21, female, pretty - single for over a year, cannot get a boyfriend

Bricking it mate.
But we have Henderson to save us

So I don’t know what to do anymore. I don’t even know what sort of advice I’m looking for but I’m totally lost as to what I’m doing wrong really. Bit of background, I broke up with my last and only boyfriend in March 2013, .. fast forward 2 years.. I’ve been single that whole time. I have had a couple guys like me in that way but I haven’t had those feelings for them because there just wasn’t the attraction there. The guys I have liked and wanted to date don’t reciprocate those feelings – ever. I’m told I’m pretty and hot and great body, (I’m blonde green eyed 5,4) .. I do pole fitness so I’m pretty slim too.. I’m always friendly, up for a laugh, optimistic. I’m a good friend, good listener, I do my best to help anyone that needs it. So what the hell is up with me? I’m trying not to get bitter but I really, truly am starting to now. At first it was like, well, it’s nice being single, discovering who I am as a person etc etc and then after a while it just hurts because I’m craving that affection and intimacy and I feel as though it’s really lacking in my life. I tried OKcupid but it just felt artificial and forced and I couldn’t see me getting any real feeling/attraction through that sort of medium and that goes for all those sorts of dating platforms. I mean I’m at uni, I know a wide variety of people, you’d think at least one I’d have clicked with right? :/

What could it be?

I merely asked because I can think of several reasons why nobody wants a relationship at 21.

What do you mean by this?

8th minute torn groin muscle is coming

I'm assuming you're at university?

I asked because I didn't fully understand the sentence.

I'm in my 2nd year of college atm

People don't want to be tied down at 21 especially when they'll finish university/college and want the freedom to move on with no ties.

its a bit like trying to start a holiday romance the day before you fly back home.

Well that depends on what you are looking for.

Assuming we are talking about serious bf/gf relationships here and not weekend flings then yes you are right.

What would be so wrong with starting a relationship a year before leaving uni knowing it could end soon? As long as you both know what your getting into then I don't see the problem.

I'm currently in a relationship (semi-serious) and we both know it is likely to fall apart when we both to uni even if we try to keep it going. We talk about it openly and have no big issues with the matter yet...

You do pole dancing – guys probably think you're too slutty.

Pole dancing is actually quite physically demanding (if they are good). So probably has good body

I loveee absolutely love pole dancing! !!!!

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Pole dancing is actually quite physically demanding (if they are good). So probably has good body

So I don’t know what to do anymore. I don’t even know what sort of advice I’m looking for but I’m totally lost as to what I’m doing wrong really. Bit of background, I broke up with my last and only boyfriend in March 2013, .. fast forward 2 years.. I’ve been single that whole time. I have had a couple guys like me in that way but I haven’t had those feelings for them because there just wasn’t the attraction there. The guys I have liked and wanted to date don’t reciprocate those feelings – ever. I’m told I’m pretty and hot and great body, (I’m blonde green eyed 5,4) .. I do pole fitness so I’m pretty slim too.. I’m always friendly, up for a laugh, optimistic. I’m a good friend, good listener, I do my best to help anyone that needs it. So what the hell is up with me? I’m trying not to get bitter but I really, truly am starting to now. At first it was like, well, it’s nice being single, discovering who I am as a person etc etc and then after a while it just hurts because I’m craving that affection and intimacy and I feel as though it’s really lacking in my life. I tried OKcupid but it just felt artificial and forced and I couldn’t see me getting any real feeling/attraction through that sort of medium and that goes for all those sorts of dating platforms. I mean I’m at uni, I know a wide variety of people, you’d think at least one I’d have clicked with right? :/

What could it be?

inb4 lots of desperate guys showering you with compliments in the hope of getting some.

Good for you, I'm glad to hear that

Shows you're different and courageous; not afraid of rejection and willing to put yourself out there.
It means you understand what it's like for unconfident guys who are expected to do this on a regular basis.

Girls so regularly try to be so closed off, playing hard to get and seldom revealing how they feel.
So many potential relationships never happen simply because a girl is too afraid to show how she feels and a guy is too unsure to ask her out?