, then get out there and find them, girl!

Can I ask? If you don't mind.... What belief do you follow?

I'm sure there are others around...

ugh, this is going to be hard why do relationships have to hinge on sex!

I'm a Pentecostal christian, yes there are others around but most of the ones i know don't believe in abstinence till marriage

can i just make it clear that i meant i won't have sex until i'm married, not that i won't have sex ever! can't imagine that

I'm a Pentecostal christian, yes there are others around but most of the ones i know don't believe in abstinence till marriage

Oh I see Well sweetie, that seems to be the way things are going these days, doesn't it? It gets up my goat when people claim to be christian and go against one of the most important asks of God.... Even if I wasn't Roman Catholic, I think I would want to try and keep sex until my wedding night simply for the purity and intimacy of it. Why should we share such a private and special act of love and conection with anyone we like the look of? There's too much lust around...

Are you going to univerisity soon? Maybe that might bring you closer to those of like mind....

Oh, perhaps there is a british society?? Why not have a Google My brothers a computer nerd, for example, and he meets up with like minded people on a monthly or so bases. Using that example; They present themselves to others in fairs and conferences etc... You never know what may be out there!

I'm 17, soon to turn 18 but i just recently started dating this smooth-talking, hot 20 year old guy, he's my first date ever and he's really flirty and has already tried to make a move on me even though we've only been on 2 dates. The only problem is that i'm abstinent- i don't do sex, ever. I was just wondering what time would be appropriate to let him know. I know it might be a turn off but i don't want to get too deep into it before letting him know that there's no chance of us ever having sex.

Ignore everyone on here, not all relationships are based on sex and not all guys are after just that. I think you should bring it up soon, just say that you've always wanted to wait til after you're married to have sex. He might respect your decision. If he walks away then it's his loss.
Don't ever do anything you feel like you're not ready to do (especially not so soon into the start of a relationship) and don't not tell him just because you're scared of losing him. I hope things works out for you .

Ignore everyone on here, not all relationships are based on sex and not all guys are after just that. I think you should bring it up soon, just say that you've always wanted to wait til after you're married to have sex. He might respect your decision. If he walks away then it's his loss.
Don't ever do anything you feel like you're not ready to do (especially not so soon into the start of a relationship) and don't not tell him just because you're scared of losing him. I hope things works out for you .

It's not really. I'm sure the OP has many very nice qualities, but there are many, many other girls with all those qualities who would be interested in having a full adult relationship with him. He doesn't need to settle for anything less (I'm assuming he's not asexual/deeply religious).

Side note: Why is it always "their loss" whenever someone rejects a potential partner? If they wanted what the other person had to offer, they wouldn't be rejecting them...