Awful first year experience and horrible flatmates!

I'd like to just start by saying I am (or was before uni) an out going, confident and sociable person. I had a lovely group of friends at home and honestly had no issues at all. I worked my arse off to get into uni and I was so excited to start! When I started uni it was great, flatmates were a laugh, people on my course were brilliant and people in the other flats were all lovely. Unfortunately my flat has become so bitchy! Everyone was really close then one of the girls in my flat became a nightmare to live with. I started to see how horrible the rest of my flat could be, they would steal her food, spit in it and just generally be rude and leave her out. I'm really not cool with how they treated her no matter how much of a bitch she was. Eventually I spoke to her and explained why I was upset with her, we sorted it out so I persuaded everyone else to do the same. They all spoke to her one weekend I had gone home and when I got back it was weird. I had been blamed for everything and they had said I'd done everything they had! So now it's awful and to make it worse 5 of them are on my course! I'm so pissed off that I'm now the outcast because they couldn't grow up and admit what they had done or at least not blame me! It's now gotten to the point where I avoid the kitchen and eat at my boyfriend's when I know their all there. When I have been in the kitchen at the same time as them it has either been super awkward or they have started bitching about me so I can hear or actually make comments. My food has started to go missing and I often come back from food shopping to find that I've been left no room in the fridge. The other day one of them even moved my milk and yoghurts out of the fridge to make room on MY SHELF for their crap. Milk and yoghurt went off... They have also started coming back drunk and kicking my door in the early hours of the morning. I'd be fine if I knew it wasn't just to be mean, I get that students are loud. I'm so depressed in my flat and to make things worse, because most have a happy flat it's difficult to fit in with different groups now! I'm lonely and my confidence is shattered, I feel physically sick being in my flat and it is starting to show in my work. I spoke to my tutor who's only advice was 'You really don't have long, just get through it' and it is too late so I guess she's right. I also don't want to make it all worse. Having my boyfriend around and the fact that I need a degree are the only things keeping me going. I'm a totally different person to how I was when I started. Sorry this is sooooooo long! I just don't know what to do! Has anyone else experienced this? Sorry again for the length x

This is the problem. My confidence has literally gone to ****, I use to find it so easy to make friends or even keep up a decent friendship, now I feel so conscious and low that it's not happening. I don't want to tell my friends at home because they've always got amazing uni stories and if I'm honest I'm almost ashamed! My boyfriend is at the uni and for me to live with him he would have to change his accommodation! - Although I am pretty much always at his now but that almost makes it worse when I am at my flat, it makes me more nervous going back. I can't tell my parents because as soon as I mention that I'm a little unhappy I get the 'don't go and get worked up, you're at uni now blah blah', the uni have actually been pretty useless. Worried about my exams too as I'm all over the place! Erugh, it makes me regret coming to uni!

I know how you feel I guess my flatmates aren't half as bad as yours, but the girls in my flat are so boring and bitchy, and the guys are just plain weird. Sometimes I force myself to go out, just so I don't have to face them. I feel quite lonely sometimes at my flat, but thankfully the hall across me are awesome and I'll be living with some of my coursemates next year I hope you didn't plan to move in with them next year!

I can sympathise with you. As of right now its like passive aggressive World War 3 with my next door neighbours. They blast music at all hours of the night, specifically during revision periods. They have massive parties where they invite strippers. Its just insane. I've complained till I'm blue in the face. I've been physically threatened and had massive shouting matches in public with them. They literally see me walking to uni and pick on me for complaining about their loud music at 3-4am. I know all the lyrics to their favourite songs, it is that bad.

Complain about them, and perhaps suggest a flat discussion. Where all of them and you and voice your opinion on the matter at hand. So then you can have the opportunity to express how this is bothering you.

This is University, you'd think that high school drama would be left behind, its actually worse here. Because people can unitedly boycott you, when you haven't even done anything directly wrong to them. Just because their friend doesn't like you or something. I'm moving out in June into a shared house, I cannot wait.

Luckily I'm not living with them next year! Forgot to mention that bit! I had agreed to live with 4 of them, I came back the same weekend they all turned and was told that the girl they hated only days before was taking my place and that'd i'd have to find an alternative! Blessing in disguise really but hurt none the less.

Seriously, they spat in her food? ****ing disgusting!

I know you don't want to make things worse, but don't take **** in the process, don't let people bring you down, steal and generally treat you like ****.

Man up. You fight fire with fire.

Edit: Are these bitches hot? I love the sort of girls that are slags but are ***** as well. Makes ditching them an easy decision.

Nah, all pretty rank...

That sound awful pain in the arse right? Sadly a flat discussion would probably cause me to fall apart. Being in a room with them causes them to be nasty so confronting the situation would seriously put me in the firing line. Not one would ever admit they lied, why would they? I'm just going to have to cope, just worried about my exams! I'm struggling because of them! You're right, it is worse at uni. It's like people revert back to being 5 year olds!