My Girlfriend of nearly 3 years just cheated on me. should i forgive?

She claims she was forced into all of this and whenever she refused he would threaten to tell me.

Then she decides to talk to a former friend of mine about our relationship. Then it ended up in nude photos.

Forgiveness is just setting yourself up for heartbreak - trust me, I've been there.

I was with my ex for 7 years. After 3 of which, she was sending dirty texts to a guy she'd met online. I forgave her, but made certain she deleted his number and removed him from MSN messenger (that's how long ago this was... xD) - I got all the sob stories of "not trusting her" for the remaining 4 years, despite the fact that she'd PROVEN that she wasn't trustworthy. Anyway, long story short, throughout the sixth year of our relationship, she decided to form a FWB relationship with an ex-colleague of hers - telling me that she was "spending time with her mother", "girls nights out w/ work" - anything she could think of that I wouldn't be interested in joining her on. It was only after she'd been on a fourth date with him that I found out what was going on, and kicked her into touch. She told me that he was "just a friend" and that my trust issues were obvious. Two weeks later she was in a relationship with him, go figure.

TL : DR;
Cheats are cheats. Forget her and move on. The only person blackmailing here is her: she's blackmailing you into staying in a relationship with the threat of suicide.

Forgiveness is just setting yourself up for heartbreak - trust me, I've been there.

I was with my ex for 7 years. After 3 of which, she was sending dirty texts to a guy she'd met online. I forgave her, but made certain she deleted his number and removed him from MSN messenger (that's how long ago this was... xD) - I got all the sob stories of "not trusting her" for the remaining 4 years, despite the fact that she'd PROVEN that she wasn't trustworthy. Anyway, long story short, throughout the sixth year of our relationship, she decided to form a FWB relationship with an ex-colleague of hers - telling me that she was "spending time with her mother", "girls nights out w/ work" - anything she could think of that I wouldn't be interested in joining her on. It was only after she'd been on a fourth date with him that I found out what was going on, and kicked her into touch. She told me that he was "just a friend" and that my trust issues were obvious. Two weeks later she was in a relationship with him, go figure.

TL : DR;
Cheats are cheats. Forget her and move on. The only person blackmailing here is her: she's blackmailing you into staying in a relationship with the threat of suicide.

Okay so I've been with my girlfriend for about 2 years and half and shes always been the kindest and most loyal person to me. She slightly suffers from depression and she can be easily influenced at times. Her confidence over the last couple of months has dropped so low that she nearly failed her exams. Just before the summer i had an argument about her talking to this one guy she met at college I told her to quit speaking to him and so she did but she was really upset that i didnt have any tryst for her. She then had one of my former friends of college for some help and she told me last night that he threatened to tell me that she florted with him unless she posts naked pictures of herself. This guy knew all too well we were in a relatiobship. She told me lastnight she was blackmailed into all of this and was scared to tell me. My heart sank and its the first time shes ever done such a thing to me since i met her 2 and a half years ago.

My question is should i forgive her or tell her to start packing and what should i do to the guy?

thanks

I forgave her for flirting with this other guy. Then she still think i dont have trust for her. Then she decides to talk to a former friend of mine about our relationship. Then it ended up in nude photos.

All the excuses she giving me is bull****. I love her a lot but i dont want a future like this.

I dont have a clue what to do with the guy as it wont change much

Is there any way i can take legal action against this guy. Shes already dumped.

Okay so I've been with my girlfriend for about 2 years and half and shes always been the kindest and most loyal person to me. She slightly suffers from depression and she can be easily influenced at times. Her confidence over the last couple of months has dropped so low that she nearly failed her exams. Just before the summer i had an argument about her talking to this one guy she met at college I told her to quit speaking to him and so she did but she was really upset that i didnt have any tryst for her. She then had one of my former friends of college for some help and she told me last night that he threatened to tell me that she florted with him unless she posts naked pictures of herself. This guy knew all too well we were in a relatiobship. She told me lastnight she was blackmailed into all of this and was scared to tell me. My heart sank and its the first time shes ever done such a thing to me since i met her 2 and a half years ago.

My question is should i forgive her or tell her to start packing and what should i do to the guy?

thanks

1. You're an idiot.

You had an argument with her for talking to some guy? That's exactly the sort of behaviour which leads people to cheat.

2. Stop playing the victim
This is entirely a situation of your own making.

"It's the first time she ever done such a thing to me"
She's done nothing to you. She has been blackmailed and you're the one playing the victim and asking us whether you should give her forgiveness? Get over yourself.

The only reason the blackmail worked is because she knows what you get like over these things. IF she felt like she could say no, and that the guy would lie but you would believe HER over him, then it wouldn't have happened in the first place.

So basically, she's probably better off without you.