The Revamped TSR Asperger's Society!

Jesus. Took 5 months for diagnosis? What is this? I just got referred to a "mental health psychologist" but I can't wait for 5 months for a diagnosis. I need to know I have it now so I can get the support I need. Do these people not realise how big of an imposition that is?

Do people on here mention their asperger's, as a disability, on application forms?

Do people on here mention their asperger's, as a disability, on application forms?

No. Most people don't understand what Aspergers is and in all fairness declaring your Aspergers on an application form will most likely hinder your chances despite the fact you're probably twice as smart as everyone else applying.

I applied to GCHQ's graduate scheme and I mentioned I had Aspergers but despite getting a 1st in mathematics with my graduate studies in theoretical physics they still refused my application. When they phoned me to discuss my application they didn't even mention my qualifications, only that I had Aspergers and to explain how that could limit me in the work place.

Limit me? Pffft quite the opposite in fact. Point being don't declare it, there is no need...

No. Most people don't understand what Aspergers is and in all fairness declaring your Aspergers on an application form will most likely hinder your chances despite the fact you're probably twice as smart as everyone else applying.

I applied to GCHQ's graduate scheme and I mentioned I had Aspergers but despite getting a 1st in mathematics with my graduate studies in theoretical physics they still refused my application. When they phoned me to discuss my application they didn't even mention my qualifications, only that I had Aspergers and to explain how that could limit me in the work place.

Limit me? Pffft quite the opposite in fact. Point being don't declare it, there is no need...

Is there anyone here who was diagnosed as a teenager or adult? Anyone who sought out diagnosis personally rather than had it suggested by parents/family/other people?

Fed up having no friends. I'm not a weird person at all. My classmates just can't be bothered. I'm actually shocked at how selfish they are.

For example, we went to a university open day and I walked around the whole university by myself and not one of them even said do you want to walk with us. Maybe thats a bit selfish but still. I text a few people and I have even told some people about my condition and the reply I get is "oh rite". They just don't care about me. Everyone I talk to about my failings at making friendships just makes up a pile of crap like "be positive" or " you only have six months". I feel like saying to my councillor "that is an excuse because you can't be bothered".They don't care and can't be bothered with me at all.

I try my hardest but its just so hard. (Even the rare time that I do get a conversation people get bored of me)People have their friend groups long ago in upper sixth and they are closed up. It really hurts when I see people partying or talking about parties and then I don't get invited. I am a teenager I am just like them! I don't understand what I did to ever be in this position.

It really hurts and It takes me to 2am everynight to get to sleep because I sit up thinking about it. I even tried writing a status about how nobody ever bothers with me and that I feel like crap and nobody said anything. I don't know how people can be so cold!

I even spoke to my head of year and she did nothing. I want friends I want to feel loved and I want to be confident, I don't want to be aloner all my life. I just feel like a complete loser right now and I hate this awful pathetic condition- its an invisible posion!

99% of people I speak to do not understand but for me Mathematics, physics and cosmology are my friends. I think about them all day, I dream about them, I spend hours a day learning about it. It's the best friend I could ever hope for. It gives me much more joy than any person could.

I feel pretty much the same, except for me its my computer I feel close to, or technology in general. Speak for myself since I never use my mobile phone apart from important texts and calls not small talk from family or anything like that. Now and again my computer will start to stop functioning properly but I have the knowhow to maintain these things. I am hoping to go into artificial intelligence or neural networks so that involves computers.

But my condition gets in the way of my work, even though I have no friends to talk to, well I don't consider university staff friends, but more to the point I don't have the ability to concentrate and many obstacles get in my way like the flu, noisy halls especially during the night, and overall depressed state i'm in when I go to lectures/sessions. There is only a couple of units that involve the need to communicate in groups and unfortunately I only come to have known one person in all of my sessions and he's not really someone to relate to, could say the opposite to the position I am in.

I know it's very frustrating for people like yourself who want friends. People are not cold, they just don't understand you and people are 'scared' of what they don't understand. Let's say you're sitting in a room with people and they mention a day out somewhere, just pipe up and say "yeh, that would be awesome" that immediately invites yourself to the event. Let them see that you are just like them, once they realise you're fun to be around they will invite you next time around.

If that don't work then you may just have to accept this is what your life will be. I do not claim to be a psychologist by any standards lol but I am 24 years old now and have not had a single friend since I was about 12 and I could not be happier.

It may seem daunting at first but from my experience it worked wonders. Rather than finding a person to be your friend, try to explore other chanels. 99% of people I speak to do not understand but for me Mathematics, physics and cosmology are my friends. I think about them all day, I dream about them, I spend hours a day learning about it. It's the best friend I could ever hope for. It gives me much more joy than any person could.

At the end of the day I am incapable of feeling what you're feeling at the moment, my only advice is that having real life friends isn't the only route. Don't be bogged down because people are too narrow minded to give you a chance.

I don't know I think my classmates find me weird or odd because I don't really talk. I'm not really sure what they think of me but thats what I think they think. It really is hard and to be honest I don't think any of them are the least bit interested at all, there were a few who I tried with i.e. texted and they just ignored my text messages it's been a week since then and they have not bothered so clearly they do not care which is just sad. I don't understand why no one is interested in me. I recognise that people did try with me in the past but I was about 5 years younger than now and didn't realise, I wouldn't have been able to cope anyway. Sometimes people say hello to me but I don't really get the point of that, I think some of them think that they will become friends with me through that but for me saying Hello is pointless, if you want to become my friend you talk to me and invite me down the street or something - saying hello is kind of a waste of time because thats not the way I work (with the condition) - and i'm not being arrogant I just can't develop a friendship from saying hello. I sit in the library most lunches and I find it incredibly boring, many of my classmates come in and do a duty and they see me sitting on my own and never come over to talk. It concerns me that not one person seems to care that i'm on my own all the time. I mean seriously why do they not care? I'm not boring at all. I just can't understand the cold attitude. I think perhaps they find me too closed.

Another thing related to this that annoys me is when teachers ask people to pick others to answer questions in class. My teachers are obsessed with this and I nearly always end up being last, it is really uncomfortable for me. I think one of the teachers sees that I have no friends and is trying to forge relationships but really she's just making me very anxious and uncomfortable. I'm too embarrassed to say anything as she is the kind of person who will get the classmates to pick me which will draw negative attention to me.

I speak to a teacher in my school and shes always telling me to send out a positive vibe but honestly its a waste of time they just don't give a ****.

Honestly though I really really need to get a few friends because i'm not like this and I hate it. I can't cope with it and I sit up to 2am at night thinking about it, I want to feel like people are interested in me. I don't know how i'm going to cope for the next year without losing it. I can't cope with being lonely anymore and i'm fed up of being damn positive because nothing every happens!

Did you read my other posts?

You have to remember that people are nervous too, ever since I can remember people, especially students have been cautious to approach 'ousiders' because they fear this will give them the profile of an outsider too. Most students don't know how to ask if someone is ok and therefor tend to ignore them.

People are drawn to certain types of people and unfortunately our kind are far outweighed by others. Have you tried joining a society? Rather than wait for people to approach you, why not approach them?

Go to a lecture and just sit a seat away from someone, then part way though the lecture lean over and ask him a question about the lecture, even if you know the answer. After doing this a few times you'll be able to walk into a lecture and say hi to someone and sit with them.

Sometimes the best way to make contacts or friends is to force yourself onto them in such a way that they have no option but to talk to you or get to know you.

I highly doubt it is the case where you sit next to someone and they totally ignore you and move away from you, unless you're doing something you're unaware of like coughing over them, you stink or you go on and on and on about something. I think it's more the case that you expect to say hello, how are you and then boom you've made a friend.

Next time the lecturer says find someone to work with, just look to your left or right and say "me and you?" and I bet my life he will say yes, and the reason is because he will be too embarrassed to say no, and it's rude.

He will only say no if you possess any of the negative charactarists I mentioned obove, or unless he has a regular partner.

Thankfully another student did say to me 'Do you want to sit over here'. Of course I moved over. I just thought to myself at that moment 'Really? Is this the way you are going to treat me? Do you not feel awful for doing that to me?'.