This is just what i totally agree with.
it's like my brake up wasnt bad, and yeah i will admit it crushed me because of how much i loved him and how close we was etc.. but i've found this space has helped me move on.
It just sucks that we just dont talk loads or we just dont hear from each other in a month and at the moment i think because we've both gone back to uni after a holiday that we have no time for each other :/
The whole thing i get confused on is that, alot of people say you should
Never be friends with an ex,
talk to them or
see them again, and that you have to
block and
cut everything.
but i think thats their choose, because like you said everyones circumstance are different
so yeah i agree on why people say 'ex is ex for a reason' because their have their reasons to never see or talk to them again.
but i think if the two people's brake up wasnt bad and that they shared moments and closeness together, that they shouldnt just completely cut that person out their life to move on and that i dont see many problems on being friends.
even though yes, you'd probs never be as close as you once was or see them ever week, but theres still that door open to stay friends and in contact.. also I agree, space and no contact for a month or so will help move on.
i know alot of people would disagree with me and call me stupid for wanting to stay friends with him..
but i find that because he was my first boyfriend, that i shared alot of good memories with him that i wouldnt just want to leave them behind and not ever have that person in my life anymore with no actually reason to cut them out.
its all confusing as they whole 'ex' reputation is that you have to drop them out you life and never see/talk ever again.
and i do find some of it silly :/